Get it out!!!!
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Just curious, are the adult boys trying to eat better/lose weight/etc too?
I dunno.....I'd prob want the boys to move on, start their lives. Cut the daddy-apron strings. Sounds like the new hubby li'l codependent with the boys. I guess if it were me, I'd not eat/drink their stuff but if its too much temptation for you, have them just put one soda at a time in the fridge for that day. Don't make it easy for them, say their own fridge, lol. If you make it easy on them, they may NEVER move out!
As for 2 adult boys living there, I would also require them to each take a night & prepare dinner + cleanup. I would also have them doing daily chores too. Like I said, make it so they have to contribute. (Not saying they aren't...just my own 2-cents here.) But this requirement would have to come from the DAD you don't wish to be the evil stepmom.
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leut_underpants wrote: »branflakes1980 wrote: »I have been dealing with 2 children with the runs, strep throat, ear infections and vomit for a week and 1 day now, and I am now running a fever and feel as if I am swallowing razor blades...
How YOU doin? :bigsmile:
Wanna come over? LOL!0 -
allaboutthecake wrote: »Just curious, are the adult boys trying to eat better/lose weight/etc too?
I dunno.....I'd prob want the boys to move on, start their lives. Cut the daddy-apron strings. Sounds like the new hubby li'l codependent with the boys. I guess if it were me, I'd not eat/drink their stuff but if its too much temptation for you, have them just put one soda at a time in the fridge for that day. Don't make it easy for them, say their own fridge, lol. If you make it easy on them, they may NEVER move out!
As for 2 adult boys living there, I would also require them to each take a night & prepare dinner + cleanup. I would also have them doing daily chores too. Like I said, make it so they have to contribute. (Not saying they aren't...just my own 2-cents here.) But this requirement would have to come from the DAD you don't wish to be the evil stepmom.
Since they're bringing food into the house for everyone, they're obviously contributing & from her description of their Father being attached to them, it'd be the boys that'd have to cut their apron strings; from their Father. So it's the Father that's codependent but she also mentioned that she knew this & obviously accepted this, when she became his wife. Why should they have their own refrigerator, even if they weren't contributing? If unnecessary segregation is wrong publicly, with strangers; why would this be acceptable to do privately with your own family? I just don't understand why people believe that it's okay, to treat their family worse; than they do the public.0 -
allaboutthecake wrote: »Just curious, are the adult boys trying to eat better/lose weight/etc too?
I dunno.....I'd prob want the boys to move on, start their lives. Cut the daddy-apron strings. Sounds like the new hubby li'l codependent with the boys. I guess if it were me, I'd not eat/drink their stuff but if its too much temptation for you, have them just put one soda at a time in the fridge for that day. Don't make it easy for them, say their own fridge, lol. If you make it easy on them, they may NEVER move out!
As for 2 adult boys living there, I would also require them to each take a night & prepare dinner + cleanup. I would also have them doing daily chores too. Like I said, make it so they have to contribute. (Not saying they aren't...just my own 2-cents here.) But this requirement would have to come from the DAD you don't wish to be the evil stepmom.
No the boys don't care about weight they are 6ft and over 300 lbs they can't bend over to tie there shoes. They have to sit to bring there feet up to tie them.it's sad.
They share a large pizza every other day.
I would be the evil step mom if I said anything. I've tried. This is my life, I've become the house maid sense I've become unemployed.no compassion at my house.
But I can do better in my health with eating and exercise. I can set a good example.0 -
TuesdayMarch01st2016 wrote: »allaboutthecake wrote: »...
Since they're bringing food into the house for everyone, they're obviously contributing & from her description of their Father being attached to them, it'd be the boys that'd have to cut their apron strings; from their Father. So it's the Father that's codependent but she also mentioned that she knew this & obviously accepted this, when she became his wife. Why should they have their own refrigerator, even if they weren't contributing? If unnecessary segregation is wrong publicly, with strangers; why would this be acceptable to do privately with your own family? I just don't understand why people believe that it's okay, to treat their family worse; than they do the public.
Asking for help from her family to achieve her health goals isn't a bad thing, If she is having trouble resisting things like Mountain Dew, and a small fridge the sons can keep separate from the main one helps to keep her on track, where is the harm.
OP - great job for recognizing the issues, and remember that indulging in those treats will not help you achieve your goals. Try to come up with a healthier habit. If you are tempted by something in the house that isn't on your plan, pick something else to substitute for it. It doesn't even have to be food. Your sub could be a piece of fruit or a string cheese for protein, or it can be something to distract you, like a quick walk around the block, an adult coloring book, or knitting - anything that will keep your hands busy. I find that if I distract myself for a few minutes, the craving goes away.
