Gym - kind of frustrated
KDar1988
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I go to a small gym close to my house early in the a.m. to do weights. I get up at 4am. Woman comes in a 5 usually..no big deal. Lately she has been coming at the same time as me and hogs the squat rack and smith machine plus all the heavy dumbbells. So, I said ok, if you're coming at 4, I'll get up at 3. Guess what...she's on to me and comes earlier too. Therefore, I end up stuck using the machines because I can't use the free weights that I want.
Today she saw me heading to the weight room and was on a slow run behind me to grab her weights to put them on both racks. Feels like high school immaturity all over again.
Today, she brings a friend and she too, takes all the dumbbells. Had them in a pile on a weight bench. She's like a squirrel hoarding nuts. I went over and asked if I could use some and got an ugly look and snarky "ok". I enjoy lifting weights but these women make it hard. I suppose the machines aren't so bad but still. Thinking about getting those Select-tech dumbbells for home so I don't have to deal with the frustration.
What a pain!
Today she saw me heading to the weight room and was on a slow run behind me to grab her weights to put them on both racks. Feels like high school immaturity all over again.
Today, she brings a friend and she too, takes all the dumbbells. Had them in a pile on a weight bench. She's like a squirrel hoarding nuts. I went over and asked if I could use some and got an ugly look and snarky "ok". I enjoy lifting weights but these women make it hard. I suppose the machines aren't so bad but still. Thinking about getting those Select-tech dumbbells for home so I don't have to deal with the frustration.
What a pain!
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Go back to 4am, otherwise tell her that she is going to have to share the equipment and the dumbbells and that you can work in together. If you are not inclined to discuss with her ask a staff member to discuss gym etiquette with her.0
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tiptoethruthetulips wrote: »Go back to 4am, otherwise tell her that she is going to have to share the equipment and the dumbbells and that you can work in together. If you are not inclined to discuss with her ask a staff member to discuss gym etiquette with her.
This. If all else fails complain to gym management.0 -
She sounds like she doesn't have much going on in her life. If she isn't responsive to your requests to share the equipment, complain to management.0
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Ask if you can work in. From the post it appears when you asked to share she said okay. Who cares if it was snarky? If she refuses, talk to the manager.0
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Human beings can be weird. Men can be *kitten* (especially the 'no-such-thing-as-leg-day' bull-necks at my work's gym), but I think there's also a type of woman who sees every other woman outside of her clique as an enemy that must be repelled or destroyed. Go figure.
Personally, I wouldn't be intimidated (though I understand at 4am, you just don't need all this crap!), but then again, I'm the hard-headed kind of person who will go out of my way to irritate a person like that - usually by showing them that their *kitten* is not affecting me going about my business. I also like to wink and smile at them or when they pull some crap, laugh and do something else. That generally, gets them royally pissed off.
And it usually goes one of two ways; they either escalate their juvenile shenanigans or they give up for a bit, though they often like to return to it, in a cycle.
So on reflection (looking at how that's worked out for me over the years); maybe you should change gym or buy some dumbbells!
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I wouldn't be phased by her snarkiness and would continue your approach of just asking to borrow what you need, let her be grumpy about it if she wants. I'm sure she knows she's not being reasonable and that's where the snark comes from.
Keep being all sweetness and light as that often irritates entitled people more. I'd let the gym staff know in case it causes any other issues.0 -
tiptoethruthetulips wrote: »Go back to 4am, otherwise tell her that she is going to have to share the equipment and the dumbbells and that you can work in together. If you are not inclined to discuss with her ask a staff member to discuss gym etiquette with her.
Well clearly this
But I'm a little surprised you haven't said 'Hi' smiled and talked about how you're both going at the same time and how great it is to see other women in the free weights and can you work in together .. blah blah blah
catch more flies with honey0 -
This is a non-staffed type gym. There are owners whom I could contact but there is nobody there. I have tried to be nice to this woman and she won't talk to me. I have said good morning and smiled and she just gives me a glare. I don't know what it is. I'll just continue on and see what happens. I've got a goal and I'm going to reach it one way or another
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More power to you, that's the spirit!
Just had one more thought, maybe she has "bitchy resting face" and her glares and dour demeanour are just the way she looks?0 -
Who started coming first?
Not that it REALLY matters- but people get defensive and protective when they feel like their "safe space" is being encroached upon.
What I would do- because I'm a grade a B... go early at 3 AM- for like a week. And then start come in super later- like back to 4 PM. or push it back to 5 for a week- and start coming at 3.
