I feel like I can’t do it anymore….
QueenBee3200
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So I’ve been going to the gym now for quite some time. I was doing well with my diet and was down 33lbs. However since then my diet has started to go back to the way it was and now the pounds are creeping back on. I want to enjoy those yummy foods. It’s hard getting up at 2am to go to the gym. I feel like I’ve slipped and I can’t seem to straighten myself out. It’s starting to depress me. Have any of you felt like that? I feel like I should be seeing some results because I go to the gym and work out hard. However my efforts I believe are been beaten by the food I eat sometimes. I feel like throwing in the towel and giving up. What do you guy do when you get to this point?
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why don't u go to maintenance calories for a while. ? stay within that range until you're ready to get back on the weightloss wagon, do not back peddle and put all that weight back on0
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Well, you have to want the weight loss more than the fleeting taste of food. It does get easier. Once I started staying away from too many sweets and I started limiting my intake of trigger-y foods it became a lot easier.
I just don't buy it, then I can't eat it.
The decision is made in the store. I do allow myself a treat now and then, but not every day. It is more important to me to be healthy than it is to have _ _ _ _ _ _ .0 -
All the gym time in the world won't do much good if you're not eating at a deficit. Step back, start logging EVERYTHING - that means accurately weighing all solid foods, measuring all liquids. Once you have consistently maintained a deficit and see some weight loss, Then add or increase your workouts. BTW, is it really necessary to get up at 2am for the gym? ?0
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I have hit this point before, and for me it required taking a break for a month or so. Not a full on, "eat everything, don't move at all" break. Just eating at maintenance (roughly, I didn't really track, just tried to be reasonable) letting myself off the gym when I didn't feel like it, even if that was all week. I found it mentally refreshing, and something about it being a conscious "break" rather than an "omg I keep missing my calorie goal and why am I so lazy that I overslept for the gym" kept me feeling in control, so that when I came back to it, I was ready to commit again. I think the worst thing you can do is beat yourself up - cut yourself some slack, acknowledge that you're not feeling it right now, and focus on just not undoing the good work you've done so far.0
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Calliope610 wrote: »All the gym time in the world won't do much good if you're not eating at a deficit. Step back, start logging EVERYTHING - that means accurately weighing all solid foods, measuring all liquids. Once you have consistently maintained a deficit and see some weight loss, Then add or increase your workouts. BTW, is it really necessary to get up at 2am for the gym? ?
I agree. You don't even need to work out if you're eating at a deficit (to lose weight). If you're not eating right, you're just wasting time in the gym. This is what's probably causing your frustration. It sounds like you really need to watch your calories and log accurately.
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I eat what I want and make it fit in my calories.
There's no reason you can't have yummy foods AND lose weight. Find lower calorie options for what you want to eat... it's usually just as satisfying (well, except sweet stuff - just have that in moderation).
Most people pick very aggressive goals too... I would have given up at 1200 calories, no doubt about it. Losing one pound or half a pound a week is better than just giving up. So change your goal if it's too aggressive for you.
About the gym at 2am, I wouldn't do it either. You need sleep too. Find other ways to be active during the day, I have a hard time believing that you can't find 30 minutes here and there during the day to get a workout, even if it's just a short walk or body exercises.0 -
I have hit this point before, and for me it required taking a break for a month or so. Not a full on, "eat everything, don't move at all" break. Just eating at maintenance (roughly, I didn't really track, just tried to be reasonable) letting myself off the gym when I didn't feel like it, even if that was all week. I found it mentally refreshing, and something about it being a conscious "break" rather than an "omg I keep missing my calorie goal and why am I so lazy that I overslept for the gym" kept me feeling in control, so that when I came back to it, I was ready to commit again. I think the worst thing you can do is beat yourself up - cut yourself some slack, acknowledge that you're not feeling it right now, and focus on just not undoing the good work you've done so far.
This is so true. Feeling defeated and like you're failing only leads to lack of motivation, negative energy, and the problem getting worse.
