Easily one of the worst days of my life

So sorry GTO This guy clearly doesn't deserve you. Be strong and do what you have to do!

After all the crap his son put you through too!!! :mad:
Absolute cheek! :explode:
Not all men are like this huni, there are some pretty good ones out there, just not always easy to find em.
Take care, I hope you get things sorted - one way or the other :flowerforyou:

I would rather be alone than be with him for another day.

Then DO something about it! You don't want your girls growing up in this environment, do you?! YOU are the only one that can leave. YOU are the only one that can shield your girls from what he's putting you through. YOU are the only one that can stop it! It is only getting worse & you know it.

I know what I just said might be harsh to you. I've been reading about this d-bag for awhile now. He's not getting any prettier.

although I can not say that I have ever had anyone physically abusive towards me I can say that I have had the pleasure... if you will, of being on the recieving end of a verbally abusive "X" and yes it happens to men as often as it does to women, no one should have to deal with that.

ALSO throwing water in your face and threatening to punch you is Assult. which to the police its near equivelent as far as pressing charges. before you go down this route I urge you to exhaust all other resources.

I do not agree with anyone man OR woman hitting anyone else. the ONLY time acceptable would be for self defence and even then you should exhaust every possible resource before confronting someone with violence. that being said I am not agains throwing down with someone if they threaten either my well-being or that of someone whom I love.

has he gone to therapy? or counseling for this? have you both gone to counseling? it maye do you some good as well because a counselor has many resources that they know of that most people would not normally know. I do not know its just a sugestion. sometimes talking about it can open doors that you otherwise would not have known existed.

but hang in there and in the mean time is there somewhere you could take your kids? parent's house? sibling's house?

This problem isn't YOU loving HIM enough...the fact is, he's a jerk. He's a bully. He's a bad husband & a bad father. YOU don't deserve ANY of that & neither do your daughters.

Pack up, move out & STAY AWAY! You can do this!

I'm packing my stuff as we speak. My dad is going to help me move. I thought I would be able to love him good enough but apparently I couldn't. I'm going to live with my brother in Spring Hill and put the kids in school up there. Sorry to keep repeating this crap to you guys but y'all are pretty much the only friends I have right now. He hasn't forbidden me to have friends, but he's made it damn near impossible through his attitude.

We have not gone to counseling because he refuses to claim his part in all our problems. He says he gets p.o'd because I provoke it and if I just kept my mouth shut it would be OK. I told him, the last time I checked that the right to free speech still applied to me and I will say what's on my mind. I am tired of going through life biting my tongue to avoid problems with him.

I think once you finally get away from him you'll be so much happier. You've taken more then enough crap from that man. :flowerforyou:

..and if we are your only friends, that speaks volumes for the desperation of your situation. You've struggled with this for awhile now, and time isn't going to wait for you. Look how far you've come, how beautiful you are! Standing up for yourself and staying isn't going to change things. He mistreats you, period, and you're right, you can do better alone than with him. I've been in your shoes, hun. I left one just like him, with the clothes on my back and my two babies under 3yr old in tow. That was 16 yrs ago, and I've never regretted it, nor did I fall without him. We're here for you 100%, and you are in my prayers.

xoxo Julie

No person,especially a lady should ever endure that kind of treatment.:mad:

He ought to be damn grateful that there was a lady who was willing to share her life with him.
I hope he gets a taste of his own miserable,ugly self someday.

I'm packing my stuff as we speak....

Oh! I was about to invite you to come out here! :laugh:
I am glad that your family is being so helpful and supportive, that is a good thing.
Shows the type of stock you come from...
Be safe.

:flowerforyou:

just wanted to be one more voice saying we support you, we want you to have a happy and safe life, and we are all here for you. screw counseling, get out of there. Your daughters are going to learn from you what it is like to be a wife/woman in this world, and by standing up for yourself, you teach them that they too have the right to be safe and loved, and they will never allow someone to treat them badly, because their Mother showed them that!! Remember that this too shall pass, and you will have happy days again. My thoughts are with you!

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

Only if he sends him to Jesus.

i deal with this too
He has shouted at me for SO LONG and SO LOUDLY he made himself hoarse at times
ugh
Im here if you need anyone to talk to
BIG HUGS sweetie

i can understand what you are going thru since i once went thru the same thing only mine was phyiscally abusive i packed up and left everything but my boys i finished raising them to be wonderful respectful young men and you can do the same yeah it was / is hard at times but i wouldnt go back to him for all the money in the world stay strong and good luck to you