I'm on a diet and my boyfriend is not!!!

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

You only need to be strict in calorie counting by weighing and logging your foods, not in the foods that you eat. Weight loss is all about calorie deficit. Just like many said, eat what your guy eats, just less of it and add a large salad... And log log log!

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

My boyfriend is in charge of dinner most of the time because I work a few hours later than he does. Unfortunately he is a bit lazy and loves delivery/take-out! I've had to work with him in either: (1) not ordering me anything and I will fend for myself when I get home (and hopefully after he's already eaten whatever unhealthy food he ordered so it isn't around for me to eat); or (2) eating what he orders, but less of it.

Take pizza for example. He's not going to eat the whole thing on his own, and I love pizza so I want to eat it too. I'm not going to deprive myself because in the past that has always been a sure-fire way of failure for me. So, I eat the pizza. But I eat less of it. A few months ago I could easily put away 3 large slices of pizza without really thinking about it. However, since I've started eating healthier and logging, first I check to see if either the restaurant posts the calories per slice or if I can find something comparable in the MFP database. Once I figure out an estimate of the calories in a slice and how many calories I have left for the day, I'll determine how much I can eat. Normally by dinnertime my calorie allowance is still enough to easily allow me to eat 1-2 slices (depending on the size and toppings of course) plus a salad or veggies on the side. This way, I haven't deprived myself and I've stayed within my calorie goal for the day.

I'd really recommend not depriving yourself of foods like pizza if you really like them. Perhaps just start with a goal of eating a smaller portion - maybe eventually you'll never want pizza again (though I highly doubt that LOL). A lot of the progress I've made can really be attributed to small changes in my diet, primarily through eating smaller portions of the food I've always eaten. Pretty much every time I've failed at weight loss can be traced back to setting way too high of goals for myself (such as saying I'll never have pizza again) instead of smaller lifestyle changes (such as eating less pizza).

coreyreichle wrote: »

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

The biggest healthy habit you can get down is to learn to eat anything, just in moderation, as long as it fits your caloric goals, and hopefully macros.

Yessss.

You've got a few options;

- Cook and eat your own yummy, healthy, filling meals so when he comes home, you're satisfied already and less likely to be tempted.
- Have a couple of slices, or a little bit of what he eats, and fill the plate with other not so calorie dense foods on the side. Work it into your calorie/macro goal on here for the day.
- Have a talk with him and discuss healthy options that you can both eat, him just in larger portions, and agree a day off every week/fortnight... where you both treat yourself and have something you wouldn't normally.

This last option would be dependant on how much you want to lose mostly. If you have a fair bit you want to lose and are on a 1-1.5lb a week deficit, you'll probably be good with once a week. If you have less to lose, maybe 0.5lb a week, there's less room for error and it might have to be less frequently. He also might not want to join in, and that's ok, it's your lifestyle and not his.

I get having different goals, for the past 5-6 months I've been trying to lean out or maintain and my partner is forever bulking. We've always eaten at different times because of shift work so that makes it easier to just have different foods. There are times though when he'll order 2 pizzas on "two for tuesday" and I just stick to what I have. Sometimes it's hard, but you get used to it after a while especially when you're so focused on your own goals.

gracepostie wrote: »

nordlead2005 wrote: »

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

Thank you!!!! I always thought in order to loose weight you had to be strict on yourself and suffer. Hahaha

Not at all!

I think that's one of the great things about MFP, you have a calorie/macro goal and as long as you stick to around that, it's all good. You can pretty much eat anything, just not loads.

Obviously nutrient dense foods are best as the majority of your intake, for health and performance reasons but there's no reason to suffer to lose weight. It can be a very flexible process.

my boyfriend showed up from work last night with fast food in hand. a burger and onion rings for both of us. NO way am i going to say no to that. So what do i do? Work it off! My boyfriend is quite slim and can eat what he wants, when he wants. So I try to consume fewer calories during the day when we are away from each other. That way I don't feel worried about having a slice, eating potatoes, or even having a greasy burger later! I also try to get a pretty good workout before dinner as well! Really helps.

natalielosew wrote: »

My boyfriend is quite slim and can eat what he wants, when he wants.

No he can't. He is not a special snowflake. He may be taller than you and have more lean body mass which means he needs more calories.

As other have said, all of us can have pizza, you just have to fit it into your the amount of calories you need to lose, maintain, or gain weight.

gracepostie wrote: »

So my boyfriend is a little skinny Minnie. Eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and is a stick!! So it's so hard to not eat the stuff he eats and to stick with my diet!! I have all my meals planned. But he'll come home with pizza. While I eat my veggies. How do i not just eat the pizza too?!?! Does anyone else have their significant other not on a diet? Tempting them? What do you do to resist?

Send the pizza to me and I'll inspect it for caloric content, then let you know if it's ok to eat.

I make no guarantees if the pizza makes it back to you.