When I fall off and it's hard to get back on, I use a little trick that a group of my friends used to do, dubbed "Health! YEA!" It's simple - just one healthy choice a day. If you make one healthy choice that day, then you've won. Chose a side of vegetables instead of mac n cheese? Health! YEA! Didn't snack between lunch and dinner? YEA! Once you've done just one thing and felt positively about it, that positive energy can get you back on the right track.0 -
Try doing YouTube workouts fitness blender, Jessica smith, befit are great channels, you may find working out at home may help0
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You get up at 2 AM to go to the gym? What time do you go to bed? This is me when I'm sleep deprived:
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I remember saying to a friend "I would do anything to lose weight" and she said "Then why dont you?"
It really was an eye opener to realize my actions were not matching up to what my goals were. If you really want something, you really have to put effort into it, and believe in what you are doing. If your actions are not supportive of what you say you want, then nothing is going to make it happen for you. You have to want to lose weight more than you want to have an excess of yummy things in your diet.
Only you can decide what is really important to you.0 -
phoebes887 wrote: »It's totally understandable. We've all been there! I can honestly say, just don't give up. It will be way harder to start back over again so just keep going. I run an online health and fitness support group where we motivate each other, hold ourselves accountable, I post recipes and tips and address emotional eating and treat days. Would you like me to add you into the group? It's a great sense of community!
You are already ON an "online health and fitness support group where we motivate each other, hold ourselves accountable, post recipes and tips and address emotional eating and treat days." It's a great sense of community! Hundreds of thousands of users right here...not sure why you're trying to lure people away to your site?
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Your plan was unsustainable. People who restrict food/calories a lot and exercise very intensely often give up. Make a new plan. Be more moderate. Eat the way you could the rest of your life.
Incorporate foods you like more often. Learn appropriate portion sizes of those foods. Combine smaller portions of higher calorie foods with lower calorie foods. I find pre-logging helps me eat any food I want.
Don't get up at 2 AM to go to the gym. Get more sleep. Exercise at home, walk, do shorter workouts, find a closer gym. Invest in home gym or do workout videos off of You Tube. You do not even have to exercise at all to lose weight- just stick to your calorie goal.
Maintain for awhile while you refocus.0 -
Slowly introduce new thing into your diet and it will be easier to eat healthy. Don't change everything at once or it will be way more challenging. Not impossible, but very difficult.0
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kshama2001 wrote: »You get up at 2 AM to go to the gym? What time do you go to bed? This is me when I'm sleep deprived:
LOL but so much yes.
OP, find something sustainable for you. If you want to give up, it's just not.0 -
Your plan was unsustainable. People who restrict food/calories a lot and exercise very intensely often give up. Make a new plan. Be more moderate. Eat the way you could the rest of your life.
Incorporate foods you like more often. Learn appropriate portion sizes of those foods. Combine smaller portions of higher calorie foods with lower calorie foods. I find pre-logging helps me eat any food I want.
Don't get up at 2 AM to go to the gym. Get more sleep. Exercise at home, walk, do shorter workouts, find a closer gym. Invest in home gym or do workout videos off of You Tube. You do not even have to exercise at all to lose weight- just stick to your calorie goal.
Maintain for awhile while you refocus.
All this..except obviously you will be healthier if you exercise. But yes, it's not NECESSARY to lose weight as long as you have a calorie deficit. I exercise so I can eat more while maintaining a deficit..I don't like to feel hangry.
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Your plan was unsustainable. People who restrict food/calories a lot and exercise very intensely often give up. Make a new plan. Be more moderate. Eat the way you could the rest of your life.
Incorporate foods you like more often. Learn appropriate portion sizes of those foods. Combine smaller portions of higher calorie foods with lower calorie foods. I find pre-logging helps me eat any food I want.
Don't get up at 2 AM to go to the gym. Get more sleep. Exercise at home, walk, do shorter workouts, find a closer gym. Invest in home gym or do workout videos off of You Tube. You do not even have to exercise at all to lose weight- just stick to your calorie goal.
Maintain for awhile while you refocus.
^^Yes a thousand times!
The time is going to pass whether you quit or not. Whether your calories are too restrictive or just a little less. Why go all or nothing? You are always going to need to eat food. Why you think you can "diet" so restrictively for a while and then go back to before without consequences is a little confusing.
