Fit shaming?

queenliz99 wrote: »

I think you did marvelous!! Some people are just dumb, a lot of people have difficulty with compliments. Don't listen to them and don't let them get you down.

This. There will always be haters, no matter what you do. "I hope he isn't sick" might secretly mean "I wish I could do that".

You look great!! Keep doing what you do!

You look great! Don't let people's jealous comments get you down. I had a boyfriend who didn't like it when I lost the first ten pounds of the 20 pounds I eventually lost, but most of the response in my life has been overwhelmingly positive.

I think you're just showing off But you're perfectly entitled to, great progress. I get those comments a lot as well, usually from people who are more used to a less than great diet who seem to think how they eat is normal and don't understand why someone else wouldn't want to do what they do. So I'll guess that's where comments like that come from. People don't want to accept that they could improve, so try and make out that someone who has improved has something wrong with them. Anyway, just don't bother paying attention and keep showing off.

I personally don't think you look sick, you look like you're in good shape now! I do know that wearing loose clothes can make you look sick, like maybe you lost a lot of weight all at once, depending on how baggy said clothes are. That could be one reason for the comments. It could also be that people are feeling insecure about their own bodies and trying to make themselves feel better. Not really anything you can do about that, though. About all you can do is keep going as you are and ignore the bitter comments.

First off you look amazing; your progress is seriously impressive! As far as the "you're too skinny" or "you look sick" comments, i've come to the conclusion that it is a lack of knowledge of health and fitness more than anything that generates these comments. People aren't used to seeing visibly "fit" people. Look around your office, the supermarket, probably your family and friends....most people we are surrounded by are overweight (at least in America) so when people do see someone thin or visibly fit they assume it's for a reason other than hard work. You just can't win with some people; in regular clothes I hear i'm too thin and when I'm working out in a sports bra and tights I hear my abs and traps make me look "manly." As long you're happy and working hard to make the body you want I wouldn't even give those comments a thought. We see those gains OP! ha-ha

You look great! Well done for all you've achieved / are achieving. Keep it up and ignore your work mates. I have had issues in the past myself with colleagues. It sucks and can really bring you down. Forget them. In some cases, it is probably jealousy. I know it is in mine!

What others say and/or do is because of their own insecurities - you look like you're in a great shape, not sickly. If you overhear their comments, maybe say something to them about the hard work and dedication you have put into your weight loss journey, that should shut them up

A couple of thoughts, one of which is echoed here already - sour grapes. In addition, approximately 2/3 of US Americans are overweight or obese according to the CDC, which makes overweight "normal" and people have adapted to seeing that. Comparatively speaking you DO look thin. Although they might sing another tune if you took your shirt off at work.

It's really sad that this happens. When confronted with change, people are challenged. They don't know how to process it, except to make it about themselves. They look at what they're eating, how they're exercising, and instead of changing what they're doing, they'd rather say things to make you stop doing what you're doing. Maybe some of your colleagues have genuine concerns, but I'd bet most of them will start a diet and/or fitness program within 1 week of saying those things to you.

What you've done is amazing, and you should be proud. I've gotten loads of hate for losing weight. People are just jealous. That's honestly what it is.

paperpudding wrote: »

Or they may be genuinely concerned - weight loss IS a symptom of many illnesses.

Not deliberate planned weight loss like OP did - but not everyone will know background of that.

This -- sometimes it seems really fast to others, even if it feels like it took a long time and a lot of hard work to us. I noticed that with a few people I only see every few months or so, when I was losing. And I also learned that a co-worker was worried that I might be sick. Since I didn't discuss my weight loss plans with anyone, I didn't find this insulting, but a genuine concern (even though I looked way healthier after the weight loss).

Anyway, OP looks great -- fabulous job -- but I sometimes think people are too quick to jump to conclusions and get offended or perceive jealousy or efforts to shame. Where I am the only reactions have been positive, but that doesn't mean that people don't wonder about quick weight loss (or what seems quick to them), as they don't know the details and lots of people are private about health issues.

People are dumb. Ignore. You look great!

looking good! i never experienced fit-shaming outright, i also never feel i experienced fat shaming. i dont think I'm lucky, i think I'm oblivious.