What do you say to someone who wants to give up?

Why do you want to give up?

Go to sleep. Wake up tomorrow and realize it is a fresh. New day. Clean. Healthy. Alive. Embrace the new day. Let the failures of the past go. Enjoy the day. So blessed to be alive. My dad just died. So I am trying to be healthier and not give up

How will you feel if you give up? Better?

Maybe reevaluate your expectations. Perhaps you need to change your menu + fitness routine to something you can easily stick with. Personally, I can't live with the idea of always depriving myself. I do exercises that I like and set my calories higher. Losses are much, much slower-but something I can live with.

Don't.

Give up what?
- Eating?
- Moving?
- Eating a very low calorie amount?
- Exercising to excess?
- Not exercising?
- Logging food?
- Weighing yourself?

Instead, I'd ask yourself: "why is this hard, what could I change?"
Perhaps you have set yourself an unrealistic goal for eating or for exercise.
You might like to try recalculating your calorie goal for a smaller loss per week. This isn't a bad thing, if you keep on working towards being healthy, I don't think it really matters how long it takes to lose weight. (Unless of course you have specific medical reasons and guidance).
Or maybe look at the exercise you are doing and consider doing less, or doing more or the same amount of something different.
Or maybe find a different way to log your foods (pre-log the night before) or plan your meals.

I'm nearly 50 and I have lost weight and regained it a number of times. Something that is finally sinking in for me is that I can't just "go on a diet" and be done with weight loss*. Reaching and keeping a healthy weight is something I'm going to have to do for the long term. It doesn't mean I have to suffer, I just have to be realistic.
I've "given up" before too, and found myself right back where I was a few years ago. I hope you can do better than I did!

* I know this, I really do. I've said it to other people "this has to be a lifestyle change", "you have to be in this for the long run" but I haven't taken that on board for myself before. I'm hoping this time I can be kind to myself and stick with good habits.

Quitting is easy - Crossing that finish line is hard. Which outcome do you want to be remembered for?

I say this to my children whenever they feel like they want to give up on something.

I would advise asking yourself questions.
What do you want to quit and why? What do you care about now? Are you fine the way you are? Is your goal reasonable and healthy? Do you need to choose a new goal? Are you being hard on yourself? What would you advise someone you care about to do?
You can change your mind about things. Maybe you are doing some things that are unsustainable right now. It is okay to stop doing those things and do something else. That is not giving up but re-evaluating your goals and how you will get there. Sometimes you need to maintain and refocus before moving on.

Every day is a new day with new choices. What you did or didn't do yesterday is not as important as what you do right now.
Everyone has challenges to overcome.

JeromeBarry1 wrote: »

Read the text of your profile picture. Open your diary. The wise heads in the community, and I'll accuse both queenliz99 and rankinsect of that, can better help you if they see what you've logged, and you can get better help if you log accurately and completely.

Yup. That.

You're on a road trip, you get a flat. Do you hail a cab home and start over or do you fix the flat and keep going? A friend just told me, view today as your rock bottom. Tomorrow you won't be there! Hugs!

I feel this way every night around 11pm. Ask yourself what would be the consequences or the outcome in 6 months if you give up now.

This feeling will pass. Trust me, I've been there. Just lay down, watch your favorite tv show, and feel good tomorrow.

Remember WHY you started. Remember how hard it is to start over, and it will not be any easier next time. Just hang in there, get through this, and keep going. You will not regret it!!

Makes total sense. I am 4'11 and weigh 224 lbs. Haven't checked my weight and this whole carb counting is a little frustrating. I'm also in depression a lot of times. You have already lost weight. I am also diabetic. Crazy ups and downs, now, more than ever. You have been small before. I never have. Look at the positive. Use that one little positive and stand up with your head held high. I'm gonna use your positive to help me today. Thank you for sharing. I'll pray for you.