Do guys think weight loss is hot?

There's more to it than physical appearance to attraction...when a women loses weight and gets fit she has more confidence in herself and carries her head higher...confidence is sexy, self assurance is sexy, loving yourself and what you are is sexy...that is all.

There's more to it than physical appearance to attraction...when a women loses weight and gets fit she has more confidence in herself and carries her head higher...confidence is sexy, self assurance is sexy, loving yourself and what you are is sexy...that is all.

Strangely, I think I have less self confidence now then I did before. Lol. Or it could be that more attention makes me paranoid, I don't think "they think I'm hot", I think "what are they looking at, is my hair weird or something??" :laugh:

I'll just say it... looks matter. Face it, men AND women are far, far less likely to ask someone out on a date if they're not physically attracted to them. That's just the way it is.

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guys, it's a trap.. don't respond:noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway:

I was going to post earlier but then I thought twice......:indifferent:

Ok this is really funny! I actually have a lot of guy friends and they have noticed my "change" for the better. It's funny though guys are not really aware of it, or at least to them it’s not that big of a deal. I have gotten "Robin you look different" they are kind of moronic at times about it, like they can't figure out what is different...I am like " I lost weight! dummy!" lol but they mean well and are very encouraging. Do no ever feel embarrassed about such an amazing thing!! If you embrace YOU then they will embrace YOU! Even 50+ lbs ago before I was on this site I loved myself, all 220lbs lol and I had great guys in my life. It’s all about how you project yourself

this is so halarious. when i lost a bunch of weight in 2007 my husband didn't notice until i reached 50lbs and put on a sexy outfit. then he did a double take and was like "what??? when did THIS happen???" lol.

There's more to it than physical appearance to attraction...when a women loses weight and gets fit she has more confidence in herself and carries her head higher...confidence is sexy, self assurance is sexy, loving yourself and what you are is sexy...that is all.

yes! this is exactly right

i was 80kgs when i met my hubby. in 6 months i ballooned to 96kg. then had kids and ate even more and went up to 106kg (and wasn't even pregnant then!). BUT..... i've been really confident throughout it all. i know what i've got and how to make it work for me, regardless of where i sit on the chunky scale. my hubby thinks i'm better now (at 91kg) purely because i'm looking after myself and feeling even better- that to him is what he sees, not my *kitten* increasing or decreasing in size.
people still chat me up as much as they ever have, but i love to flirt a lot too so that hasn't really changed. but most of the blokes i work with are gay, or married and too scared to compliment another woman for fear of their wives!!!
anyway, i really don't talk about weight loss much, but i do talk about being fitter and how that makes me feel. i think people like that enthusiasm and passion. i'd rather be around someone that was enthusiastic and passionate, rather than not!

There's more to it than physical appearance to attraction...when a women loses weight and gets fit she has more confidence in herself and carries her head higher...confidence is sexy, self assurance is sexy, loving yourself and what you are is sexy...that is all.

I agree with this gentlemen right here ^

Also, you guys are hiliarious!! I love the funny and honest responses!!!!!!

My guy has said and has done nothing. It makes me feel great and motivated! Other men i have notice take notice and then i shoot them a death stare and then I keep walking, I do this because i am a nice person.

If weight loss equals feeling better about yourself....then hell yes. Attitude is everything.

PS if a guy wont date you when your "fat" vs "skinny" than NEXT his *kitten*!!! ♣ lol

yes and no (didn't read all the following posts, so i apologize if someone's already made this comment)
true - if he's only dating you because you went to "hot" from "not" then take out the trash. but if he's paying more attention to you because you're paying more attention to yourself...? umm, isn't that exactly what we do ladies?

and actually i talk about my weight loss quite a bit less often these days as the picture of me at 230 lbs is not the most attractive photo i have lol. If they appreciate your diet and exercise regimen and don't make a big deal of it either way, then yay. but if they balk at the fact that once upon a time my size 8 *kitten* was a size 20 - never mind that i was only at my heaviest weight for a year max - then they really don't deserve my time anyways.

the stupid ones always eliminate themselves at some point.