Eat the yummy foods, just not everyday. Weight loss and maintenance is a life long event. If you are doing anything that you cannot do for the rest of your life, I don't believe you will be successful or very happy.0 -
I find it's a lot easier to stick with my diet goals if I choose to eat more filling foods, mainly lean proteins and fibrous carbs. The main staples in my diet are whey protein shakes, fish, chicken, turkey, garbanzo beans, white beans, wild rice, apples, oranges, bananas, carrots, celery, onions, peppers, spinach, kale, bok choi, broccoli, and asparagus. I'll often have extra calories left over at the end of the day because I don't really get very many cravings when I'm getting enough fibrous carbs and lean protein.0
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QueenBee3200 wrote: »my efforts I believe are been beaten by the food I eat sometimes. I feel like throwing in the towel and giving up.
By the way, I know exactly how you feel. Don't give up hope, you really can do this, it's true! The most important thing is to track everything you eat as carefully as you can. It is soooo easy to blow away a weeks worth of effort with one big "cheat meal" pizza binge. And you only get 52 weeks in the year! It's so easy to blow away an hour's worth of running with one untracked hamburger or a few untracked alcoholic drinks. Record everything that goes into your mouth, especially fatty foods. Don't forget about the salad dressing, or the oil you used to sautee your veggies, or the butter on your toast. You can do it!0 -
If there is any way to change your routine, do it! I think that you need to change it, you may be in a little bit of a rut.0
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I appreciate everyone's input. I thank you all for your information.
Getting up at 2am is when is best for me to go to the gym. After work, I get home at 430 and honestly I don't feel like going back out after getting home from the office. SO doing it before hand works well. I work out between 3am and 4:10am. Then I get home by 430 and get ready for the day. When I do get home in the afternoon from the office its time to make dinner and get ready for the next day. I did find time to start a new exercise DVD called CIZE. It's fun to do and really gets the heart pumping too. Usually after all that I head upstairs for the evening and usually go to sleep about 7pm.
I really needed to just hear how others deal with that feeling of wanting to give up and give in. Food is the devil and the temptation is so great. I need to find other ways to deal with it. I know I can't be the only one to struggle with it and it helps knowing that there are other people out there like me. That's why i appreciate all of your information.0 -
Calliope610 wrote: »All the gym time in the world won't do much good if you're not eating at a deficit. Step back, start logging EVERYTHING - that means accurately weighing all solid foods, measuring all liquids. Once you have consistently maintained a deficit and see some weight loss, Then add or increase your workouts. BTW, is it really necessary to get up at 2am for the gym? ?
This exactly!0 -
I have hit this point before, and for me it required taking a break for a month or so. Not a full on, "eat everything, don't move at all" break. Just eating at maintenance (roughly, I didn't really track, just tried to be reasonable) letting myself off the gym when I didn't feel like it, even if that was all week. I found it mentally refreshing, and something about it being a conscious "break" rather than an "omg I keep missing my calorie goal and why am I so lazy that I overslept for the gym" kept me feeling in control, so that when I came back to it, I was ready to commit again. I think the worst thing you can do is beat yourself up - cut yourself some slack, acknowledge that you're not feeling it right now, and focus on just not undoing the good work you've done so far.
This. I found taking a break and eating at maintenance for a month, not really worrying about keeping my food diary or doing exercise, helped see me through the mentally rough times until I was ready to re-dedicate to losing weight again. The key is to not go overboard on the eating, just relax and enjoy yourself.0 -
QueenBee3200 wrote: »I appreciate everyone's input. I thank you all for your information.
Getting up at 2am is when is best for me to go to the gym. After work, I get home at 430 and honestly I don't feel like going back out after getting home from the office. SO doing it before hand works well. I work out between 3am and 4:10am. Then I get home by 430 and get ready for the day. When I do get home in the afternoon from the office its time to make dinner and get ready for the next day. I did find time to start a new exercise DVD called CIZE. It's fun to do and really gets the heart pumping too. Usually after all that I head upstairs for the evening and usually go to sleep about 7pm.
