MEN!!What do you consider a BOOTY CALL.

LittleBuddy13
LittleBuddy13 Posts: 137 Member
edited September 28 in Chit-Chat
Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too :)
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  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    interesting..cant wait to read guy's responses
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    Booty call and friends with benefits is almost the same thing........................with a friends with benefits you can go out on dates etc and BOTh know there wont be anything serious or any strings attached! For a whole year why not............

    Booty call is just someone along the way you bang for a bit.......weeks usually.....till next booty call comes along
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    what does he say it is?
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too :)

    All joking aside, friends with benefits with the right person is a great relationship if you can stay focused on what's going on. If you're friends that can just have great sex while keeping the emotional attachement out of it, it's pretty good. Had one for about five-months. I had a friend like that. We were good friends prior to that, during, and although we've stopped we're still good friends and there's no awkwardness.
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
    Booty Call-Girl you know that you toss one into at random aka FitFrenchGirl

    FWB-Exactly as stated, someone you are friends with that you like but are not either mentally ready or THAT interested in to take it beyond the physical level aka Becks1030 & Paintmelucky
  • FitFrenchGirl
    FitFrenchGirl Posts: 177
    I really wanna know lol
  • TromaRon
    TromaRon Posts: 228 Member
    Uh, you're in a relationship.
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    Booty call: *Phone rings* Hey come over, lets' hang out (both knowing it means sex).

    Start banging. Finish banging. Ok time to go.

    Friend with benefits" Hey wanna go out? Catch a movie? Stay the night?

    Start banging, finish banging, maybe hang out some more or spend the night for real.

    Difference? You actually hang out and enjoy each other's company, but bang as well. Booty call is just come, get me off, get out.
  • inchik
    inchik Posts: 35 Member
    go with the flow. why ruin a good thing?
  • CommandaPanda
    CommandaPanda Posts: 451 Member
    I think what you want to here is this...

    He may be intimidated by the thought of relationships at the moment (I don't know his past as well as you would) so maybe he doesn't want to jump into anything. However, it's been a year so he certainly enjoys spending time with you; so maybe he is afraid that you don't want to commit yourself to anything and enjoy what you two have going on.

    I think that you should get past the fear of ruining something good and simply confront the issue. Unlike women, us guys are very direct and are terrible at playing "games." Which is why guys are so blatantly upfront all the time about pretty much everything.

    Did I get it right?
  • BigBeaver
    BigBeaver Posts: 858 Member
    What you have here is a relationship with out the commitment of a "relationship". A booty call, friends with benefits if you will, is hooking up on occasion, but not much more then that. You have way more then just sex, it is more of an intimate relationship with hanging out, talking and all that, no long a BC or FWB, in my honest opinion.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this?
    mutually excellent \m/
    all joking aside.......I get the impression at least one of you wants more but is not willing to bring it up or talk it out.....so yeah friends with benefits is what fits the description
  • thumper44
    thumper44 Posts: 1,464 Member
    Your in a relationship.

    If you phoned him, and he told you he was busy and that "Lisa" was coming over tonight.
    How would you feel and would you want to go over to his house the next night to hang out ?

    If you went out with a guy friend and he slept over at your place, and your guy friend knows.
    Would he be mad?
    BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good???

    Perhaps he's waiting for you to get serious.
    Guys will have friends with benefits until you decide that he's a great guy and a keeper.
  • flgirlsteph
    flgirlsteph Posts: 125 Member
    Hummm id like to know as well..
  • TayJoMama
    TayJoMama Posts: 348 Member
    Uh, you're in a relationship.
    I don't think this is a relationship, if it were you'd know. There's no commitment here. I agree with the guys here, Friends with Benefits. It's up to you if you're okay with the status quo or if you want more. Sounds like a good set up for him, but if you want to take it further, he may not want the same thing.
  • wsheaf82
    wsheaf82 Posts: 248 Member
    A booty call, friends with benefits if you will, is hooking up on occasion, but not much more then that. You have way more then just sex, it is more of an intimate relationship with hanging out, talking and all that, no long a BC or FWB, in my honest opinion.

    There is a difference between "booty call" and "fwb".

    I think they are at the fwb terms at the moment. Booty call, they wouldn't be hanging out when they are not having sex. FWB can be a great friend who you spend a lot of time with as friends but occasionally or regularly do the deed with.
  • mishelnkiki
    mishelnkiki Posts: 775 Member
    AHHHH!!! im in the SAME situation right now! it will be a year next month. curious to see more responses.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I say it's either 2 things:

    He's scared of an official committment

    OR

    Obviously, he's into you some but is waiting for something "better" to come along.



    Those would be my 2 guesses!!
  • cecee27
    cecee27 Posts: 46 Member
    OMG! I know someone who has a similar situation, but it's been going on for almost 9 years!
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Booty call: *Phone rings* Hey come over, lets' hang out (both knowing it means sex).

    Start banging. Finish banging. Ok time to go.

    Friend with benefits" Hey wanna go out? Catch a movie? Stay the night?

    Start banging, finish banging, maybe hang out some more or spend the night for real.

    Difference? You actually hang out and enjoy each other's company, but bang as well. Booty call is just come, get me off, get out.
    This...
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Friends with benefits - One or both usually ending up wanting more
    Booty call...

    "Just got home from the bar, wanna come over?"
    "pick me up from the bar, I want you"
    "its been like 2 months, I am free in an hour"
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Friends with benefits - One or both usually ending up wanting more
    Booty call...

    "Just got home from the bar, wanna come over?"
    "pick me up from the bar, I want you"
    "its been like 2 months, I am free in an hour"
  • Oaneer
    Oaneer Posts: 11
    He might have other booty calls on the side and doesnt want to commit.
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
    Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too :)

    Please go watch "He's just not into you" This will pretty much explain it all
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Some build up sex way more than it needs to be...no need to put that on a pedestal
  • DarthCeltic
    DarthCeltic Posts: 1,236 Member
    this is called.. unexclusively exclusive.. so your just hanging out.. just together but not.. is eitha divorcee? cause if so.. maybe a bit of resentment to the whole marriage instituition.. so hanging out.. loving it.. etc
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    I say it's either 2 things:

    He's scared of an official committment

    OR

    Obviously, he's into you some but is waiting for something "better" to come along.



    Those would be my 2 guesses!!

    Not entirely true. It's also a matter of getting something that is seriously lacking in your personal relationship.
    Some build up sex way more than it needs to be...no need to put that on a pedestal

    LOL, 40-year old virgin was on TV last night!
  • sent4rmabove23
    sent4rmabove23 Posts: 148
    I think you should just talk to him and be straight up because obviously, you're starting to catch feelings and if he doesn't feel the same way about you then maybe it would just be a good idea to stop (because of the emotions involved, of course). Things get complicated once you start having feelings for someone, talk to him and check if you guys are on the same page.
  • tuscaroragal
    tuscaroragal Posts: 78 Member
    I like the guys' responses...I would agree, although you didn't ask for women's opinions...LOL....he is definately a friend with benefits. A booty call is nothing more than what all the guys have said...wham, bam, thank you mam...you are actually spending time with him...if you are happy with what you have, keep it going!! Otherwise, if you are curious about more, have the conversation!
  • HeyLisa
    HeyLisa Posts: 201
    My opinion.. is that you are in a kind of relationship just by the time you spend together.

    But it sounds like it is one not going anywhere. Any healthy relationship requires being open with communication. Being true to yourself and being open about who you are and what you want/need.

    I'm not talking about the lovey dovey crap (which can be sweet).. i'm saying if you honestly can't talk to your friend and say "what is this" without fear of him running.. you seriously have nothing worth keeping.
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