I dont think guys really care (excluding boyfriends, and hubbys). I have had only one guy friend comment that my face looks slimmer and I have lost 0ver 70 lbs since he had last seen me. I think us women over think it. Men dont notice unless it is SIGNIFICANT amounts. And they escpecially could care less if we are over weight how we look. I believe when a man sees us overweight (unless he likes big girls) then we become nongendered and move into like a guy-friend type of catagory. Men are very simple and basic....is it hot? Yes? GIMME. No? great friend. Not that guys dont care about personality, but attraction starts with the physical. And I have to give guys props here.....you will see MANY slim men with big chicks....rarely do you see slim chicks with big guys. So while we get on our whole 'if they dont love us fat like they do with us thin then kick them to the curb' horse women power rant.....take a look around someday and take a tally of how many big girls are with skinny guys and how many skinny girls are with big guys. Us women CARE a whole lot more than the men do how the opposite sex looks but i love you all anyways hehe

I dont think guys really care (excluding boyfriends, and hubbys). I have had only one guy friend comment that my face looks slimmer and I have lost 0ver 70 lbs since he had last seen me. I think us women over think it. Men dont notice unless it is SIGNIFICANT amounts. And they escpecially could care less if we are over weight how we look. I believe when a man sees us overweight (unless he likes big girls) then we become nongendered and move into like a guy-friend type of catagory. Men are very simple and basic....is it hot? Yes? GIMME. No? great friend. Not that guys dont care about personality, but attraction starts with the physical. And I have to give guys props here.....you will see MANY slim men with big chicks....rarely do you see slim chicks with big guys. So while we get on our whole 'if they dont love us fat like they do with us thin then kick them to the curb' horse women power rant.....take a look around someday and take a tally of how many big girls are with skinny guys and how many skinny girls are with big guys. Us women CARE a whole lot more than the men do how the opposite sex looks but i love you all anyways hehe

Ummmm -- I possibly don't like what you said here. It seems to me you're suggesting that slim men are with big women because they don't care what the opposite sex look like. When I think the reality is there are some men (more than I ever imagined) that actually find big women very physically attractive and sexually desirable. Granted there are other couples where she's gained weight over the years and their man just simply unconditionally loves them. I used to exclusively date BHM because I thought that's the only type of man that liked BBW. I was wrong -- and very happy to admit that.

As for the topic -- I think guys do think it's hot. But not necessarily because OMG now she's thin. I think it's about being healthy, confident, and active. I think they respond to the changes in our behavior and attitude more than our size.

PS if a guy wont date you when your "fat" vs "skinny" than NEXT his *kitten*!!! ♣ lol

Oh that's a crock of ****. If a guy cares about his body and works hard to make it look good, why would he be willing to settle for someone that doesn't take care of themselves?

If you don't care enough about yourself to make an effort, why should a guy care about you?

Besides, like it or not, guys do have "types" as well. I got a good friend that will only date extremely chunky women. I have friends that only date skinny women. I personally like a little more curves, but not too much.

I'm not saying a guy who only cares about looks is what you want, I'm just saying don't use lines like that as an excuse for when a guy isn't interested.

Sorry ladies, but as a woman, I agree with this. Women are very hypocritical on this issue.

The fact of the matter is that men are drawn FIRST to looks. If you think that's wrong, then you're just wishing for the world to be different than it is, which is a waste of your time. If you aren't what a man likes, in terms of looks, then he's not going to try to see if there's any relationship potential. That doesn't mean he doesn't think you're a good person; it means he doesn't want to be physically intimate with you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Would you really want to be involved with a guy who doesn't like having sex with you because he doesn't find you physically attractive or is embarrassed to be seen with you in public? I doubt it. So don't act like it's just some shallow thing that men should get over. Women are the ones who need to get over it. If you aren't where you want to be physically, then get there. Be the best version of you that you can be. If THAT'S not good enough, then you can say it's his loss. Acting like he's a jerk because he doesn't find you attractive (we all have different tastes) makes YOU the unreasonable one.

It's also important to note that losing a lot of weight changes the way you behave and interact. It gives you a confidence that you didn't have before, and men pick up on that. When you know you look good, you dress differently, you walk differently, you talk differently, you will do things (like approach a guy who catches your eye) that you would never have done before. That, in and of itself, makes you more attractive and shows that you actually like who you are. Most overweight people are pretty miserable if you dig below the surface. Some of them have really loud personalities and are good at hiding their inner discomfort with who they are, but it's there. And even if you run into that rare guy who will take the time to get to know you, he'll eventually discover that you've got self-esteem issues, and if the weight doesn't scare him away, that will.