(VENT) Why do men have to look and lust ALL THE TIME?????

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aml31
aml31 Posts: 57
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No matter how skinny/pretty I get I still feel sometimes like I'm never gonna be good enough to plz him. He is always adding other girls to his friend list on facebook. Their the type of girls that dont wear hardly anything. he only adds them to see hot pics when they post them. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? Are all men like this?
I have also confronted him about this yet he still does it and it really hurts my feelings!!!
He's telling me he doesnt care if i gain or lose he'll always love me and find me attractive yet he's only looking at these size 0 fake boob girls!!!!! :grumble: :cry: :brokenheart:
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  • k2d4p
    k2d4p Posts: 441 Member
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    Your issue isn't with "MEN", your issue is with "YOUR man". My man is great!! Talk to your man. And btw, all men look. All women look. We have eyes.

    I don't mean to be insensitive, but I really get irked by jealousy.
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
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    No matter how skinny/pretty I get I still feel sometimes like I'm never gonna be good enough to plz him. He is always adding other girls to his friend list on facebook. Their the type of girls that dont wear hardly anything. he only adds them to see hot pics when they post them. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? Are all men like this?
    I have also confronted him about this yet he still does it and it really hurts my feelings!!!
    He's telling me he doesnt care if i gain or lose he'll always love me and find me attractive yet he's only looking at these size 0 fake boob girls!!!!! :grumble: :cry: :brokenheart:

    EVery man and woman looks at others. We are all designed to appreciate beauty. but a good man will bounce his eyes and respect his woman. I am sorry he is hurting you like this. It isn't right.
  • dbrashers
    dbrashers Posts: 33 Member
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    Talk to him! Everyone looks, it's just what you do with that feeling of lust that matters (esp when in a relationship). Don't be trying to lose weight b/c he looks at size 0 ladies. Do it for you!
  • kellicarter11
    kellicarter11 Posts: 178 Member
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    MOA that guy is not worth it!! He obviously does not respect you. Sure everyone looks but there is a difference between looking and disrespecting!
  • aml31
    aml31 Posts: 57
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    Ya we all look but he gets pissed at me for doing something like that yet its ok for him?? wth??
  • maryd4love
    maryd4love Posts: 164 Member
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    First of all...is this your boyfriend or your husband? If it is your boyfriend then you really need to think if this is the person that you want to be with. If this is your husband and you have told him how you feel and it doesn't seem to bother him then...there are some serious problems there and counseling may need to take place.
  • nomorefatbitch
    nomorefatbitch Posts: 279
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    You are BEAUTIFUL.
    Don't forget that :)
  • Ashleypeterson37
    Ashleypeterson37 Posts: 347 Member
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    MOA that guy is not worth it!! He obviously does not respect you. Sure everyone looks but there is a difference between looking and disrespecting!

    ^Agree!
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
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    Your issue isn't with "MEN", your issue is with "YOUR man". My man is great!! Talk to your man. And btw, all men look. All women look. We have eyes.

    I don't mean to be insensitive, but I really get irked by jealousy.
    I sense a theme here tonight on the boards, with the other thread 'men are pigs' (not my words!) thread I just left.

    Some come to the boards for the answer to this but I think it truly lies in communication with your own spouse/bf/gf. We can all give our thoughts but that's all they are. The best way to keep a relationship in balance is communicating with them one on one, if a couple doesn't have that? They have nothing then as that's what keeps a relationship running smoothly.
  • TeriTee
    TeriTee Posts: 38
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    Dump him.
  • True_angel4ever
    True_angel4ever Posts: 43
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    I agree with dbrashers......Do this for YOU! If your man cant appreciate you for who you are, then he obviously dont deserve you! I also agree that all men and women look, but there is a fine line when it comes to doing it out of direspect! Hope all works well for you, and good luck on your journey to weight loss! Knock em dead girl!
  • alohabrie
    alohabrie Posts: 204
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    Yeah - my boyfriend says "kick him to the curb" and I agree. You are too good for him and apparently too tolerant. You don't deserve to put up with that. You are enough.
  • alex215
    alex215 Posts: 518 Member
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    seems like a lot of man bashing is going on here recently... i find it comical and at times and it usually just comes off as girls insecurities about their insecure boyfriends/husband
  • Gilbrod
    Gilbrod Posts: 1,216 Member
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    Hmmmm. If you're engaged to this dude, you better think twice. Men don't change if they don't want to change. He doesn't sound like he does want to change. If you let him watch porn, is it any different? Just saying. Good luck. Keep up the awesome work. Do it for you. Not cuz you want him to just look at you and no one else.
  • TriumphNow
    TriumphNow Posts: 526 Member
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    Wow, sounds like you really need to have a good talk with him! What he's doing is hurtful and disrespectful. I agree with the posts above that we all look sometimes because we're human and not blind but he's going to far. Do what's best for you :)
  • nafisapreston
    nafisapreston Posts: 8 Member
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    All men do look, but it depends on the level. My man does it sometimes, but never insultingly. Is he only looking at the girls pics on facebook, or is he talking to them too? If they are total strangers and he doesn't actually communicate with him, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. But, if he's talking with them, that's another story. Also, my man doesn't spend a lot of time on the computer or wherever looking at these girls. He always puts me and the kids first. If your man is checking out those pics and ignoring you then it would definitely be something to talk to him about. Good luck :)
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
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    Your issue isn't with "MEN", your issue is with "YOUR man". My man is great!! Talk to your man. And btw, all men look. All women look. We have eyes.

    I don't mean to be insensitive, but I really get irked by jealousy.

    Agree with that.
  • journey2size10
    journey2size10 Posts: 240
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    ummm...I usually don't chime in on these type of posts but after reading the responses, I felt I needed to!!!

    yes, we have eyes, yes our eyes sometimes wanders..but it is a DISTINCT difference with walking down the street and looking at someone and someone on fb friending people. I am NOT the jealous type, I just don't deal with bull, never have, never will.

    I would have a problem with that too! He needs to STOP doing it and respect your wishes. just my two cents
  • Seajolly
    Seajolly Posts: 1,435 Member
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    Not all men are like this, don't worry. Maybe it's time you re-think being with this guy? You deserve someone who only has eyes for you. :flowerforyou: Everyone does!
  • maryd4love
    maryd4love Posts: 164 Member
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    Do it for you. Not cuz you want him to just look at you and no one else.

    If he isn't looking at "just you" now he isn't going to look at "just you" when you are "whatever" size.

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