Weight Loss Seems Impossible

I know first hand that sleep deprivation is a big motivation-killer. My 11mo has just started sleeping through the night (well, with only one feeding, down from 6-8 lol), and before this I TRIED to motivate myself to work out and eat well after getting a few hours of broken sleep, and it never lasted. Now I am starting slow because I'm still nursing but getting even a 6 hour stretch of solid, unbroken sleep is heaven to me now.

And I do understand the issue with sharing a car. My hubby and I have always shared one car even when we both worked full time and it involved a lot of waiting around before/after work. Is it possible for you to take the bus at all? When I started a few hours after hubby, catching the bus to work allowed me to get an extra couple of hours of sleep, and then he'd pick me up at the end of the day. Having a 5 yo may complicate that for sure though.

I've ALSO lived with my hubby's grandpa when we were getting on our feet as newlyweds, and he shopped and cooked every supper. He'd legit put a stick of butter in every pot - meat, potatoes, corn. 3 sticks of butter! And he'd push seconds onto us and basically insult me when I said 'no thank you, I'm stuffed' with a smile. I gained 20lbs after I got married and I blame him! lol

So I don't have much advice, just wanted to say, I feel your struggle - mine all happened individually, I really feel for you having all those things happening all at once!

seekingdaintiness wrote: »

deerobseven wrote: »

Hey guys, I need some advice I guess. I am in a situation where I am not the one buying the food in my house and I cannot buy it myself... long story, please let me spare the details.

I feel like it is impossible to lose weight because I cannot eat healthy, though I try to portion, the food is full of carbs and fat.

I have gym at my job and I currently only do 3-5 days a week 30 min at a time. I want to do more but I am always completely exhausted, partially from eating bad, partially because i cant sleep at night and i get up at 4am...

I am not always great at water intake but i'm getting there... Ive already had 5 going on 6 glasses of water today.

Has anyone had successful weight loss while unable to eat healthy?
Does anyone have any helpful tips?

I have lost all motivation and feel exhausted 24-7. I don't want mean to be full of excuses, but I am.

How are you "unable to eat healthy?"

The food in the house is full of carbs and fat? Well just don't eat much of it. The gym won't help you even if you go.

If you eat little enough, you will lose weight. It sounds like you're not in the best situation but you can still lose weight it you have the motivation. If you don't, you won't, and that's the bottom line.

Exactly. And it will cost less with the smaller portions.

Dee, I have insomnia also and often only get 4 hours or less. It does make weight loss more difficult because of the fatigue and stress hormones. I bought one of those headbands for sleep apnea that slips under my chin. It keeps the tongue from relaxing and falling back which was obstructing air flow. It was fairly inexpensive on Amazon. It is worth trying if you think you aren't breathing well and awaken abruptly a lot.

Sorry for posting the above! I see it's been mentioned already.

Thyroid can make you very hormonal, when mine is off my husband runs lol. I have a similar schedule getting up at 3 am and it is difficult. It is possible to lose with less healthy foods, but an option I'm not sure you have is to ask your m.i.l if you could cook your own food. That way you could pick some of the better options prepared in a healthier way. My husband and I are on different ends of the scale he is trying to gain while I am trying to lose we eat mostly the same stuff, but just cook it differently. Hope everything work out for you.

This is tough, OP, hang in there. I have to say, though, in genuinely confused why your husband is in the room crashing around in the middle of the night when you are working days. Why can't he be somewhere else in the house if he's awake? Can't he just sit in the living room or something? It just seems odd that he would be content to deprive you of sleep like that, over a long period of time. Or is he unaware that he's disturbing your sleep? Have you told him?

It just seems to me obvious that if one person is up and the other is trying to sleep, they should not be in the same room. And that if someone is living in their own house, whoever else might be living there with them, they should have other places they can spend time other than a bedroom in which someone else is trying to sleep.

I hope this doesn't upset you or you don't feel I'm speaking out of turn - but 4-5 hours sleep is not sustainable and will damage your health over the medium to long term. It's a serious issue. I understand about insomnia, I get it myself, but the main issue seems to be your husband making noise and maybe even having the light on? That's not insomnia, it's an impossible sleeping environment. I agree with others that you're going to struggle improving your life in other areas until that's resolved.

It is a family of 7 so maybe hubbie has nowhere to go when he is awake at night?

WBB55 wrote: »

If you had a food allergy to peanuts, would you feel bad asking your in laws to purchase a few foods here or there that don't have peanuts? Or would that also seem out of the question to you?

I'm not you, I don't know the family dynamics, but asking for a few particular items isn't being ungrateful. They may be proud of you for having the humility to admit there's something specific you need in order to be healthy during this difficult period in your life.

Food allergies are something different, than not wanting to eat particular food. Are folks missing the point, it seems she can't afford to purchase food right now and the in laws are feeding the family. At this point in time, watch calories. Eat or starve. If protein shakes can be purchased, there is some extra money somewhere.

You can only control, what you can control.