No happier after weight loss?

dave_in_ni wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice. I have been working out, 6 days per week lifting ever since I started my diet, I have to say I never get the endorphin rush, never did. I get the satisfaction of having done it after I finish though and that's about the height of it.

I go to the gym everyday too. Never have really gotten to like it though, but I am glad to get it out of the way for the day (I go very early before work).

It really is hard to get over being picked on as a child. It truly does something to self esteem. All you can do is know what you are accomplishing now. It is awesome, and so are you!

Wherever you go, there you are.

Congratulations on your weight loss. I think I'd be in the same boat except I also had a serious reality check to my self - judgement.

I didn't realize how much I'd linked my sense of self worth to my career until illness fixed me to step back. I became very depressed, into I realigned my thinking. The thing that upset me wasn't my not working, or my illness, or my weight per se, but the idea I held unconsciously that my value as a human being was in what I did. Of course, that's absurd and I don't hold anyone else to that standard. Doubly absurd as I'm a Christian, but there you have it. Once I realized that, and addressed it, life became ever so much better even without my circumstances changing.

I don't know what your underlying pain is. You probably don't yet either. But it's worth finding and coming to terms. I wish you the best.

A lot of good thoughts on this thread already. I've found that being overweight is a symptom of unhappiness, not the cause--but sometimes a mask to stay that way. If you've dealt with your relationship with food, that's great, and now it's time to improve your relationship with yourself.

dave_in_ni wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice. I have been working out, 6 days per week lifting ever since I started my diet, I have to say I never get the endorphin rush, never did. I get the satisfaction of having done it after I finish though and that's about the height of it.

I get what you guys are getting at though, Its the same with folks who win the lottery, they assumed once they had millions they'd he happy, I guess we all do but its true what they say money doesn't buy happiness and neither does weight loss, sure its a good thing I've lost the weight and I am still planning on cutting until I get into single digit body fat percentage but as you say there is more to this. Someone once said happiness is an inside job and its very much true, I just have to figure out what happiness is to me.

I have one practice that for me literally changed how I thought about life. I used to be pretty negative. I never thought I was miserable really just things sucked and I wanted to talk about and talk about it and talk some more. It was poisoning me and I was allowing it to. I saw this ridiculous practice on facebook one day that was called 100 happy days. For 100 days you posted one thing about your day that made you happy along with a picture. I did this just because but, every since it was over I feel I focus on what is right with my life instead of what's wrong. Even if the only thing that day that made you happy was having an amazing lunch it is what you focus on. It really does help!

A while ago i started looking at my life and all the activities in it, asking myself, "am i doing this for myself or to make others happy?" I found a lot of things in my life that I was just doing to make others happy, destroying my own happiness.