I'm getting married in 9 months & no motivation!!

If you have no motivation, then no one can help you. You can get all the inspiration, encouragement, cheering, etc., but if you don't want to do it, it ain't gonna happen. Why do you not feel like taking this on?

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Get yourself a cheap Eliptical - I got my most recent one from craigslist for $50. Then you can work out in the privacy of your own home.

Getting married (or maybe even more accurately the honeymoon cruise) was the best motivation I ever had! I lost 23 lbs in the months before my wedding and left for our destination 2 lbs from my goal weight! I was over the moon, and was so grateful to myself for putting in the effort. The pictures from that trip will be something we look back on for the rest of our lives. I jokingly (not really though) tell my husband we need to plan another cruise or vacation like that for more motivation!

It felt easier to stick to my plans of working out and eating right when I had that to look forward to. Set yourself goals and rewards for reaching those goals. Something you really want! And then earn it! Congrats and good luck!

I'm not a fan of going to the gym either. It just takes so much more effort to get out of the house and go somewhere to work out. I do the vast majority of my workouts in my living room. I put on yoga videos (my favorite site is DoYogaWithMe.com) or I'll do calisthenics. Even just dancing around to one of my favorite albums will get me sweating. Find an activity that you enjoy rather than forcing yourself into something you dread.

If you're not motivated that's ok. There's no law you have to lose weight.

You have to want to do it. It's a matter of interest vs commitment. I suggest giving yourself a small goal and work at it day by day. Maybe it's not about the motivation maybe it's more about feeling pressured/overwhelmed.

lorrpb wrote: »

If you're not motivated that's ok. There's no law you have to lose weight.

This. You're planning a wedding -- congratulations! You deserve to enjoy it, and it's okay if weight loss just doesn't fit into that plan. Your happiness is not size dependent.

At the same time, when you're ready to lose weight and want to (wanting to and being ready are different things that don't always coexist), you don't have to force yourself to do it in ways that don't interest you. As others have said, you do not have to go to the gym or work out in any real way if you don't want to. A lot of us (self included) have lost a lot of weight just walking and maintaining a calorie deficit. I absolutely detest going to the gym. So I log honestly and as accurately as I can, and accept that I don't get to eat as much as active gym goers.

the only motivator I can give you is that those photos of you in that beautiful dress will be hanging in people's homes FOREVER no matter what you look like, so you might as well try your hardest to look your best and KNOW that you look and feel your best that day. It is a big goal but you can do it!!!

Judging by just your face pic (since you have no body pics) I don't see how you could possibly lose 100 lbs...

But set a realistic goal, eat healthy, walk/start running. You need to do resistance training so suck it up and go to a gym (no one cares what you look like or do, we respect you even more if anything) or buy a good weight set.

Are you feeling overwhelmed because you are planning a wedding...and you need to lose weight? Weddings are stressful. I can understand that thinking about one more thing might be hard for you. Keep walking! It's great exercise and any movement is good. Try adding some body weight resistance exercising from home if you feel uncomfortable going to a gym. FitnessBlender is a great way to start. It's free and you can choose beginner to advanced workouts. You can choose the intensity. You can choose how long the workout is from 5 minutes to 90 minutes. At first, it will be hard but eventually, it will be a stress reducer and you might even look forward to it. You can do this!

Congrats on getting married! It's such an exciting time! I'm getting married next year, and am definitely setting goals to lose some weight before my wedding. But I will say this. I think it's important to not let yourself get overly stressed. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, and add to it the overwhelming stress of being unhappy with the way we look, and wanting/needing to lose weight in a set amount of time (which, let's be honest, we've probably tried to lose over the course of our entire life!). A person could go absolutely mad! Try not to overthink it.

That being said, 9 months is plenty of time to lose a good bit of weight. You may not be able to lose 100 lbs in that time span, but you can certainly get close! I think the first step is to come up with a short term goal - maybe 5 pounds by the end of February - that's less than pound a week, and totally doable! If you're not already, concentrate on logging all your food, and take a hard look at what you are putting into your body. Start with little changes, like lessening or eliminating soda or sweets. You'd be amazed at what that little change can do! And just continue to make small changes as you go!


I'm no expert, and I won't even try to pretend to be. But if you'd like a little extra support, and another cheerleader, feel free to friend me!

shiv020910 wrote: »

I've taken up walking and have done quite a lot of walking the last few days and am eating well under my calorie limit.. But I feel like I need to be doing more!!

Don't feel pressured to do more than what you described right away...it's hard to be motivated when you're feeling overwhelmed. Exercise is great, but it's controlling your diet that will yield results.