I'm on a diet and my boyfriend is not!!!

You've got a few options;

- Cook and eat your own yummy, healthy, filling meals so when he comes home, you're satisfied already and less likely to be tempted.
- Have a couple of slices, or a little bit of what he eats, and fill the plate with other not so calorie dense foods on the side. Work it into your calorie/macro goal on here for the day.
- Have a talk with him and discuss healthy options that you can both eat, him just in larger portions, and agree a day off every week/fortnight... where you both treat yourself and have something you wouldn't normally.

This last option would be dependant on how much you want to lose mostly. If you have a fair bit you want to lose and are on a 1-1.5lb a week deficit, you'll probably be good with once a week. If you have less to lose, maybe 0.5lb a week, there's less room for error and it might have to be less frequently. He also might not want to join in, and that's ok, it's your lifestyle and not his.

I get having different goals, for the past 5-6 months I've been trying to lean out or maintain and my partner is forever bulking. We've always eaten at different times because of shift work so that makes it easier to just have different foods. There are times though when he'll order 2 pizzas on "two for tuesday" and I just stick to what I have. Sometimes it's hard, but you get used to it after a while especially when you're so focused on your own goals.

gracepostie wrote: »

nordlead2005 wrote: »

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

Thank you!!!! I always thought in order to loose weight you had to be strict on yourself and suffer. Hahaha

Not at all!

I think that's one of the great things about MFP, you have a calorie/macro goal and as long as you stick to around that, it's all good. You can pretty much eat anything, just not loads.

Obviously nutrient dense foods are best as the majority of your intake, for health and performance reasons but there's no reason to suffer to lose weight. It can be a very flexible process.

my boyfriend showed up from work last night with fast food in hand. a burger and onion rings for both of us. NO way am i going to say no to that. So what do i do? Work it off! My boyfriend is quite slim and can eat what he wants, when he wants. So I try to consume fewer calories during the day when we are away from each other. That way I don't feel worried about having a slice, eating potatoes, or even having a greasy burger later! I also try to get a pretty good workout before dinner as well! Really helps.

natalielosew wrote: »

My boyfriend is quite slim and can eat what he wants, when he wants.

No he can't. He is not a special snowflake. He may be taller than you and have more lean body mass which means he needs more calories.

As other have said, all of us can have pizza, you just have to fit it into your the amount of calories you need to lose, maintain, or gain weight.

gracepostie wrote: »

So my boyfriend is a little skinny Minnie. Eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and is a stick!! So it's so hard to not eat the stuff he eats and to stick with my diet!! I have all my meals planned. But he'll come home with pizza. While I eat my veggies. How do i not just eat the pizza too?!?! Does anyone else have their significant other not on a diet? Tempting them? What do you do to resist?

Send the pizza to me and I'll inspect it for caloric content, then let you know if it's ok to eat.

I make no guarantees if the pizza makes it back to you.

My boyfriend is obese. I would like to see him lose weight, but that's really up to him. I just do the best I can for myself, because only I am responsible for me.

We have different tastes in food so I cook my own stuff, he cooks his. We also both have food allergies to different things so if he has eggs, I can't, and if I have nuts, he can't, which makes it easier to cook and eat separately.

Of_Monsters_and_Meat wrote: »

Just break up.

This is the only way.

gracepostie wrote: »

nordlead2005 wrote: »

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

Thank you!!!! I always thought in order to loose weight you had to be strict on yourself and suffer. Hahaha

Nope. It's all about portion control. Log your pizza, and watch your calorie count for the day. (Eating lots of salad vegetables helps fill the stomach)

My husband is not on a diet either, unfortunately. I got over not being able to eat stuff he brings home, long ago. I do the cooking, and remind him that we have food in the house, and that curbs him somewhat.

gracepostie wrote: »

So my boyfriend is a little skinny Minnie. Eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and is a stick!! So it's so hard to not eat the stuff he eats and to stick with my diet!! I have all my meals planned. But he'll come home with pizza. While I eat my veggies. How do i not just eat the pizza too?!?! Does anyone else have their significant other not on a diet? Tempting them? What do you do to resist?

Unless there is a really big difference in height, he is either far more active than you are, or he is not eating anywhere close as much as you think he is, if you manage to count everything he eats. So:
solution 1) Increase your physical activity, this will give you more calories to eat
solution 2) Limit your calorie consumption for the rest of the day, when you know you are eating together later, so you can both enjoy whatever you are used to eating
solution 3) Eat a small amount (like 1 slice of pizza) and add a salad to your meal
solution 4) Talk to him, and explain how you do not feel ready to resist temptation, so he should discuss with you before bringing treats at home so you can plan ahead, or he should try to eat such things when he is not home (e.g. lunch at work)

...and now I want pizza

flatlndr wrote: »

gracepostie wrote: »

nordlead2005 wrote: »

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

Thank you!!!! I always thought in order to loose weight you had to be strict on yourself and suffer. Hahaha

Nope. It's all about portion control. Log your pizza, and watch your calorie count for the day. (Eating lots of salad vegetables helps fill the stomach)

Related story ... my wife likes to cook. She didn't want to change what/how she cooks. I said "fine ... cook what/how you want, just note or let me note everything you put into the dishes, then I can figure out the appropriate portions sizes that fit into my meal plans".

Then, everyone was happy ... she got to cook/eat what she wanted, I got to eat her (very good) cooking, in appropriate portion sizes. Over time, she did tweak things per some of my requests/suggestions to help me balance my macros better, but in reality she didn't have to make any drastic changes to accommodate me.

I'm sure you can work out something similar with your BF's pizzas and other selections.

My husband is trying to gain weight.

I make a regular dinner for my family. I just eat less of it and more salad. I just try to prelog and make sure everything fits into my calorie goal.

I also try to eat lighter during the day so that I can eat a regular dinner with my family. It is easier to prepare my own lunch than to prepare more than one dinner!

melonaulait wrote: »

Well, imagine my boyfriend who is doing a bulk for his bodybuilding at the moment... And has been bulking for some time now, too. He's one of those types who's always been super skinny and has had trouble keeping weight on. BUT lucky me, I'm a vegetarian and he isn't. He loves ALL meat dishes and I can't eat a single one because they're not veggie. Perfect!

I do sometimes have trouble with the chocolate bars and bags of chips that he tends to buy, though...

zoeybleepbloop wrote: »

Whatever we eat, I portion mine out, and I put it on top of a big huge pile of plain salad greens. Typically this works for nearly anything. Don't even need dressing. Stew, spaghetti, I'll even cut up a single slice of pizza and put it on a big huge pile of salad greens. It's like filler that adds volume and fiber and I don't feel like I'm being slighted with my teeny tiny portion because my plate still looks huge and takes a long time to eat. I just keep one of those boxes of salad greens around 24/7 for this. May not work for everyone, but maybe someone will find that useful!

This is great advice! I have actually done this and it works great. Works with broccoli, too!

Glad it helps! I think the key for me is that when you cover the salad greens with your desired food, you can't really see the greens, and in my head I just think "I got hella lotta food. Yesss." When I put the salad on the side, I think "I have a tiny pile of food and this stupid salad."

It's all jedi mind tricks for me.