Frustrated...i wanna quit!

daniip_la wrote: »

jolive7 wrote: »

Back problems are NOT an excuse to do no exercise, get a PT/physio and work on some things that you CAN do. I don't get how people can feel ok doing no exercise, I mean you don't have to be in the gym 7 days a week like some of us but do SOMETHING every day. I see people in wheelchairs in the gym!

I don't see how you can possibly give this advice. Do you know what's wrong with OP's back, if they've exhausted all methods to work with it? I don't know if you've ever had serious back problems, but they're not something that can be brushed off with a "just do it anyway" attitude.

OP, I have a compromised spine (it's curved, my vertebrae are twisted, and my lower discs are compressed). I can't lift weights for long without landing myself in bed for several days. You said you're walking, keep that up when you can! The only exercise I can do right now is walk, and it has really helped me.

I agree. Exercise isnt even necessary for weight loss. Everyone has different goals. I injured my knee 3 months ago. Were my *very* short daily walks followed by pain not good enough in the eyes of others? Geez....Cuz it sure as hell was GREAT for me! Course I kept going and am healing nicely with over 5mi/day now ... but still- this is harsh advice from one stranger to another. And walking is great!

Anyway, OP. Have realistic expectations regarding your calories and time frame to reach your goals. *You said you want to lose 55lbs* So 1lb per week is a good goal-so thats 55 weeks.... long. term.

If your new lifestyle is so restrictive that it becomes something tangible that you can "quit" then you are approaching it incorrectly. Slow and steady. You dont like the progress ok- you think you'd feel better "quitting"?..as in just eating all the things and being unhealthy? Heck no!!!
So reevaluate as to why there is no loss- taking into account water retention, hormones, sodium, etc.
I can almost guarantee you its going to be your intake. Digital food scale all the way.
You dont have to starve yourself to lose weight and you wont have long term success that way.

Make sure your logging is on point.
Set your deficit to be 500cals/day=1lb week loss.
In 4 weeks- see how you stack up. Reevaluate and adjust or keep effing going.

Your number of calories you eat depends a lot on your size. Some people on here are saying a 1200 calorie diet is not maintainable. I disagree with this broad statement. I am 5'2", and I currently need to lose 30ish lbs. I eat no more than 1200 calories a day. I have 2 eggs for breakfast (generally hard boiled) and a meat and a veggie for lunch and dinner. If I eat a fatty meat like center cut pork loin or sirloin, I will eat a fibrous vegetable...like green beans or broccoli. If I eat a lean meat like tilapia or chicken breast, I indulge in carby veggies...like rice, pinto beans, red beans, lima beans. This weekend, I plan to do sloppy joes on a high fiber wrap with cheese and either white chicken chili or chicken fajitas on high fiber wraps. If I have a fatty meat for lunch, I will have a lean meat for dinner...and vise versa. It's all about planning.

I always eat publix sugar free popsicles as a dessert, and I generally have one or two 100 calorie fat free pop corn for a snack. Though, I am thinking about going to air popped pop corn.

I think you need more diversity in your diet and to stop stressing. Stress will make it harder to lose weight. You also need to drink plenty of water. I try to drink a gallon a day. I recently stopped eating frozen prepackaged lunches. I find that the home cooking is more nutritious and keeps me more satisfied.

My biggest weakness is that we'll have a work function (luncheon). After having one off meal, I find excuses to continue indulging instead of getting back on track. I am 5'2", 30 years old, no kids, and I weigh 164.9 lbs as of this morning. Granted, that is down overall from my original heaviest weight of 173. I am desperately wanting to get back down to 130 lbs. Though, I would be happy with 130 - 140. I don't know how long it's going to take me, but I'm not giving up. Losing weight and keeping it off requires a lifestyle change. It probably took me about 5 years to get this heavy, so realistically it may take me years to get back to where I was. Maintaining a healthy weight is 80% diet and only 20% exercise. Don't fret if you don't get the exercise in, but try to. Swimming laps may be an option for exercise. It's what I like to do. Focus more on your diet. Losing weight is not easy, but it's so worth the effort.

I am the same weight and height as you and am currently losing 2 lbs a week (average) eating at about 1500 calories. I have a desk job and have yet to get into a regular exercise routine. My guess is that you are being too restrictive (your menu doesn't sound that fun if you are eating it every day) which is why you are leaning towards giving up. Make room for foods you used to have and like - just plan for them. This will make your new lifestyle more sustainable.

You really have not been at this long enough just yet. Don't quit, look at the advice given and keep it up. Nobody is perfect, and your body is going to fight you on the losses from time to time. 11.5 lbs in roughly two weeks was too much to loose in that short of time, so it was probably a lot of water weight. To loose 55 lbs you should be looking at around six months or more time, so you've just scratched the surface. As the weight comes off the back issues won't be as bad hopefully, and maybe you can increase walking distance. That's what I did (well, honestly I walked too far/too often at first and injured myself, but we won't go into that lol - I simply did not give up) and it worked. Do take a look at your macros, make sure you're getting adequate protein. Do some research on the web, it'll help you to build a little muscle which will help protect the back.

Yoga can help with the back pain/spine injuries. Mine was for several bulging discs in my Lumbar area, one had to be surgically removed (partially) years ago. For bulging discs and the such look up "Push Up Extensions", it's a yoga stretch that will help. It saved me several times.

Ive lost 12lb in 5 months and am not quitting. Sometimes this is slow but you have to decide its worth it. For me I know if I quit best case I will only gain back what Ive lost so far. How does that serve me or help me reach my goals?

As for injury I get it. I was unable to walk for 6 weeks and rehabbing for another 4 after a torn meniscus. This is part of why my loss was so slow. I found things I could do though and gradually built my strength and mobility back. I still cant do what I used to but Im getting closer.

I have no real advice to give othef than my own experience but I really hope you keep going.

Holy moly... 23 days with 11.5lbs loss. That's over 3lbs per week lost, which is above the recommended 2lbs per week safe loss.

Did it take you this long to gain the weight?

I think you really need to change your expectations of weight loss.

Stop using cups and spoons for solid and semi solid foods... weigh everything on a food scale that isn't a stock, beverage...