Sucky way to deal with it b/c it messes with your sleep cycle- but it would get you what you need probably.0 -
Is this really newsworthy?0
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Who started coming first?
Not that it REALLY matters- but people get defensive and protective when they feel like their "safe space" is being encroached upon.
What I would do- because I'm a grade a B... go early at 3 AM- for like a week. And then start come in super later- like back to 4 PM. or push it back to 5 for a week- and start coming at 3.
Sucky way to deal with it b/c it messes with your sleep cycle- but it would get you what you need probably.
Asking to work in/use the equipment is much less of a hassle.0 -
Packerjohn wrote: »Who started coming first?
Not that it REALLY matters- but people get defensive and protective when they feel like their "safe space" is being encroached upon.
What I would do- because I'm a grade a B... go early at 3 AM- for like a week. And then start come in super later- like back to 4 PM. or push it back to 5 for a week- and start coming at 3.
Sucky way to deal with it b/c it messes with your sleep cycle- but it would get you what you need probably.
Asking to work in/use the equipment is much less of a hassle.
it is- but I have no problem effing with people if they are blatantly going out of their way to get in my way or hog equipment.0 -
I go to a small gym close to my house early in the a.m. to do weights. I get up at 4am. Woman comes in a 5 usually..no big deal. Lately she has been coming at the same time as me and hogs the squat rack and smith machine plus all the heavy dumbbells. So, I said ok, if you're coming at 4, I'll get up at 3. Guess what...she's on to me and comes earlier too. Therefore, I end up stuck using the machines because I can't use the free weights that I want.
Today she saw me heading to the weight room and was on a slow run behind me to grab her weights to put them on both racks. Feels like high school immaturity all over again.
Today, she brings a friend and she too, takes all the dumbbells. Had them in a pile on a weight bench. She's like a squirrel hoarding nuts. I went over and asked if I could use some and got an ugly look and snarky "ok". I enjoy lifting weights but these women make it hard. I suppose the machines aren't so bad but still. Thinking about getting those Select-tech dumbbells for home so I don't have to deal with the frustration.
What a pain!
Hoarding equipment has got to be against gym policy. She should be using the weights and then returning them to where they belong, not piling them up in her area. It wouldn't hurt to contact the owners and ask them put a sign up or send an email out to all members reminding them of the policy.
Meanwhile, she was allowing you to use the stuff, so I would continue just asking her to share. Switching your entire workout routine around to accommodate this person doesn't seem fair to you or anybody else.0 -
One Smith machine, squat rack, and only one set of each dumbbell weight? This gym sounds horrible. I think that's the base issue for all of this. I'd switch to a different gym. You'll always find jerks but it helps if you have access to more resources.0
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One Smith machine, squat rack, and only one set of each dumbbell weight? This gym sounds horrible. I think that's the base issue for all of this. I'd switch to a different gym. You'll always find jerks but it helps if you have access to more resources.
She said it's a small town gym. I also live in a small town and belong to the gym. We are lucky to have a gym. There's no way our gym owners could purchase multiples of everything and still make a profit. For me, switching gyms would mean driving 20 miles. That's a completely unreasonable choice in my busy life.0 -
One Smith machine, squat rack, and only one set of each dumbbell weight? This gym sounds horrible. I think that's the base issue for all of this. I'd switch to a different gym. You'll always find jerks but it helps if you have access to more resources.
She said it's a small town gym. I also live in a small town and belong to the gym. We are lucky to have a gym. There's no way our gym owners could purchase multiples of everything and still make a profit. For me, switching gyms would mean driving 20 miles. That's a completely unreasonable choice in my busy life.
I guess I'd just find the path of least resistance then. There are only so many options so pick one that best fits your lifestyle.- Stop exercising
- Change the time you workout again
- Talk to the equipment hog
- Ignore the equipment hog and use the equipment anyway
- Switch to a different gym
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One Smith machine, squat rack, and only one set of each dumbbell weight? This gym sounds horrible. I think that's the base issue for all of this. I'd switch to a different gym. You'll always find jerks but it helps if you have access to more resources.
She said it's a small town gym. I also live in a small town and belong to the gym. We are lucky to have a gym. There's no way our gym owners could purchase multiples of everything and still make a profit. For me, switching gyms would mean driving 20 miles. That's a completely unreasonable choice in my busy life.