You can also set up a reward jar for yourself. Get an empty clear jar, and every time you are able to resist temptation, throw a dollar in there. That can be the money you use to treat yourself for success, or to buy the new clothes you will need to buy as you drop sizes *_* You can use pretty rocks, marbles, anything that represents the temptations you avoided. Seeing the jar fill up will remind you of how much you've accomplished. And if you use the objects instead of cash in the jar, you should still set a reward amount to spend when it's full, & then start all over again. Good luck!0 -
My apologies for the bad punctuation - I didn't proofread it closely enough before hitting the "post reply" button.
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branflakes1980 wrote: »TuesdayMarch01st2016 wrote: »I appreciate your words and understanding. I'm getting pretty bashed here........ Being accused of stealing food from other people and sleeping with my stepson.
We laugh here, we make light of things and it is Friday afternoon, I have been dealing with 2 children with the runs, strep throat, ear infections and vomit for a week and 1 day now, and I am now running a fever and feel as if I am swallowing razor blades
I'm... very sorry about your Plague.0 -
That's awesome thank you for the support0
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TuesdayMarch01st2016 wrote: »allaboutthecake wrote: »...
Since they're bringing food into the house for everyone, they're obviously contributing & from her description of their Father being attached to them, it'd be the boys that'd have to cut their apron strings; from their Father. So it's the Father that's codependent but she also mentioned that she knew this & obviously accepted this, when she became his wife. Why should they have their own refrigerator, even if they weren't contributing? If unnecessary segregation is wrong publicly, with strangers; why would this be acceptable to do privately with your own family? I just don't understand why people believe that it's okay, to treat their family worse; than they do the public.
Asking for help from her family to achieve her health goals isn't a bad thing, If she is having trouble resisting things like Mountain Dew, and a small fridge the sons can keep separate from the main one helps to keep her on track, where is the harm.
OP - great job for recognizing the issues, and remember that indulging in those treats will not help you achieve your goals. Try to come up with a healthier habit. If you are tempted by something in the house that isn't on your plan, pick something else to substitute for it. It doesn't even have to be food. Your sub could be a piece of fruit or a string cheese for protein, or it can be something to distract you, like a quick walk around the block, an adult coloring book, or knitting - anything that will keep your hands busy. I find that if I distract myself for a few minutes, the craving goes away.
You can also set up a reward jar for yourself. Get an empty clear jar, and every time you are able to resist temptation, throw a dollar in there. That can be the money you use to treat yourself for success, or to buy the new clothes you will need to buy as you drop sizes *_* You can use pretty rocks, marbles, anything that represents the temptations you avoided. Seeing the jar fill up will remind you of how much you've accomplished. And if you use the objects instead of cash in the jar, you should still set a reward amount to spend when it's full, & then start all over again. Good luck!
Asking someone to segregate themselves, beyond what's necessary (necessary meaning: parent's & children, have their own bedrooms); is cruel. When you choose to reside with others, you choose to deal with them; in this way as well. Same thing when 1 chooses to go to the grocery store, the grocery store isn't going to relocate something you'd like because you shouldn't have it. If you wouldn't expect this action publicly from strangers, why'd you expect it privately from family?0 -
With ya both the soda and the adult kids in the house
1) going through the cafeene withdrawal right now... Today I only had half a Coca Cola, a week ago I had 3 a day, it's tough but the sugar I was consuming was insane!!!
2) my adult kidlet knows to bring her goodies and drinks to her room, her next "big" purchase is a bar fridge for her room.0 -
allaboutthecake wrote: »Just curious, are the adult boys trying to eat better/lose weight/etc too?
I dunno.....I'd prob want the boys to move on, start their lives. Cut the daddy-apron strings. Sounds like the new hubby li'l codependent with the boys. I guess if it were me, I'd not eat/drink their stuff but if its too much temptation for you, have them just put one soda at a time in the fridge for that day. Don't make it easy for them, say their own fridge, lol. If you make it easy on them, they may NEVER move out!
As for 2 adult boys living there, I would also require them to each take a night & prepare dinner + cleanup. I would also have them doing daily chores too. Like I said, make it so they have to contribute. (Not saying they aren't...just my own 2-cents here.) But this requirement would have to come from the DAD you don't wish to be the evil stepmom.
No the boys don't care about weight they are 6ft and over 300 lbs they can't bend over to tie there shoes. They have to sit to bring there feet up to tie them.it's sad.
They share a large pizza every other day.
I would be the evil step mom if I said anything. I've tried. This is my life, I've become the house maid sense I've become unemployed.no compassion at my house.
