ghosting-
Replies
-
This content has been removed.
-
I didn't read this entire thread but isn't ghosting a punkass way out?3
-
This content has been removed.
-
This content has been removed.
-
This content has been removed.
-
_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »
I don't think in any scenario it's okay. If you don't want to speak to someone anymore then tell them so. Don't just let them wonder if you fell off the face of the earth. Especially, if it's someone who you've had some type of relationship with (online or other). Grant it, there are people who are relentless and cannot take that rejection but at least make it clear that you are indeed rejecting them for whatever reason and THEN you can stop talking to them, block them or whatever.
*my 2 cents* Not worth much but that's my story and I'm sticking to it.2 -
People like closure. Even if it's not pleasant. Maybe, give them a heads up: "hey, we have moved to a state of pre-ghosting. So, good luck with stuff and junk. Deleting you from my contact list now." But, nicer. Ya know?3
-
This content has been removed.
-
This content has been removed.
-
I've ghosted a few people, it is easier than hurting them.1
-
This content has been removed.
-
sunn_lighter wrote: »_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »
I don't think in any scenario it's okay. If you don't want to speak to someone anymore then tell them so. Don't just let them wonder if you fell off the face of the earth. Especially, if it's someone who you've had some type of relationship with (online or other). Grant it, there are people who are relentless and cannot take that rejection but at least make it clear that you are indeed rejecting them for whatever reason and THEN you can stop talking to them, block them or whatever.
*my 2 cents* Not worth much but that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
hypothetically what if you're a punk *kitten* *kitten* tho and that's just *who you are* shouldn't you be true to yourself
NO! Never be true to yourself. Lie like the rest of us.
2 -
This content has been removed.
-
This content has been removed.
-
_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »Bennysammysofiesdad wrote: »Can we all be honest and point out that some people are just plain crazy and ghosting is the best way to get away from them?
You don't wanna tick off a lunatic
i personally agree. sometimes they just won't leave you alone even after you've gone as monosyllabic and non-committed as possible.
Well there are exceptions to everything of course. Isn't ghosting when you suddenly stop talking with someone and they have zero idea why? If you've already communicated that you're stopping contact for whatever reason and they continue being "crazy", then sure, I'd say cut them off totally. But at least you've made it known first. I just think it's unfair to keep someone wondering what happened. Closure can be good.2 -
This content has been removed.
-
Bennysammysofiesdad wrote: »_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »Bennysammysofiesdad wrote: »Can we all be honest and point out that some people are just plain crazy and ghosting is the best way to get away from them?
You don't wanna tick off a lunatic
i personally agree. sometimes they just won't leave you alone even after you've gone as monosyllabic and non-committed as possible.
Well there are exceptions to everything of course. Isn't ghosting when you suddenly stop talking with someone and they have zero idea why? If you've already communicated that you're stopping contact for whatever reason and they continue being "crazy", then sure, I'd say cut them off totally. But at least you've made it known first. I just think it's unfair to keep someone wondering what happened. Closure can be good.
Sometimes things turn on a dime though. They might do something that just "out there" and the only way to stop a Fatal Attraction type situation is to be out
Again, there are exceptions in extreme types of circumstances. Majority of the time though, it's just a punkass way of ending things. Not ALL the time but I guarantee you it is mostly that.1 -
This content has been removed.
-
I have done it once and I still feel guilty. I went out with a guy twice. Second date realized that I wasn't into him at all. He rejected every active thing I like to do
. I tried to pull back and text a lot less and short answers but he didn't get the hint even when I said I didn't really have time for a relationship and things like that. So I just stopped responding. I hate rejecting people. I like to put it on me and say I might be moving or am focused on [insert excuse]. I need to work on being more direct, because I decided I won't ghost someone again. 1 -
This content has been removed.
-
This content has been removed.
-
I was involved in a mutual ghosting. And I was just like how dare you ghost me when I'm trying to ghost you?!?!3
-
This content has been removed.
-
I'm trying to ghost this chick right now I'm in the middle of my run and she keeps calling telling me to take her to lunch on her lunch break it's like just because I was feeling nice that day a long time ago and brought her a ring and we went to this beach party and we were playing "I do" game she thinks she can tell me what to do now -.-
Don't say I didn't warn ya. 2 -
I was ghosted by someone I was friends with on and off MFP. It sucks because you worry something may have happened to them. Made me think twice about doing it to others that's fo sho.3
-
Sugar_Pill wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »I was ghosted by someone I was friends with on and off MFP. It sucks because you worry something may have happened to them. Made me think twice about doing it to others that's fo sho.
*kitten* ******
Yeah it left me pretty sad. He abandoned all his social media. Never swapped dirty pics or nothing, just talked most of the day everyday for a few months. It was like losing a best friend1 -
This content has been removed.
-
_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »Sugar_Pill wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »I was ghosted by someone I was friends with on and off MFP. It sucks because you worry something may have happened to them. Made me think twice about doing it to others that's fo sho.
*kitten* ******
Yeah it left me pretty sad. He abandoned all his social media. Never swapped dirty pics or nothing, just talked most of the day everyday for a few months. It was like losing a best friend
Maybe that's why?!
2 -
Yup, been ghosted. Told me I was one of the best women he'd met in 42 years, then 3 days later...poof, gone. It hurt. A lot. I'd never do that to someone.1
-
rchlthompson wrote: »Yup, been ghosted. Told me I was one of the best women he'd met in 42 years, then 3 days later...poof, gone. It hurt. A lot. I'd never do that to someone.
I don't think that's ghosting that sounds like being played you was the conquest assuming you gave it up
I assume you mean I slept with him. No, I didn't. But did I give up the situation? Yes.2
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.4K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.2K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 426 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.7K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions