Do any of you have this problem?

PennStateChick wrote: »

So just to play devil's advocate to the other opinions - she may be TRYING to compliment you. I realize it's not coming across that way, but some people are just really uncomfortable when it comes to talking about weight. If she has struggled with weight issues, it could be difficult for her to be positive about your loss. She doesn't want to ignore your success, but she just doesn't quite know how to express herself.

It's always good to look at things from a different perspective, so thank you for pointing this out. I also believe it has a lot to do with what @mkakids posted.

OP, if it bothers you, I'd say might as well learn now how to address these types of comments directly rather than choosing avoidance. You may hear comments from other people as you lose more weight that make you uncomfortable so no time like the present to learn skills in handling them. Just my $0.02.

Obesity is normalized these days. She's jealous and in denial and projecting it on you. Just ignore her.

Some of that can be cultural. I have known a couple of men who really liked round women- and men- and who think that thin is dangerous. A casual friend of mine who weighs lots more than I ever imagined confided how comforting she found her round self. But when someone who knows that my knees hurt or that I miss wearing my red silk dress or that I am really working at being healthier does or says something that I consider to be sabotaging, I smile and say, quite calmly, "If I stay at this weight I am going to die years earlier," and change the subject. I need to remember that because it's true. I don't give a rat's behind what anyone else thinks about my weight, my hair, my shoes, or my attitude. OK, if EVERYBODY says I smell funny I will take a shower. But so far that's never happened. I try to move away from toxic people. I usually need the exercise anyway.

Fizzgig168 wrote: »

This is going to sound mean and nasty, and I don't mean it to be, but there's no way to say it nicely, so here goes: In my experience, when people say things like this to you when you *know* you're still pounds and pounds away from a weight you feel good about, it's almost always because they resent the hell out of you and are actively or subconsciously trying to sabotage you. It happened to me more times than I can count from many different people in many different circumstances. You've got some options, but they all boil down to either ignore her/tune her out, or confront her/shut her down. I went the confrontational route more often than not, and while sometimes it created serious friction, it always felt worth it to me. Getting healthy is hard enough without people pushing their crap onto you, so my advice is refuse to take it.

This!