What do YOU do when you fall off of your routine and gained weight back?
Jeanine_Colavecchi
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What do YOU do when you fall off of your routine and gained weight back? You see the scale and are just in this deep dark place feeling so disappointed in yourself.
That is where I am at right now and was hoping to get some support or things any of you have done to get your mind out of that horrible place of defeat. I lost 50lbs about 6 years ago and have kept it off until 3 months ago, it just piled back on. I am always the encouraging friend who is everyone's motivator and inspiration for losing weight, so now I'm just sort of stuck. Embarrassed and emotionally eat at times is not helping. I did join the gym and paid for 2 years up front to get me going, but still hard.
I have PCOS and some digestive issues like gluten/dairy intolerance so that makes it difficult but just needing a small 5lb "win" to get me back at it ya know?
Any suggestions?
That is where I am at right now and was hoping to get some support or things any of you have done to get your mind out of that horrible place of defeat. I lost 50lbs about 6 years ago and have kept it off until 3 months ago, it just piled back on. I am always the encouraging friend who is everyone's motivator and inspiration for losing weight, so now I'm just sort of stuck. Embarrassed and emotionally eat at times is not helping. I did join the gym and paid for 2 years up front to get me going, but still hard.
I have PCOS and some digestive issues like gluten/dairy intolerance so that makes it difficult but just needing a small 5lb "win" to get me back at it ya know?
Any suggestions?
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Jeanine, I could have written much of this post. After losing 50 pounds and keeping it off, I've put 20 of those pounds back on over the past 6-8 months. I'm disappointed in myself, because I know but I don't do. I'm re-dedicating myself to this effort to lose weight, and to tracking and exercise.
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First tell yourself you can do it!!! And write a letter to yourself like you would write to a friend encouraging yourself. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves then we are to others. So only say encouraging words to yourself. Then remember how good it felt when you lost the weight and keep pushing. Feel free to add me. I have another 50lbs to go.0
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lessismoreohio wrote: »Jeanine, I could have written much of this post. After losing 50 pounds and keeping it off, I've put 20 of those pounds back on over the past 6-8 months. I'm disappointed in myself, because I know but I don't do. I'm re-dedicating myself to this effort to lose weight, and to tracking and exercise.
Good luck to you.
You are right, its back to the basics I guess of tracking and working out. I think sometimes because its so disappointing, I overthink it and stress out. Stress =emotional eating lol
I was someone who logged everyday for 5 years, and would only fall off for a few days at the most.
Thank you for the support! We both got this!
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ckhardeman wrote: »First tell yourself you can do it!!! And write a letter to yourself like you would write to a friend encouraging yourself. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves then we are to others. So only say encouraging words to yourself. Then remember how good it felt when you lost the weight and keep pushing. Feel free to add me. I have another 50lbs to go.
You are so right when you say that we are harder on ourselves. Especially when I am the one who is always the motivator of other ya know? It's like I'm finally putting down my ego and raising my flag...and saying help! haha
Writing a letter of encouragement to myself is a good idea, thank you for this I'll add you too!
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I totally feel you on this! I previously lost 35, then gained 60+. I peaked at 230 lbs on a 5'3" petite frame! After all that happened, I was diagnosed with insulin resistance and later on, hypothyroidism. The last two years have been a struggle of losing/gaining the same 5-10lbs. I think my hormones are finally at a balance level. This will be my "__th" time trying to get back on track. (Lost track trying to count!)
Every day is a fresh start! Instead of looking for the "5lb" push, how about looking for that half lb shift? Then comes the next half lb, etc. Every small step counts! And there's always non scale "wins!"
Have you tried any classes at your gym? Find something you like and go as often as your schedule allows. You'll start to see the same people and make friends. That will help with accountability and the social atmosphere will help! Do you have a friend to go work out with you otherwise? How about your spouse? Mine has offered to go on the same diet and also push us to go to the gym at least every other day. We both work stressful jobs. It's hard to get the energy some days, but as long as we're moving, that counts for something.
With the dietary restrictions, my current food regimen is loosely based on whole30 (75% "clean"). I can't afford the super expensive stuff, so I do what I can with what we have here in my market. I love to cook so I try to make things as interesting and flavorful as possible with different cuisine influences.
Please feel free to add me!
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Just get back on track and continue. What else is there to do other than wallow in self-pity and continue gaining?0
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Oh you can do this for sure! Maybe given your health situation you need to consider a wider range of weight, say 10-15 lbs, as part of your maintenance band. You may always bobble up and down in that zone & reframing it will eliminate unnecessary guilt and shame.
