Back again with pregnancy weight update, and freaking out.
ArtsyDarling
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I am 195.5 lbs now, I am going nuts. I am having bad thoughts. I don't want to eat, I want to do things the right way but the pounds won't stop packing on. I'm stuck eating fast food because I do not have control over the money so we eat what we have to to survive. Can't go grocery shopping. I almost wish I wasn't pregnant. I wish I could go back to December and feel like 140 lbs again. It's so embarrassing to go see people I know because the last time they saw me I had lost all this weight and became so pretty and skinny and now I am almost back up to where I was and I am only 25 weeks pregnant. It's not like I have only a month to go, I have a long time to put on probably 50 more lbs.
Can I lose weight while pregnant?
Can I lose weight while pregnant?
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You need to relax3
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It kind of sounds like you aren't in a good situation overall. Right now, you need to be focusing on the health of your baby. In other words, You need to nourish yourself as best you can, so that you baby can get adequate nutrition. It doesn't matter what other people think, you have to think of your baby first. You lost the weight once, you can do it again.
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alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.0 -
If you've put on that much weight in 25 weeks and are knowingly eating unhealthy food you should probably go see your doctor. It is not healthy for you or the baby to gain huge amounts of weight and puts you at a higher risk for complications like gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, among other things. This is talk to a doctor not the Internet type stuff...6
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You need to talk to your doctor. You may be at risk for gestational diabetes. And only your doctor can tell you if it is safe to go on a calorie deficit while pregnant.
That being said my dr told me not to gain much more than 25 lbs during my pregnancy. I gained 40lbs by 40 weeks, it was fine.1 -
MultipleHigh5s wrote: »You need to talk to your doctor. You may be at risk for gestational diabetes. And only your doctor can tell you if it is safe to go on a calorie deficit while pregnant.
That being said my dr told me not to gain much more than 25 lbs during my pregnancy. I gained 40lbs by 40 weeks, it was fine.
I just saw my doctor a week ago, she hasn't mentioned a thing about my weight gain. I was anorexic right before I had found out I was pregnant. Even talked to a dietitian about a month ago, she didn't say anything about my weight gain.0 -
Most states have some kind of WIC program for expecting moms who are struggling financially. If you can get some of those benefits you will be able to get much healthier groceries and start cooking meals. You really need to look into it, for you and your baby. That's why these programs exist!11
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If you've put on that much weight in 25 weeks and are knowingly eating unhealthy food you should probably go see your doctor. It is not healthy for you or the baby to gain huge amounts of weight and puts you at a higher risk for complications like gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, among other things. This is talk to a doctor not the Internet type stuff...
Just saw my doctor not that long ago, she hasn't said anything about my weight gain, my next appointment is the 19th.0 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.7 -
Most states have some kind of WIC program for expecting moms who are struggling financially. If you can get some of those benefits you will be able to get much healthier groceries and start cooking meals. You really need to look into it, for you and your baby. That's why these programs exist!
This is excellent advice.2 -
alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.0 -
Most states have some kind of WIC program for expecting moms who are struggling financially. If you can get some of those benefits you will be able to get much healthier groceries and start cooking meals. You really need to look into it, for you and your baby. That's why these programs exist!
This is excellent advice.
I just looked up all of the info on that, i'll call them tomorrow when they are open, Thank you both.1 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.3 -
I forgot about the other troubling part of your original post. That you almost wish you weren't pregnant. I think the only thing you can do at this point is talk to your doctor, ask for a referral to a therapist and talk to someone about all of this. You need to worry about what's going on in your mind right now, not the number on the scale.4
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alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.
Actually my doctor does know, it's even listed on a health chart she posts online and no my tendencies are not there, thoughts yes. I don't skip meals, i even eat snacks. As for asking her about my weight, no I have not. Was I looking for possible ways to lose weight while pregnant yes, do I know my baby is more important yes, if I didn't know that then I would've relapsed long ago, trust me. I am just looking for some support and so good tips and advice from some people who may have shared the same experiences.0 -
If you can afford fast food, then you can afford to buy groceries, which will actually save you money. Why do you have to eat fast food? What do you mean you do not have control over the money? Who is controlling your money? If you lack control of your finances because you're in an abusive relationship, you should seek help and leave before your child is born. If you're not sure where to get help and what resources are available, PM me.4
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alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.
And heres some advice for you, instead of attacking someone who has some obvious problems and self destructing behavior maybe you could I don't know be a little less harsh. There's a difference between that and honesty. Luckily I am not THAT fragile. Be careful what you say because responding the way you did can enable the behavior. It definitely didn't make me feel good.0 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.
