Help... I think I use food as a substitute to an orgasm
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Nyotaimori?
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Ok so I don't get this... You say that DYI sucks because of the lack of intimacy.
How is eating food after he leaves better as far as intimacy goes?5 -
Hi everyone
I don't mean to be crass or anything like that with this thread but I wanna know if anyone has a similar issue
My partner and I have been together for 4 years and not once in that time has he bought me to orgasm during sex (or any way for that matter)
I think I might be using food as a substitute for this pleasure as after he leaves I am dissapojnted and I feel like I want to eat.
I think part of the reason why I can't reach orgasm is the fact that I am a bit body conscious too, but he makes me feel sexy most of the time!!
Aaahh! I don't know
Does anyone else have this issue- filling the great sex void with food!?
Not me.
Are you unable to have an orgasm on your own or just with your partner? Have you had orgasms before this relationship?
I guess I would suggest seeing a therapist and working on your emotional issues and maybe you'll feel better/relax and can enjoy things more. Food is not going to fix things.2 -
We totally need to talk about that.... If you know how to do it yourself, can you try and teach him/her to get your rocks off?
Also, sex makes me hungry... Rawr... Pizza in bed time.2 -
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Hi everyone
I don't mean to be crass or anything like that with this thread but I wanna know if anyone has a similar issue
My partner and I have been together for 4 years and not once in that time has he bought me to orgasm during sex (or any way for that matter)
I think I might be using food as a substitute for this pleasure as after he leaves I am dissapojnted and I feel like I want to eat.
I think part of the reason why I can't reach orgasm is the fact that I am a bit body conscious too, but he makes me feel sexy most of the time!!
Aaahh! I don't know
Does anyone else have this issue- filling the great sex void with food!?
Cucumbers or carrots?1 -
I think self image has a lot to do with sex and orgasms...and we all know that eating fulfills some basic emotional needs...some people who are not in a relationship...should I say a good relationship...tend to overeat. I do, and it could be compensation...DIY is probably a good idea...if you can orgasm you might eat less, or eat healthier, and will start an upward spiral...And you won't be cumming to the table so much....Also once you find what makes you orgasm...communicate that to your partner. People can't read minds....0
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Ok I have to ask, does he care that you don't orgasm with him? Have you told him what you want? Has he tried everything? Is he a cunning linguist?2
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Do you have sex for him or for you? Are you in the mood at the time or do it because you think you 'should' I. E 'I should have sex once a week as that's healthy part of relationship or so hubby isn't not satisfied' the emotional eating is not to do with organ it's a deeper psychological thing than that. It's a form of emotional eating like people eat when depressed or stressed or whatever. I suggest you go see someone and talk through it. You'll be suprised what you unravel and what the root cause is! And will fix both problems!1
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Sorry I am going to ask questions that should be left behind your bedroom doors, but here I go.
Have you been able to orgasm in previous relationships? Can you orgasm by yourself?
Orgasming through penetration is not actually very common it happens more so with stimulating the *kitten*. Is he more of a receiver than a giver? It seems so. If he has never made you orgasm even stimulating your *kitten* then maybe he is lacking some skills in the bedroom. I would say instead asking random strangers on here you need to address this with him.
I think you are looking for a way to pleasure yourself and a lot of times food does just that. If overindulging in food is not what you want to do, only you can change your behavior. You can't blame it on not receiving in the bedroom. Maybe you need to try to get in the mood more. Put on a sexy outfit, get some lube and show him what you've got! I'm sorry he won't do that for you.5 -
zoeysasha37 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Hi everyone
I don't mean to be crass or anything like that with this thread but I wanna know if anyone has a similar issue
My partner and I have been together for 4 years and not once in that time has he bought me to orgasm during sex (or any way for that matter)
I think I might be using food as a substitute for this pleasure as after he leaves I am dissapojnted and I feel like I want to eat.
I think part of the reason why I can't reach orgasm is the fact that I am a bit body conscious too, but he makes me feel sexy most of the time!!
Aaahh! I don't know
Does anyone else have this issue- filling the great sex void with food!?
I don't orgasm with PIV or oral either. I'm just wired that way and don't have a problem with it. Eroscillator and the Hitachi Magic Wand FTW! Both available on Amazon.
Could yoga fix that issue??
Lol I'm just kidding, don't get your panties in a bunch.
Some years back I did try Tantric pelvic massage, to no avail.
You heard me - yoga is not the cure for everything
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Ok so I don't get this... You say that DYI sucks because of the lack of intimacy.
How is eating food after he leaves better as far as intimacy goes?
Not sure if this was a rhetorical question or not, but will answer it as if you were genuinely curious. As she said in her OP, she's disappointed, and filling the void with food. This is a common (albeit unhealthy) coping strategy for all manner of disappointments and feelings one does not wish to feel.
I used to be an emotional eater, but now manage my stress with exercise.
I used to not be able to orgasm with a partner, but after a lot of communication and trial and error, now can.0 -
Edit: No I haven't had this issue. I'll leave it at that. Deleted my last post, more then I wanted to post here
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The poor kitten in this thread.3
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You are responsible for your orgasm. You really need to communicate your needs, he isn't a mind reader. I can't believe he is ok with not assisting with your orgasm.0
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Someone sent me this article and I thought of this thread: http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/02/science/scientists-puzzle-over-a-biological-mystery-the-female-orgasm.html
Of note: "In a 2010 survey, 35.6 percent of women said that they hadn’t had an orgasm the most recent time they had sex."0 -
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