Haters gonna hate

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  • vespiquenn
    vespiquenn Posts: 1,455 Member
    edited July 2016
    I think I may have interperted this in a more negative light. The fact that you want acknowledgement, whether positive or negative, beyond a "I'm jealous" statement tells me that you might be discussing this more than people care. To be honest, not a single person cares about your weight loss aside from you and maybe your doctor. I'm not saying that this is an intentional act, but what is said after the comments made by the bartender? Did you just say thanks and move on, or did it lead to you discussing it. Same should be looked at for other comments or supposed negative reactions you have encountered. You state the desire to discuss wanting to lose more, so I'm just curious what else is being said.

    Now that isn't to say that these people are not jealous. I have a friend that is actually very thin, but gets very jealous if I get attention from other males and not her when we go out, despite the fact that I am married. It's just who she is and I deal with it because it's more of a reflection on her than me. But somehow I am just doubting this many negative reactions to call for a "haters gonna hate" rant without more going on. When I realized this was happening to me, I started to be more conscious about what I discussed, even if I meant well. So you might want to look into that. Sometimes good intentioned help comes off as arrogant.

    On the other hand, I might be reading this as more negative because I've been up for 28 hours. Haha. The crabbiness is settling in.
  • pdxwine
    pdxwine Posts: 389 Member
    Don't let anyone get to you. You are doing great and doing it for you.

    There are many people who will be "jealous". Some feel that way because they think they cannot do it (they can, they just have not committed to change). Some do not like to see someone else succeed (they may not even realize that they are behaving that way.)

    Just remember, you are doing what is right for you. :)
  • jkp429
    jkp429 Posts: 5 Member
    Weight loss is a battle of will against what feels comfortable and what's difficult. I have lost a lot of weight over the years and gained it back and losing it again. There is no magic to it but you have to set realistic goals that you can reach. Focus on being healthy and the weight loss will follow. Take time to understand why you do the things you do such as:
    1 Eating habits?
    2 How you perceive yourself?
    3 We all have excuses but why?
    We all too often compare our weaknesses to others strengths and that is a combination to fail. My only suggestion is stay positive!!!!!

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