Husband in ER. What is th point.

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JazCopycat
JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
edited May 2016 in Motivation and Support
Having an horror day. My hubby went cycling at 10AM and till it was 4pm I was like, he must be enjoying his sun time. But then it started raining and I went looking for him everywhere around the lake and trough the bushes... Nothing. Asking everyone if they saw him. No one did. He ven didn't had his phone with him...
Then I decided I will call his parents. They are sick and I hate alarming them if it is not necessery. But I had to check if he was there, had a sleep... NO!!!
So i did what I had to. Called emergency and asked if there is a cyclist attended today. Long pause, she said yes!!!
It was a disaster. I felt down and my heart was punding...screaming.
*kitten* his obsession wit weight loss. You can't diet and cycle on empty stomack.
I was at the ER for 5h. And first they told me he is comatosed, then thah CR is ok... And finelly now they left me see him.
Pain pain.he didn't look at me. It is one horible place. Tomorrow I will go again. Hope to se his eyes looking at me again. There is nothing worst than seeing loved one so ...so and you can't do sh**
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  • mkakids
    mkakids Posts: 1,913 Member
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    Im so sorry. I hope he makes a quick and complete recovery.
  • Melodieccurn
    Melodieccurn Posts: 966 Member
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    So sorry . How scary for you. I wish quick recovery and keep us updated.
  • solieco1
    solieco1 Posts: 1,559 Member
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    did he crash or was he hit by a car or what/ so so sorry!!!
  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
    edited May 2016
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    Yes it is scary. And worst part is I can't show and share this pain withpeople I know. I pretend strong for his parents. They are sick and old. I don't wann see them getting worse. Now I am home. They druged me but I can't sleep. And have to vo again in the morning. Have his T-shirt on me.
  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
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    We only know it wasn't a car praise to Lord. Surgent asked ne if he had epilepsy before. I was shocked. I said no. He is on a diet and went out without breakfast. He is like a chinld, never lisens to me. 15 min later he fel and hit the head. Where on what? No one knows. I should go and take his stuff from the caffee where that happend. Fuc* that. I am thinking of throwing it away.
    Can you believe that poloceman called me to ask waht happend. ..Doctor said he was avaike for 5 min and he told that he way trying to avoul the dog. But he was sceptic about it.
    I was so stresses I didn't know what to ask. He has these headicks all the time. Several times he fell from the bike....
  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
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    Thank you ParkingPeddler. Hope he will. He is so depressive, mentaly gentle...
  • Melodieccurn
    Melodieccurn Posts: 966 Member
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    I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.
  • kirstinethornburg
    kirstinethornburg Posts: 300 Member
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    I am so sorry God be with you and your family prayers for a quick and total recovery
  • ClubSilencio
    ClubSilencio Posts: 2,983 Member
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    He will be in my thoughts. As will you.

    Was he wearing a helmet?

  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
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    Melodieccurn wrote: »
    I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.

    I don't understand why he had that epi attack or how they call it. Is it because of the fall and crushing the right side of the skull? Do those headaches have to do something with his bad coordination... Do you have any smart questions I shoukd ask tomorrow?
  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
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    No. He never wears nothing. When he gets better I will have to spank him like a bad child. Stupid honey of mine
  • 2011rocket3touring
    2011rocket3touring Posts: 1,346 Member
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    I'm so sorry. Best wishes for a complete and absolute recovery.
    He is fortunate to have you.
  • GiddyupTim
    GiddyupTim Posts: 2,819 Member
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    I feel for you. Hope tomorrow things get clarified a bit and that it is easier. Good luck.
  • Sharon_C
    Sharon_C Posts: 2,132 Member
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    I've been where you are. Husband went for a bike ride and fell off and broke his head, suffering a traumatic brain injury. He had his phone on him and the paramedics called me. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. You can't do this alone. You need a support group of friends and family around you. You can ask me questions too. I'm not a nurse but I know a lot about brain injuries.
  • Melodieccurn
    Melodieccurn Posts: 966 Member
    edited May 2016
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    JazCopycat wrote: »
    Melodieccurn wrote: »
    I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.

    I don't understand why he had that epi attack or how they call it. Is it because of the fall and crushing the right side of the skull? Do those headaches have to do something with his bad coordination... Do you have any smart questions I shoukd ask tomorrow?

    He probally has some pressure on the brain or a brain injury. The next 24 hrs are important than the next 24 hrs. The important thing to watch for is brain swelling. The headaches could be unrelated or not . Did he ever had seizures?
    Ask to speak with the neurologist or critical care specialist . I know you don't want to tell his parents but they need to know. Talk to the nurses, a lot of times we cannot tell you everything but we are there for you and we are good when you need a shoulder or a hug. Don't hesitate calling the nurse in the middle of the night if you need to know he is okay. We are used to this, I prefer my family members call if it helps them rest easy. I wish I was there for you because it is times like these when you need someone to lean on. Hugs and prayers
    Melodie
  • JazCopycat
    JazCopycat Posts: 28 Member
    edited May 2016
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    I was there today. Stil I don't think he knows I was there. He was asking for a knife to cut some bandages... But all like he was delirious.
    I told him I love him but I don't think he heard that. He asked to pee... Eyes closed. I believe he is under medications ?!
    I went there, where that happened and workers of that caffee told me that one woman was with the dog. And the leash was the one of those that can self extend... Dog went on other side and my hunney tried to evoid that and ... felt.
    That woman didn't even care to ask for him. I love animals. He should have felt on her. Peace of garbage.
    I always like to believe that people are good in their core, but I have to grow up and see the world like it is. Full os selfish and ignorant people!!!!

    Thank you all for your support and good wishes. He is breading on his own now, they say he will be good. They just keep asking about that epi attack... Isn't it normal to have it sometimes after you hit the brain?????
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    edited May 2016
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    Rider / Road ID bracelet.

    Your husband needs it in his life if he intends to continue cycling...
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
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    road/rider id or something like that is important

    to be fair, i nearly always go for a run on an empty stomach

    I hope his recovery is quick and full

    my cousin was killed by a drunk driver while my cousin was doing a training bike ride. Be grateful you still have your husband
  • gettinghealthyandwell
    gettinghealthyandwell Posts: 13 Member
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    I'm so sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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