Actually my doctor does know, it's even listed on a health chart she posts online and no my tendencies are not there, thoughts yes. I don't skip meals, i even eat snacks. As for asking her about my weight, no I have not. Was I looking for possible ways to lose weight while pregnant yes, do I know my baby is more important yes, if I didn't know that then I would've relapsed long ago, trust me. I am just looking for some support and so good tips and advice from some people who may have shared the same experiences.
Tell your doctor everything you have posted here. Why ask here but not the person monitoring your healthcare?2 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.
Actually my doctor does know, it's even listed on a health chart she posts online and no my tendencies are not there, thoughts yes. I don't skip meals, i even eat snacks. As for asking her about my weight, no I have not. Was I looking for possible ways to lose weight while pregnant yes, do I know my baby is more important yes, if I didn't know that then I would've relapsed long ago, trust me. I am just looking for some support and so good tips and advice from some people who may have shared the same experiences.
Tell your doctor everything you have posted here. Why ask here but not the person monitoring your healthcare?
Well honestly most of the times I feel fine about my pregnancy, I run to places like this when I am panicking. My weight gain is always in the back of my head yes but I usually don't let it get to me until something triggers it. I do stupid things sometimes like "hey I should weigh myself today". Then I cry and look for things like "pregnancy and anorexia" on the internet to see if what I was going through was "Normal" for someone like me and I can't ever find anything. Then my boyfriend comes home and makes me feel better and I push it all out of my mind. That's the process anyways. I asked about exercise while pregnant, she said I can do anything except weight lifting and she didn't recommend running. Diet is my biggest hurdle. i've done good with how much I eat, it's what I eat.0 -
Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.2
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TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. HONESTLY.
About your eating disorder.
about the pregnancy
about freelee the banana girl and all the other nutty ideas you're considering because you have an eating disorder and are pregnant and have all the raging hormones etc.
In other words: TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. HONESTLY.8 -
IGNORE THIS PERSONMoniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
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Wait, you can't control eating fast food but you are now considering vegan/raw til 4?
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10380773/raw-til-4-diet-freelee-the-banana-girl#latest
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Moniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
I have decided to breastfeed. My family keeps telling me it will take up too much of my time though.0 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »I am 195.5 lbs now, I am going nuts. I am having bad thoughts. I don't want to eat, I want to do things the right way but the pounds won't stop packing on. I'm stuck eating fast food because I do not have control over the money so we eat what we have to to survive. Can't go grocery shopping. I almost wish I wasn't pregnant. I wish I could go back to December and feel like 140 lbs again. It's so embarrassing to go see people I know because the last time they saw me I had lost all this weight and became so pretty and skinny and now I am almost back up to where I was and I am only 25 weeks pregnant. It's not like I have only a month to go, I have a long time to put on probably 50 more lbs.
This is a complete and total cop-out. You need to grow up NOW and take control of the situation. That means:
1. Discuss this issue directly with your doctor.
2. Get on WIC and explore other temporary benefits which can help you in the short term. Here is a link to find out more about WIC: fns.usda.gov/wic/who-gets-wic-and-how-apply This site includes contact information for WIC offices in each state.
3. Buy, prepare and cook real food.
Nobody is ever STUCK with fast food. It is a choice and you are willfully harming your child. That is not OK.
This is not about you, your looks for how your weight effects your social status. This is about your child--what you are doing could cause lifelong health problems for your baby.
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ArtsyDarling wrote: »Moniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
I have decided to breastfeed. My family keeps telling me it will take up too much of my time though.
Wow! Really!! Listen to you not what other's think.0 -
3dogsrunning wrote: »Wait, you can't control eating fast food but you are now considering vegan/raw til 4?
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10380773/raw-til-4-diet-freelee-the-banana-girl#latest
I tried talking to my boyfriend about it and he said we can't afford it. I just wanted to see what other people thought.0 -
You should seek professional help.
There's a ton of red flags.- You suffered from anorexia pre-pregnancy
- You want to lose weight while pregnant
- You don't want to eat
- You "almost" wish you weren't pregnant
You should be speaking to your OBGYN and a specialist to deal with your anorexia and ED issues.12 -
You should seek professional help.
There's a ton of red flags.- You suffered from anorexia pre-pregnancy
- You want to lose weight while pregnant
- You don't want to eat
- You "almost" wish you weren't pregnant
You should be speaking to your OBGYN and a specialist to deal with your anorexia and ED issues.
Good summary. /end thread.0 -
With 15ish weeks to go, your baby will be developing rapidly and packing on his own pounds. You shouldn't be worried about loosing weight, rather you should be concerned about eating well and gaining steadily, getting fresh air,regular exercise and a reasonable night's sleep.
*My* biggest concern is the comment about money. Who is controlling it? Why are you letting them?
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