I really needed to just hear how others deal with that feeling of wanting to give up and give in. Food is the devil and the temptation is so great. I need to find other ways to deal with it. I know I can't be the only one to struggle with it and it helps knowing that there are other people out there like me. That's why i appreciate all of your information.
But you've already discovered that this isn't a sustainable plan. Are you going to get up at 2am forever? Can you go from the office to the gym? It might be more crowded, but the payoff of more sleep and a more sustainable plan might be worth it. I didn't check your profile, but my husband and kids would be bonkers if I was out of the house at 2am and came home at 430pm totally wiped out and into bed at 7pm...
There are other ways. Think outside of the proverbial box. Even youtube videos at 5am would be better.0 -
What type of exercises do you do at the gym? Why can't you do some ecercises at home? I do stair running at home. It wipes me out every single time. You could jump rope. Or do Fitness Blender videos. Or something that will allow you to have a normal life where you don't go to bed at 7pm.0
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You get up at 2am and do 2 hours in the gym? What do you do in the gym? If you're sticking to the same routine you will get bored. And why do you need 2 hours?
As a mum of 3 kids who is permanently sleep deprived, I have no idea why you'd purposefully deprive yourself of sleep! Surely you could wake up at a reasonable time, like 6am, then workout after work. 4:30 is not that late to finish. You could go to the gym after work, or do a class in the early evening (they tend to be 6:30/7pm here).0 -
This is why i have saturday cheat day lol..0
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I'm really impressed you can be so motivated that you go to the gym at 2am. Your are probably tired and its hard to make good choices and to stay motivated as I would. Since you like your DVD routine so much, cut back on the gym as it sounds like your time poor.
I agree entirely with rnelson88 evolution and not revolution. Make small changes to your existing diet each week. eg Change the size of the fries, soda and move from ice-cream to say yogurt or sorbet. Spread the butter on a bit thinner. Use a vegetable slicer to cut the cheese 1mm think etc Reduce sugar intake so you don't get a sugar spike.
It's particularly important to exercise whilst having calorie restriction as you don't want to lose muscle otherwise your basal metabolic rate will drop. You dont have to spend ages doing exercise you achieve a lot in 10 minute routine.0 -
QueenBee3200 wrote: »I appreciate everyone's input. I thank you all for your information.
Getting up at 2am is when is best for me to go to the gym. After work, I get home at 430 and honestly I don't feel like going back out after getting home from the office. SO doing it before hand works well. I work out between 3am and 4:10am. Then I get home by 430 and get ready for the day. When I do get home in the afternoon from the office its time to make dinner and get ready for the next day. I did find time to start a new exercise DVD called CIZE. It's fun to do and really gets the heart pumping too. Usually after all that I head upstairs for the evening and usually go to sleep about 7pm.
I really needed to just hear how others deal with that feeling of wanting to give up and give in. Food is the devil and the temptation is so great. I need to find other ways to deal with it. I know I can't be the only one to struggle with it and it helps knowing that there are other people out there like me. That's why i appreciate all of your information.
This does not make sense as a plan for someone working the usual morning shift. Which I think you have just found out. Do not focus on short term goals, focus on something that is sustainable. Being up all night is not sustainable unless you work night shifts (or not work at all and have no other obligations either)/
If you have no time for the gym, just stop. Go for a walk after work or walk to work, or go for a walk on your lunch break. Or do not workout at all and schedule some workouts on the weekends.
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I've gone through the same thing... I get tired of keeping this up, I want to eat real food, I want to drink wine... It's all fun and games until your favorite jeans are a little snug again.
Getting enough sleep is vital... I don't know where you are located, but it's spring where I am--a perfect excuse to sleep in a little and get outside after work. Even walking can be a nice change up! As for dinner prep--invest in a crock pot that will do the prep for you while you are at work. Or consider doing meal prep on the weekends when you have more time and popping them in the freezer for a later date.0 -
QueenBee3200 wrote: »Food is the devil and the temptation is so great. I need to find other ways to deal with it. I know I can't be the only one to struggle with it and it helps knowing that there are other people out there like me. That's why i appreciate all of your information.
This is a red flag. Do you really view food this way?
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