Fit Shaming
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IMO, why bother with their comments? Letting it affect you shows that it's an issue for you. If people comment negatively, I just smile and move on.
And for me, I don't get hardly any negative because I'm always looking for what's great in every person and let them know it. It's kinda hard for people to hate on you, if you're actually nice to them.
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I can't wait until I'm fit enough to actually be fit-shamed...18
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What does bump mean? I've seen it a few times.0
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womanofgod4893 wrote: »
There's a bookmark function in the upper right hand side. Just click the little star.9 -
Funny, someone just asked me the other night if I was sick. I am just over 5-9 and weigh 174 pounds, still over the BMI magic number for my height (25.3 = overweight), but I have broad shoulders so I guess I look thinner. I hear "skinny" (the negative way) "wow you lost a lot of weight", not that many complementary words. I like going to the gym, and watching what I eat and I do not miss the junk I was eating before.
Stay strong and just remember your opinion is the most important when it comes to your health.
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I'm not surprised by the negativity..I've just come to ignore it. If someone is that concerned with me and my lifestyle choices to be negative..then that's on them.1
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I went to visit my sister and a friend of hers that was there was staring at me. I finally asked if i had something on my shirt and she said " your chest is weird. Why is is square? Why does it stick out? I explained to her that was the shape of my body and she said it was weird. I looked at her husbands saggy man boobs and thought if thats what shes used to i guess my body would look odd. It was the first time i felt like an outsider for being more fir than those around me. Since i staeted fitpal i have been getting " you look skinny"9
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Recently I've had a few friends joking ask about being on a bike ride. I just laugh it off. Other than that I don't get too many negatives that I can think of.
I will say I've met more competing BB and PL with PhD's in areas like physics, biochemistry and engineering. So the whole dumb thing I've never gotten.1 -
Oh I get looked at all the time with heads shaking and what not.. So I am old and fit..I say get over it and keep looking and talking.. This means I made it to the top of the conversation people are having!
WIth age comes the "I do not care what you think about me" attitude.. People that care about this, have some self esteem issues or already bothered by what other people say or are possibly saying about them..9 -
I have coworkers who think that have any level of visible muscle is gross and disgusting and masculine. Also that anyone who does have visible definition must be on steroids.
I simply tell them to keep their judgements on anyone else's bodies to themselves unless they want to be subject to the same shaming.10 -
davidmartinez66 wrote: »Funny, someone just asked me the other night if I was sick.
This happened to me at work. A client asked if I was sick and I said "excuse me?", she simply said, "you've lost a bit of weight and sometimes it happens when people are sickly."
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I get this too, especially when I decline certain foods and such at family's house, I get comments like 'sounds like your life sucks, well enjoy your diet thing I'm gonna keep eating my pudding' my mother-in-law thinks I'm starving her son because he's actually getting in shape and losing his belly so she's always questioning why we eat the way we do and judging how often we work out. She makes snide comments about us 'torturing' our son with our healthy habits and goes out of her way to sneak him junk food. It pisses me off tbh. Plus the recent influx of fit shaming memes online downgrading fit or skinny girls and praising thick/fat ones. Annoying.6
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Bump is when someone makes a post to make the thread come back up to the top of the list. They can say "bump" or they can post something meaningful!0
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I think there will always be some kind of shaming or judging from others. Sad but true. I've been openly and I'm sure quietly judged over my appearance. I had a woman in the grocery store question the name badge I had on because surely I can't be a RN with tattoos. If I hear one more blond joke I may scream.
And tell someone that I, a woman, enjoy lifting weights.........mind blower!0 -
As a person who isn't at all fit, I will be bluntly honest and say I (and the unfit people around me) *do* get jealous. But it should be as completely unacceptable to make a negative comment to a fit person as a fat person. If anything, we should celebrate that you're doing something that makes you happy and is great for your health at the same time, and that should be the end of it.12
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Willbenchforcupcakes wrote: »I have coworkers who think that have any level of visible muscle is gross and disgusting and masculine. Also that anyone who does have visible definition must be on steroids.
I simply tell them to keep their judgements on anyone else's bodies to themselves unless they want to be subject to the same shaming.
I also get *kitten* from my coworkers. Which is weird, because generally I have incredibly kind and supportive coworkers (in my line of work we have to be pretty tight or things can go south quickly). But there is a constant, low-level passive-aggressive snark in terms of my fitness level and especially my eating habits - I do IF and I don't eat at work and every day is a minor battle. It's been a year and a half with my current crop of coworkers, and that is slowly starting to change, unless I actually eat something at work and then it's like the world is coming to a freakin' end.
And god forbid I feel insecure or unhappy with my body; just because I'm reasonably fit doesn't mean I'm 100% secure in my body or myself, but because many of my coworkers are less in shape than I am, if I in any way infer that there are things about myself, especially physically, that I don't like, my coworkers appear to take it as a personal insult. *kitten*, please. My insecurities and my thoughts about my body have absolutely nothing to do with you. Your body is your business, and I'm not going to judge you for how you eat, your fitness habits, etc. I don't care if you're in shape or out of shape. But please give me the courtesy of permitting me to have normal, human feelings and insecurities about myself.14 -
Willbenchforcupcakes wrote: »I have coworkers who think that have any level of visible muscle is gross and disgusting and masculine. Also that anyone who does have visible definition must be on steroids.
I simply tell them to keep their judgements on anyone else's bodies to themselves unless they want to be subject to the same shaming.
I absolutely love your user name!!!
Edited: because ... typing on phone while wearing weight-lifting gloves and ... typos.1 -
My ex-husband was a competition body builder, and all of his friends were, and it's pretty sad thinking back on what a bunch of stupid, steroidal, vain jerks they were. The stupid/steroidal/icanliftheavythings stereotypes do come from somewhere, sadly. YOU know you don't fit the stereotype, so hold your head up high and ignore them!2
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You look gorgeous, you have worked hard and it has paid off. Don't let others ignorance, insecurities or judgmental ways eat away at your hard won self-esteem. I pity their closed minds, their belief that a person is merely their physical bodies. Big, small, buff or puffed we are all humans, respecting that is a basic value.4
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