Sick of NEGATIVE comments!!

Too many vultures sippin on that HATERADE! Eff em don't listen and keep moving you don't need people like that messing up your vibes. Keep doing you babe!

You appear to be in the healthy body weight range for your height, you look great, you feel good, and you are where you want to be. That's all that matters.

Congrats on the weight loss.

I actually have a friend who stopped inviting me to bars and dinner because her reason was that I don't eat or drink. I was shocked! Just because I don't eat or drink as much alcohol as her doesn't mean I don't like to socialize and have a good time. She is the only one who takes notice of my food and alcohol intake, nobody else seems to mind! It's not like I sit there moaning about the calories in each meal or pick at my food either.

It's amazing how threatened some people feel by what is after all just normal social behaviour. She must be really insecure about herself.

I completely understand all of this!

Right now I am 5'5" tall, I weigh around 145 (haven't weighed myself in a while, so it might be a little more or a little less), and I wear a size 8. My goals, however, are to have 12% body fat and wear a size 2, so that means that I need to cut more fat from my body. By Tom Venuto's calculators, I will weigh around 115 pounds when I get to my goals. So obviously that means that I workout and eat at a calorie deficit...

And all I get from people is "you are already skinny" and "you don't need to lose weight" and "you don't want to be that little because that's unhealthy." I am so sick of it!!! It is nowhere near unhealthy. My goals are not to be a stick figure like Angelina Jolie, but I want to be a lean, muscular, bodybuilder type physique where you can see my abs poppin' out and my biceps are nice and strong. I eat at least 1500 calories a day. Maybe their goals are just to lose some weight, but mine are much more precise and specific. In P90X world, I would want to look like Dreya Weber...cause her size and body fat % are very close to my own goals. My size 8 pants would fall right off of her. :grumble:

My hairdresser even told me "Oh God, you don't need to lose a single pound cause you are so tiny." TINY? WHAT??? I might be smaller than her, but I am not "tiny." I find it offensive when people try to belittle my goals like that. They might be thinking they are being nice, but they are truly not!

I totally understand.
I grew up as a slightly chubby teen, whining about how extremely fat I was. Mom always told me, over and over again, that I wasn't fat, that I was beautiful and there was nothing wrong with me.

Then, when I was 19 I moved away from home, to go to university. I had very little money so what happened was I became good with cooking (it's so much cheaper doing every part of the cooking yourself than to use semi-finished products) and stopped eating sweets (I used to eat sweets every day...). I lost about 10 kilos and ended up with a BMI of 21.2, which is very healthy. I felt fantastic, like I'd never felt before. I was constantly so full of energy and felt totally awesome! And that's when it started... the "rescue actions" my mother started. Every time I came home to visit her (I then lived 200 kms away), which was about once or twice a month, she would be complaining over how skinny I'd gotten and how sick it was to be that underweight that I was. She engaged her friends and had them call me and talk to me about how bad my underweight had gotten.

Now looking back I see how insane that was. I was 5'9' (175 cm) and weighed 143 lbs (65 kilos). There was absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Some time after I suffered some rough years which peaked with a depression. A few months ago I weighed 187 lbs (85 kilos). I've turned the ship around and am now at 171 lbs (78 kilos). Of course, with my mother still nagging me, but now it's about how overweight I am...

I'm sick of people telling me that I'm too skinny or too fat. Those two comments hurt just as much, because they mean I'm not good enough.

I think there are lots of reasons why people try to either sabotage your hard work or just feel a need to put you down when you are feeling so good about yourself, and most of them relate to their own insecurities - they can maybe see you doing what they'd like to do themselves but they haven't got your motivation or inner strength so they need to criticise rather than congratulate. That's thier problem and not yours.
Also I've come across another reason recently and that that many people particularly in Western society no longer recogise what people should look like at a healthy weight. Studies in the US and the UK have found that most people when shown photographs of people at a good healthy weight tend to identify them as underweight. Also many parents refuse to recognise obesity in their children - it is normal to see the ribsof a 10 year old but many parents would be horrified if that was their child instead thinking they were underweight or that they were not doing their job as a parent correctly. The media always show the extreme examples of obesity to such an extent that we have lost our perspective of what we should actually look like at a healthy normal weight.
Whatever the reasons, you know yourself that what you have acheived is something to be so proud of so you just have to learn to let their misguided comments roll off you like water off a duck's back.

This was a very good comment! This really made me start thinking.

My mother said that I'm not even allowed to say "size six" or "size eight" in the house anymore because "if you're a six or an eight you don't need to lose weight, you're fine." Sure, I'm fine, but I'm also 10lbs overweight. I'm 5'5" and in a size eight and it's so discouraging that just because I'm smaller than her, my attempts to change my body are "insane" and "obsessive."

I understand. I'm not there yet, but I do understand. I have already posted saying that I am far from skinny (I am, in fact still classified as obese by the BMI scale), and I have people telling me that I need to stop losing weight and that I am getting too skinny! What the hell people, let me get healthy would you?!?!

I FEEL U'! This is exactly what happened when I started training for my competition its SO frustrating!! I was doing insanity,Shakeology,& eating healthy and I lost 25 lbs. In about 3-4 months. So it was quick, but it was the right way, my own dad asked me if everything was ok "bc u could see my ribs" I was like, I eat ALL the tome every 2-3 hours lol I promise it's healthy lol. Mt co workers were the someway too. BUT others that know what you're doing and know how fitness works (lol) understand. :-)

I'm 5 foot 5, weight 131.6 with BMI of 21.9 - healthy enough.........but would just like to get that last 1.6 off before starting maintenance - it doesn't want to leave :laugh:

As long as your goals are realistic and healthy for you then stick to them........but, whoever you are & whatever your goals, make sure you know when to stop before you get into the 'unhealthy' bracket. Not everyone is made the same and there are many factors that control our weight & well-being.....

Sue x