But I can do better in my health with eating and exercise. I can set a good example.
Ahhhh I see. Ya it's tough having the tasty stuff around. At least they are contributing. At least on their pizza days you can be off the hook for the cooking
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With ya both the soda and the adult kids in the house
1) going through the cafeene withdrawal right now... Today I only had half a Coca Cola, a week ago I had 3 a day, it's tough but the sugar I was consuming was insane!!!
2) my adult kidlet knows to bring her goodies and drinks to her room, her next "big" purchase is a bar fridge for her room.
How about just learning self control, your child isn't your parent. It isn't their responsibility to ensure that you, aren't tempted to consume something; whether it's theirs or not!0 -
I was raised to not waste food also0
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What would happen if these two 300 pound 6 footers in their 20s who can't bend over to tie their shoes ate their chips and drank their Dew in their own lair, paid for by a minimum wage job? Everyone has to start somewhere and minimum wage jobs are attainable. They could live in a rooming house or rent a second hand trailer together and with some of their friends. Then you and your husband could enjoy a civilized private life together and stay on your diets. Please tell me you didn't sign up for this particular domestic arrangement having known about it ahead of time.
She said, she did!0 -
What would happen if these two 300 pound 6 footers in their 20s who can't bend over to tie their shoes ate their chips and drank their Dew in their own lair, paid for by a minimum wage job? Everyone has to start somewhere and minimum wage jobs are attainable. They could live in a rooming house or rent a second hand trailer together and with some of their friends. Then you and your husband could enjoy a civilized private life together and stay on your diets. Please tell me you didn't sign up for this particular domestic arrangement having known about it ahead of time.
Not when we first dated and moved in together, but I seen they couldn't thrive without each other. And I come to realize that's the way it's always been with them ,and that's the way it's always going to be,nothings going to change it so I just excepted it0 -
Ahhhh I see. Ya it's tough having the tasty stuff around. At least they are contributing. At least on their pizza days you can be off the hook for the cooking
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Yea after doing everything I have to get done during the day it's nice not to have to cook supper at least three times a week0 -
What would happen if these two 300 pound 6 footers in their 20s who can't bend over to tie their shoes ate their chips and drank their Dew in their own lair, paid for by a minimum wage job? Everyone has to start somewhere and minimum wage jobs are attainable. They could live in a rooming house or rent a second hand trailer together and with some of their friends. Then you and your husband could enjoy a civilized private life together and stay on your diets. Please tell me you didn't sign up for this particular domestic arrangement having known about it ahead of time.
The older son 24 has a job at a factory and brings home 1400 a month. He pays 400 on his car and gives his dad hundred dollars for rent. He blows the rest
His younger son 20 sleeps all day and plays online games he says he's going to get a college in the spring. To become some technical computer thing.0 -
I was raised to not waste food also
When I grew up ,it was five people live in a one bedroom house, we never starved but we definitely appreciated what we had, I don't understand why people through out food when it could've been eaten,what a waste
I also think about the hours it took to work to make the money to buy the food.0 -
I was raised to not waste food also
When I grew up ,it was five people live in a one bedroom house, we never starved but we definitely appreciated what we had, I don't understand why people through out food when it could've been eaten,what a waste
I also think about the hours it took to work to make the money to buy the food.
Raised to appreciate what you got
Sometimes you had food sometimes you didn't know where you were getting your next meal
Lol sad upbringing I guess0 -
We waste lots of food. My husband works crazy hours and doesn't like leftovers.
But I think that's just an excuse for the OP really. The kids in the house sound perfectly fine eating all the junk they bring into the house. This is a self control issue, not a debate of the merits of wasting food etc. And both my parents were brought up to eat what is put in front of them and they told us that never would they make us do that because that's what made them fat and having type 2 diabetes.0 -
I help with the grocery shopping. Yesterday the list had Cheetos Puffs, Cheetos Flaming Hot Crunchy, Tostitos, Lays Homemade Biscuit and Gravy flavored Potato Chips, Root Beer, among other things not in my feeding plan. I just eat my planned and balanced meal and manage to not succumb to the slight temptations of that crap.0
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »I help with the grocery shopping. Yesterday the list had Cheetos Puffs, Cheetos Flaming Hot Crunchy, Tostitos, Lays Homemade Biscuit and Gravy flavored Potato Chips, Root Beer, among other things not in my feeding plan. I just eat my planned and balanced meal and manage to not succumb to the slight temptations of that crap.
Biscuit and gravy potato chips?!?!?!??! they sound both delicious and disgusting at the same time0 -
They're actually REALLY good...0
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