Sick of NEGATIVE comments!!

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  • MissYogapants
    MissYogapants Posts: 106 Member
    I think there are lots of reasons why people try to either sabotage your hard work or just feel a need to put you down when you are feeling so good about yourself, and most of them relate to their own insecurities - they can maybe see you doing what they'd like to do themselves but they haven't got your motivation or inner strength so they need to criticise rather than congratulate. That's thier problem and not yours.
    Also I've come across another reason recently and that that many people particularly in Western society no longer recogise what people should look like at a healthy weight. Studies in the US and the UK have found that most people when shown photographs of people at a good healthy weight tend to identify them as underweight. Also many parents refuse to recognise obesity in their children - it is normal to see the ribsof a 10 year old but many parents would be horrified if that was their child instead thinking they were underweight or that they were not doing their job as a parent correctly. The media always show the extreme examples of obesity to such an extent that we have lost our perspective of what we should actually look like at a healthy normal weight.
    Whatever the reasons, you know yourself that what you have acheived is something to be so proud of so you just have to learn to let their misguided comments roll off you like water off a duck's back.


    This was a very good comment! This really made me start thinking.
  • MissYogapants
    MissYogapants Posts: 106 Member
    I think the best way to reply to that in many cases is simply by informing the person that your weight is none of their business. And if you're feeling sassy, you can add to that, "And if I want your opinion on my weight, I'll give it to you first."

    This is brilliant! I'm SO gonna give back a comment about the weight-commenter's body every time it happens from now on! Perhaps that's the only way for them to maybe slightly understand how much it hurts.
    Nice! :)
  • thetrishwarp
    thetrishwarp Posts: 838 Member
    My mother said that I'm not even allowed to say "size six" or "size eight" in the house anymore because "if you're a six or an eight you don't need to lose weight, you're fine." Sure, I'm fine, but I'm also 10lbs overweight. I'm 5'5" and in a size eight and it's so discouraging that just because I'm smaller than her, my attempts to change my body are "insane" and "obsessive."
  • sloanie1
    sloanie1 Posts: 276 Member
    110 pounds for someone our height (I'm 5 1") is nowhere near anorexic, we are short!! It is a totally healthy weight, well done and keep up the great work
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    I understand. I'm not there yet, but I do understand. I have already posted saying that I am far from skinny (I am, in fact still classified as obese by the BMI scale), and I have people telling me that I need to stop losing weight and that I am getting too skinny! What the hell people, let me get healthy would you?!?!
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    I'm envious! I hope i get thin enough to get these comments some day! I know they bother you and people are stepping over the line of good manners, but I sure look forward the hearing, "you're too thin". It would beat the heck out of teen age boys yelling "oink, oink , oink when I ride by on my bicycle.
  • casie05
    casie05 Posts: 48 Member
    I FEEL U'! This is exactly what happened when I started training for my competition its SO frustrating!! I was doing insanity,Shakeology,& eating healthy and I lost 25 lbs. In about 3-4 months. So it was quick, but it was the right way, my own dad asked me if everything was ok "bc u could see my ribs" I was like, I eat ALL the tome every 2-3 hours lol I promise it's healthy lol. Mt co workers were the someway too. BUT others that know what you're doing and know how fitness works (lol) understand. :-)
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    The first time I went to my doctor, many years ago, I went with the intention of asking about how to lose weight in a healthy way. I was about 147 at 5'5. Certainly in the healthy range, but higher and with more body fat that I wanted.

    When the assistant asked me to step on the scale, I slipped out of my shoes, and she made a "tut-tut" noise, shook her head, and said, "It's always the skinny ones that do that..."

    Uh... Excuse me? I was three pounds away from being "overweight" by BMI standards. I was hardly skinny!

    Which reminds me... I should probably look into finding a new doctor. The only good thing about mine is that she's good about phoning in prescriptions for common problems (like ear & sinus infections) without an office visit. :ohwell:
  • SueGeer
    SueGeer Posts: 1,169 Member
    I'm 5 foot 5, weight 131.6 with BMI of 21.9 - healthy enough.........but would just like to get that last 1.6 off before starting maintenance - it doesn't want to leave :laugh:

    As long as your goals are realistic and healthy for you then stick to them........but, whoever you are & whatever your goals, make sure you know when to stop before you get into the 'unhealthy' bracket. Not everyone is made the same and there are many factors that control our weight & well-being.....

    Sue :smile: x
  • Queen_Mom
    Queen_Mom Posts: 6 Member
    I was so sick of hearing the comments as well. People at work even sent the staff Psychologist to talk to me because they thought I had an eating disorder. I will admit dropping 102 pounds in a year was dramatic, but not eating disorder worthy. My friends and family were very supportive but the closer I got to my current weight, ( I went from 257 to 152 ish) they all started the whole "you're getting to thin" thing. And funny thing is, the staff psychologist helped me to see that these people in my life (including my husband) had NEVER seen me at this weight and my family had not seen me like this in a very long time, so to them I was extremely thin. Over the past few months I have maintained between 150 - 155 and the comments have stopped as people have become used to the "new me." There were times I really wished people would leave me alone and not judge and some of comments were not made out of concern, rather out of pure maliciousness, I knew that and just took the comments "from the source". I feel better about me and I know what I am doing is the right thing for me, my health and my family..those who do not want to be supportive of my changes and lifestyle are not worth my time and energy and I'll probably be around longer than they will :smile:
  • Akiyah
    Akiyah Posts: 57
    Wow, I'm glad I'm not in that position. Although the one time I did get a comment was from someone how hadn't seen me in a couple months.

    Asked me "Are you dropping weight?" when I said yes he asked "Anything wrong?" Huh?? Um...YES...I'm FAT LOL.

    Win! LOL


    You look fantastic....good job!
  • heyjude1358
    heyjude1358 Posts: 45
    I don't think I'll ever have the problem of losing too much weight, or looking too skinny; which is fine, I just wanna get healthy. But I know what you mean about comments based of personal perception.
    Wow, I'm glad I'm not in that position. Although the one time I did get a comment was from someone how hadn't seen me in a couple months.

    Asked me "Are you dropping weight?" when I said yes he asked "Anything wrong?" Huh?? Um...YES...I'm FAT LOL.
    Hah! made me laugh.
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