And for me, I always go 'back to basics' when I think I've wandered off course. Tight tracking. If I've missed workouts I try to figure out why. Maybe I need a new routine. Maybe I need to cut something that isn't working and expand something that is. (I've recently had to abandon 100k steps a week which made me sadsadsad; but with the time change, the holidays, and El Niño weather I have to be reasonable. 75k steps a week is a better goal now. I can bump up later. I'm adding Friday nite Zumba to take their place.) Anyway, don't waste time on the recriminations. Be curious! Ask yourself questions! Be a sleuth. But stay on the case. xoxoL0 -
I totally feel you on this! I previously lost 35, then gained 60+. I peaked at 230 lbs on a 5'3" petite frame! After all that happened, I was diagnosed with insulin resistance and later on, hypothyroidism. The last two years have been a struggle of losing/gaining the same 5-10lbs. I think my hormones are finally at a balance level. This will be my "__th" time trying to get back on track. (Lost track trying to count!)
Every day is a fresh start! Instead of looking for the "5lb" push, how about looking for that half lb shift? Then comes the next half lb, etc. Every small step counts! And there's always non scale "wins!"
Have you tried any classes at your gym? Find something you like and go as often as your schedule allows. You'll start to see the same people and make friends. That will help with accountability and the social atmosphere will help! Do you have a friend to go work out with you otherwise? How about your spouse? Mine has offered to go on the same diet and also push us to go to the gym at least every other day. We both work stressful jobs. It's hard to get the energy some days, but as long as we're moving, that counts for something.
With the dietary restrictions, my current food regimen is loosely based on whole30 (75% "clean"). I can't afford the super expensive stuff, so I do what I can with what we have here in my market. I love to cook so I try to make things as interesting and flavorful as possible with different cuisine influences.
Please feel free to add me!
OMG you are so similar to me! Thank you!
I do have a girlfriend that I helped lose weight last year that has done great and now she is going to the gym with me to help support me back=awesome friend. That helps. My husband is totally supportive and encouraging. I have insulin resistance too and I do grain free/Paleo...pretty similar to the whole30 I think. No dairy/grains/bad sugars/etc. I totally am an big foodie and love cooking healthy versions of "bad" food...thats usually what helps me stay on track. Maybe we can share some recipes? I have a bunch!
Great advice on classes, I was thinking of starting with the yoga one at Xsport . Like I said, I paid for 2 years up front, like $500.00, just to get my butt in gear haha
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »Just get back on track and continue. What else is there to do other than wallow in self-pity and continue gaining?
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For me personally the best thing I can do is figure out why and tackle that. I can keep doing the yo-yo thing over and over if I don't figure out what happened along the way it will never stop.
For me it's stress. I handle stress by eating more because I view food as a comfort. And I still do, but I'm aware of it and focus on not letting it get out of hand.
So short answer (for me anyway) is behavior management. Becoming aware of yourself.0 -
Oh you can do this for sure! Maybe given your health situation you need to consider a wider range of weight, say 10-15 lbs, as part of your maintenance band. You may always bobble up and down in that zone & reframing it will eliminate unnecessary guilt and shame.
And for me, I always go 'back to basics' when I think I've wandered off course. Tight tracking. If I've missed workouts I try to figure out why. Maybe I need a new routine. Maybe I need to cut something that isn't working and expand something that is. (I've recently had to abandon 100k steps a week which made me sadsadsad; but with the time change, the holidays, and El Niño weather I have to be reasonable. 75k steps a week is a better goal now. I can bump up later. I'm adding Friday nite Zumba to take their place.) Anyway, don't waste time on the recriminations. Be curious! Ask yourself questions! Be a sleuth. But stay on the case. xoxoL
Thank you for this! Being more realistic in your goals so you aren't overwhelmed or fall off I think helps.0 -
I lost 100lbs and now I've gained back 40lbs after an injury that I used as an excuse to eat like i did when I was my fattest. Going back at it now because I signed up for a Spartan Beast and if I don't train and get back to where I was, it will destroy me...0
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Start logging your food everyday, no matter what.0
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »Just get back on track and continue. What else is there to do other than wallow in self-pity and continue gaining?
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Hi Jeanine,
I've put back on about 30lb over the past few months. I kept saying to myself, 'oh, it's the holidays' and 'I'll wait until the new semester starts at university', but then I thought to myself - why not now? Nothing's stopping me from starting. I know how good it feels to see the number on the scale going down or fitting into a new clothes size. It's just about hitting the ground running: so start now. Like, this second. Start tracking again if you use MFP. Climb the stairs a few times or go for a walk/jog around the block if you don't want to go to the gym. Just do something, and it'll all fall into place.
Most of all, know that you can do it and you will do it. You've done it before, so why not do it again? Have faith in yourself!!!
Best of luck! x0 -
You have two choices.
Continue as you are, feeling miserable.
Or recommit and take a step back in the right direction.0 -
Escloflowne wrote: »I lost 100lbs and now I've gained back 40lbs after an injury that I used as an excuse to eat like i did when I was my fattest. Going back at it now because I signed up for a Spartan Beast and if I don't train and get back to where I was, it will destroy me...
Wow, 100lbs is committment and shows you will never give up! Inspiration, keep it up!0 -
noobletmcnugget wrote: »You have two choices.
Continue as you are, feeling miserable.
Or recommit and take a step back in the right direction.
