Weight loss comments

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As I have been reading through different threads, I have noticed that some people get really pissed when other people comment on their weight loss and others get pissed when they don't comment.

If you have lost noticeable amounts of weight, which side of this do you fall on? Should people comment or not?
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  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
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    I don't care either way.
  • Zenberry2015
    Zenberry2015 Posts: 10 Member
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    To clarify - I mean people like your coworkers, friends, etc. not people on the forums.
  • FunSizedKJ
    FunSizedKJ Posts: 67 Member
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    For me, it's what the comment is! I've shown people "before" pictures and they say something like, "wow you look great.. I never realized how fat/big/large/etc you were before". To me that's rude. But, I love the comments that are encouraging and from a good place :smiley:
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
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    Still don't care. :)
  • Mycophilia
    Mycophilia Posts: 1,225 Member
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    I don't really care either.
  • patesq
    patesq Posts: 111 Member
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    I waited for that first comment because I wanted to know the loss was visible. I wasn't seeing any loss so it made it seem more real when others could see it. I still (84 lbs of loss out of 112 I hope to lose) really don't see a loss.
  • 100df
    100df Posts: 668 Member
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    I prefer no one to mention it. When someone does say something I try to redirect the conversation as swiftly as possible.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,134 Member
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    I don't like them because it puts me in the center of attention.
  • Triplestep
    Triplestep Posts: 239 Member
    edited February 2016
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    100df wrote: »
    I prefer no one to mention it. When someone does say something I try to redirect the conversation as swiftly as possible.
    Me, too. I can't really put my finger on why, but I dread people mentioning it. It's probably because I feel a lot of shame over how unfit I had become. I'm happy to be losing the weight, but I don't want it to be a topic of discussion at work (or really anywhere.)
  • tracie_minus100
    tracie_minus100 Posts: 465 Member
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    They don't bother me. I'm awkward when I'm complimented though.
  • dutchandkiwi
    dutchandkiwi Posts: 1,389 Member
    edited February 2016
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    It totally depends on who, how and what. I don't mind positive comments much as that is a case of yes I have lost weight thanks and get on in the conversation.
    The people that tell me to stop because I am too skinny (BMI still in overweight) annoy the bejeezus out of me. Specifically if they try to convince my husband that he should stop me. Totally passive aggressive the latter
  • stormyview
    stormyview Posts: 81 Member
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    Triplestep wrote: »
    100df wrote: »
    I prefer no one to mention it. When someone does say something I try to redirect the conversation as swiftly as possible.
    Me, too. I can't really put my finger on why, but I dread people mentioning it. It's probably because I feel a lot of shame over how unfit I had become. I'm happy to be losing the weight, but I don't want it to be a topic of discussion at work (or really anywhere.)

    This is me. I don't like how I let myself go, so I don't want to have it mentioned. Lucky for me, I live in a very reserved area, and the only people who've ever mentioned it are either from a vastly different culture or are very close friends with whom I'd discussed it.
  • blossomingbutterfly
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    I despise when people do because it's always in a huge public setting and it draws so much attention to me and I HATE attention so much. I'm a very private and quiet person. It's awful to me. If I was an outgoing person and an open person, I'd probably not mind at all.
  • tottie_07
    tottie_07 Posts: 105 Member
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    I will happily take the comment as a compliment... and embrace it. And if none is given, that's fine too.
  • PandoraGreen721
    PandoraGreen721 Posts: 450 Member
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    The compliments are nice to hear if given..and I appreciate them..but if none are given/nothing is said it doesn't affect me. I did this for me..anything else is just bonus.
  • upoffthemat
    upoffthemat Posts: 679 Member
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    pandora721 wrote: »
    The compliments are nice to hear if given..and I appreciate them..but if none are given/nothing is said it doesn't affect me. I did this for me..anything else is just bonus.

    I agree with this

    Don't mind the comments one way or the other. Nice to have it noticed, but this is about me and not them. This time around I couldn't care less what anyone else says. I carry my own food, my own water, I pace to get exercise if I want. I don't volunteer that I am losing weight, I don't deny I am.

  • RoseTheWarrior
    RoseTheWarrior Posts: 2,035 Member
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    I appreciate the comments.

    I have noticed that people who are in a good weight range are the ones to mention it and tell me how good I look. Those who have weight problems themselves never say a word, unless it's something like "you make me feel like a loser" (actually had a co-worker say that). My mom never says anything about my weight loss even though I've lost almost 50 lbs - but she is very overweight and eats horribly.
  • MimiOfTheLusciousLawn
    MimiOfTheLusciousLawn Posts: 2,212 Member
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    Back in the day, I hated the attention and comments and they would derail me. Every time. This time around, I was armed and ready - and it seemed like they never came! Finally, 100# down and people began to comment. I thanked them and moved on.

    Weirdly, now 165# down, EVERYONE comments. Worse yet, I've gotten four "omg, I didn't recognize you"s in the past 2 weeks. Comments I can handle, compliments are great, but the inevitable "how much have you lost" really, really plays in my head. I still, obviously, have more to lose (about 60-70#). I abhor the idea of people doing the math and realizing I was over 400#. I feel like lying and saying 65#, but I just blow past the answer with "a lot." How would you answer that?
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,741 Member
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    I've lost well over 100 lb and I fall somewhere in the middle on this. I am not super public about my weight loss, for example I was NEVER that person who posts their workouts, goals, and pounds lost on social media (aside from this site obviously). I don't like it when people say things like "I bet you feel so much better now!" because it implies that I felt terrible before, and that's simply untrue (FOR ME...I know others feel differently based on their own experiences). I also get a little annoyed when people go on about it too much and too often. My neighbor for example, she says things that seem complimentary but go too far to sound a bit condescending to me "Oh my gosh look at your long skinny legs in those jeans, you look fabulous!" I like that sort of comment from my best friends but from my neighbor I barely know, it's obnoxious.

    But...for the most part, I appreciate the comments & compliments. Most of the people I know simply say "You look great!" if anything, and I don't know how I could possibly find offense in that! When I run into people from my past, for example those who knew me in my teens or twenties, they usually do have a very shocked reaction (since I was 60-70 lb heavier even as a teenager) but it's generally positive. I must admit that I really like it when people I have only "seen" online (facebook) see me irl and comment "WHOA I didn't realize how thin you were now!" because in my observation a lot of women my age (30s-40s) share older or ultra flattering pics of themselves online and then don't get that kind of reaction in person. haha (sounds a bit arrogant maybe but I love that honestly)
  • tkphotogirl
    tkphotogirl Posts: 245 Member
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    Back in the day, I hated the attention and comments and they would derail me. Every time. This time around, I was armed and ready - and it seemed like they never came! Finally, 100# down and people began to comment. I thanked them and moved on.

    Weirdly, now 165# down, EVERYONE comments. Worse yet, I've gotten four "omg, I didn't recognize you"s in the past 2 weeks. Comments I can handle, compliments are great, but the inevitable "how much have you lost" really, really plays in my head. I still, obviously, have more to lose (about 60-70#). I abhor the idea of people doing the math and realizing I was over 400#. I feel like lying and saying 65#, but I just blow past the answer with "a lot." How would you answer that?

    "I have no idea, I never used to weigh myself"
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