I guess I'd just find the path of least resistance then. There are only so many options so pick one that best fits your lifestyle.- Stop exercising
- Change the time you workout again
- Talk to the equipment hog
- Ignore the equipment hog and use the equipment anyway
- Switch to a different gym
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z33BNjRItRo 0 -
Tell her she gets the squat rack or the smith... Our gym doesn't allow you to circuit like that through equipment. I would personally politely talk to her about it an if that doesn't work id probably get management involved. Oh and if switch back to 4 o'clock.0
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Use your adult words first?
You know, before you burn down the world.0 -
What about a home gym buy your equipment it does not have to cost a fortune0
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One Smith machine, squat rack, and only one set of each dumbbell weight? This gym sounds horrible. I think that's the base issue for all of this. I'd switch to a different gym. You'll always find jerks but it helps if you have access to more resources.
She said it's a small town gym. I also live in a small town and belong to the gym. We are lucky to have a gym. There's no way our gym owners could purchase multiples of everything and still make a profit. For me, switching gyms would mean driving 20 miles. That's a completely unreasonable choice in my busy life.
I guess I'd just find the path of least resistance then. There are only so many options so pick one that best fits your lifestyle.- Stop exercising
- Change the time you workout again
- Talk to the equipment hog
- Ignore the equipment hog and use the equipment anyway
- Switch to a different gym
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z33BNjRItRo
Saw that the other day. So funny...
But seriously, have you thought about breaking her legs in the parking lot with a crow bar? :justkiddingmods:
Like someone said, I'd just talk to her...0 -
Thanks everyone - all good suggestions! I actually pay for 2 gym memberships! I go to this small one and when I say small, it is in a town that has 1 stop sign, so yes, I'm lucky to have it. Owners are locals who get the equipment used...they did real good setting it up for us country folks. The other membership is at a place near my work. I do my cardio there and weights closer to my home. I don't do weights at the one near my work because there are a LOT of people there and it's also kind of small. I may say something to the owners. Like today...I used the weights that weren't hogged even though some were lighter than I would use and I wiped them down, put them back on the rack. Thought maybe the girls would get the hint. I might also look at going at a different time. I'll work through it.
Thanks again!0 -
Thanks everyone - all good suggestions! I actually pay for 2 gym memberships! I go to this small one and when I say small, it is in a town that has 1 stop sign, so yes, I'm lucky to have it. Owners are locals who get the equipment used...they did real good setting it up for us country folks. The other membership is at a place near my work. I do my cardio there and weights closer to my home. I don't do weights at the one near my work because there are a LOT of people there and it's also kind of small. I may say something to the owners. Like today...I used the weights that weren't hogged even though some were lighter than I would use and I wiped them down, put them back on the rack. Thought maybe the girls would get the hint. I might also look at going at a different time. I'll work through it.
Thanks again!
A really good way to make sure she gets the hint is to actually tell her the hint. You don't have to be rude.0 -
3dogsrunning wrote: »Thanks everyone - all good suggestions! I actually pay for 2 gym memberships! I go to this small one and when I say small, it is in a town that has 1 stop sign, so yes, I'm lucky to have it. Owners are locals who get the equipment used...they did real good setting it up for us country folks. The other membership is at a place near my work. I do my cardio there and weights closer to my home. I don't do weights at the one near my work because there are a LOT of people there and it's also kind of small. I may say something to the owners. Like today...I used the weights that weren't hogged even though some were lighter than I would use and I wiped them down, put them back on the rack. Thought maybe the girls would get the hint. I might also look at going at a different time. I'll work through it.
Thanks again!
A really good way to make sure she gets the hint is to actually tell her the hint. You don't have to be rude.
Adult conversation. I've heard of this.0 -
I don't get how she could be hogging all at once? If she is in the squat rack use the smith machine and vise versa? You can always ask to work in too!
When someone has my dumbbells I just go a higher weight with lower reps. Really though, there is no need for her to have more than 2 dumbbells at a time. Just politely say "hey which ones are you using, would you mind if I grab the others that you're not using"?
Edit to add.. be aggressive if they are being stuck up about it.0 -
I have worked out in a small gym like that at an office building, but honestly never ran into an equipment hogger. Just found something else to do for a little bit. This woman sounds kind of aggressive for some reason. Good luck trying to get her to be happier.0
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This person clearly has ... issues. Is this gym the only one feasible for you to use?0
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I'd try and set it up so it's stressing her more than me. Just because I can, I'd vary my start time anywhere from three to four-thirty, no day the same. I'd tell myself I'm ignoring the snark and proceed normally. Ask for hogged weights as needed.0
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What's even the problem here? You asked if you could use the weights and she said YES.
The end.0
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