Like a fork in the road! Good way to look at it, I'm typically a positive person that doesn't sulk in misery. This gain just hit me hard, Thanks for the bluntness 0 -
stranger2310 wrote: »Hi Jeanine,
I've put back on about 30lb over the past few months. I kept saying to myself, 'oh, it's the holidays' and 'I'll wait until the new semester starts at university', but then I thought to myself - why not now? Nothing's stopping me from starting. I know how good it feels to see the number on the scale going down or fitting into a new clothes size. It's just about hitting the ground running: so start now. Like, this second. Start tracking again if you use MFP. Climb the stairs a few times or go for a walk/jog around the block if you don't want to go to the gym. Just do something, and it'll all fall into place.
Most of all, know that you can do it and you will do it. You've done it before, so why not do it again? Have faith in yourself!!!
Best of luck! x
Right before you said this, I logged and even updated my gained weight...which is hard when you see "50lbs lost". Thank you!0 -
For me personally the best thing I can do is figure out why and tackle that. I can keep doing the yo-yo thing over and over if I don't figure out what happened along the way it will never stop.
For me it's stress. I handle stress by eating more because I view food as a comfort. And I still do, but I'm aware of it and focus on not letting it get out of hand.
So short answer (for me anyway) is behavior management. Becoming aware of yourself.
First, LOVE your profile pic haha!
Stress is what gets me too. You stress about stress! haha For me, I am just in a spot where its out of hand and I haven't been this way in like 8 years so its just weird. I've always gotten on track. I think support on here helps, which is why I posted something. Just takes a few kind words to pick up someone when they are down I think.
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Hi! Just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone,I feel your pain. I lost 30 lbs 3 years ago and started putting weight back on this past year. I made myself get on the scale yesterday and was horrified to see I have gained back almost 40 lbs. I was wallowing in self pity, then realized I needed to work at it again; tracking EVERYTHING I eat, drinking water, and working out regularly. We can do it!l 0
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Dust myself off & just get right back on it the following day simple0
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I remind myself that every bite, every calorie counts, and just because I've overeaten doesn't mean I can say "what the heck" and continue overeating and not have it count. I try to figure out what the next step is to move in the direction I want to go, because every step counts - I make sure I have my next meal planned, I commit to myself to start logging immediately. I ask myself to make a commitment to stick to a calorie goal for just the next day. When I'm feeling hopeless, breaking it down to bite size - one day - really helps me. Sticking to my calorie goal for one day is something I can do, right, no matter how hopeless or down I feel about falling off the wagon. And then as I have success with those goals, I challenge myself to take the next step... and the next... and the next... until I'm running.0
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Hi! Just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone,I feel your pain. I lost 30 lbs 3 years ago and started putting weight back on this past year. I made myself get on the scale yesterday and was horrified to see I have gained back almost 40 lbs. I was wallowing in self pity, then realized I needed to work at it again; tracking EVERYTHING I eat, drinking water, and working out regularly. We can do it!l
It helps to know I'm not alone in it. I think we know what we need to do since we did did it before but support really helps!0 -
robingmurphy wrote: »I remind myself that every bite, every calorie counts, and just because I've overeaten doesn't mean I can say "what the heck" and continue overeating and not have it count. I try to figure out what the next step is to move in the direction I want to go, because every step counts - I make sure I have my next meal planned, I commit to myself to start logging immediately. I ask myself to make a commitment to stick to a calorie goal for just the next day. When I'm feeling hopeless, breaking it down to bite size - one day - really helps me. Sticking to my calorie goal for one day is something I can do, right, no matter how hopeless or down I feel about falling off the wagon. And then as I have success with those goals, I challenge myself to take the next step... and the next... and the next... until I'm running.
I like that, baby steps! I really think getting back to logging...good or bad...is what is going to help first. I was an avid logger for like 5 years, back on track starting today!0 -
Start again realizing the only true failure is giving up.0
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rileysowner wrote: »Start again realizing the only true failure is giving up.
Love this, putting on a post-it note on my desk at work!0 -
rileysowner wrote: »Start again realizing the only true failure is giving up.
See! I really did do it! haha
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Jeanine_Colavecchi wrote: »For me personally the best thing I can do is figure out why and tackle that. I can keep doing the yo-yo thing over and over if I don't figure out what happened along the way it will never stop.
For me it's stress. I handle stress by eating more because I view food as a comfort. And I still do, but I'm aware of it and focus on not letting it get out of hand.
So short answer (for me anyway) is behavior management. Becoming aware of yourself.
First, LOVE your profile pic haha!
Stress is what gets me too. You stress about stress! haha For me, I am just in a spot where its out of hand and I haven't been this way in like 8 years so its just weird. I've always gotten on track. I think support on here helps, which is why I posted something. Just takes a few kind words to pick up someone when they are down I think.
Thank you
This was me in July. I'd always been able to dust myself off and start over, but after I gained all my weight back and then some the last time I had a hard time. After 10 months I came back in July and found it so much harder to do. But after a few weeks I got back into the swing of things. You know how and what to do. Just get started, and you know that you'll start losing weight. My take home message from your post was to just keep logging- for forever!
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