Haters gonna hate

Ok - So, I am very happy with my lifestyle change and the results I've had so far. I'm down about 40lbs and still have about 40lbs more to lose to hit my goal. I love having MFP to talk to people who are facing the same struggles and successes as me but IRL (in real life) it's a lot different.

While most of the feedback I get from people who have not seen me in a while are very positive there is still some negativity when talking to others about my journey. Idk if it's a subconscious thing I do but whenever someone says how great I look, I tend to think about or mention how far I still have to go. Most people will say "keep it up" or something like "you look fine now, you don't need to lose that much". When the reality is, if I'd told them how much I wanted to lose when I started they would probably disagree with that as well. I have pretty much been able to ignore comments like that and just think about what I, personally, want for myself.

Something I have been noticing more recently is jealousy. It sucks for me because I don't want to make anyone feel bad or feel less beautiful then they are. I have recently spoke to an old friend - She chatted me up about her new business venture and asked what I'd been up to. When I told her about my weight loss so far I wasn't expecting any praise maybe just acknowledgement. She basically said "Wow, I'm jealous." and that was it. This is a friend that I met while doing the HCG diet a few years back. We have always been able to talk to each other about everything.. But I just didn't think I should continue on the conversation about how happy I was or how much 'fun' it has been. Another instance, I went to the bar on Monday. I haven't been going nearly as frequently as I did prior to the changes I made. I sat by a good "bar friend" who I have known for a couple of years. The bartender commented on how good I look and was the "keep it up" motivator, however...My friend immediately got very upset and repeated how fat, ugly, and old she is. It continued on the entire night and I believe that, combined with her buzz, created an argument between her and her husband. I'm at the office making my food, someone comments about how healthy I eat and they just wish they could do the same. Or I am trying to date a new guy and he motivates me by praising me or just listening to my woes, but then says that he is going to be like me and eat healthy...Sends me a picture of a huge salad with loads of dressing and something I, personally, would never eat and call it healthy.

Seriously, that kind of feedback just breaks my heart. I would LOVE to 'help' any of my friends understand what I do now about losing weight, about feeling healthy and happy. But would they even listen? Would they possibly have the determination and mind-set that I do right now? I'm so passionate about what I am doing that is changing my life, why wouldn't I help someone who is struggling like I was? I can't just agree with the lady saying she is fat and ugly and try to coach her on fixing it. Or disregard this guy for trying to eat, what he thinks is, better.

Sorry for the rant, I just barely know what to say when I am getting positive feedback - Trying to respond to negative feedback is even more difficult.