A message for you

momofGD
momofGD Posts: 110 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Yesterday a woman whom I have met maybe three times in the past three years, a woman whom I have never had a conversation with went on an 8 minute Facebook live rant about me, about my weightloss, about how I am doing things "wrong".

You NEED to know that people who do stuff like this, if it's a Facebook live video, a text, a post etc. it is not because YOU are less valuable, or YOU did anything wrong. YOU did not deserve this. Some people just want you to fail, are jealous of your progress or decided you were going to be their target because they aren't happy.

You keep plugging away. You keep doing your own thing. These people are not the ones supporting you, cheering you on, they have no place in your journey.

You are beautiful, amazing and am exceptional human being.

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  • cbusnightowl
    cbusnightowl Posts: 132 Member
    Wow, some people are so toxic! I'm glad you are able to shrug that sort of behavior off so easily. I hope if I'm ever in a similar situation that I'm able to handle it with as much grace as you displayed here. Thank you for posting this!
  • YvetteK2015
    YvetteK2015 Posts: 654 Member
    People like that are energy vampires. They would suck the life out of you if they had the chance. Giving them attention, or letting them think they are under your skin is just feeding them. So.Not.Worth.It.

    Keep staying strong! You are so much better than this b**ch.
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    That woman is absolutely laughable. Low life, indeed.
    She needs the walk of shame.
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    Nothing wrong with her having her opinion. The problems lies in if you put worth in hers. If not, let it go.
  • Coffeebeenz
    Coffeebeenz Posts: 95 Member
    Red_Pill wrote: »
    You know, sometimes you just have to admit to yourself that there's a select portion of humans who are just idiots. No amount of reasoning will put sense in their heads. With this knowlege one just smiles knowing the idiot is doing his/her idiot thing. Poor souls.

    I'm sure you're doing just fine :smile:

    @ me though! ;)
  • courtneyfabulous
    courtneyfabulous Posts: 1,863 Member
    I like your reaction to this- very evolved of you.
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    AnvilHead wrote: »
    Probably trying to sell you (or others) some bogus MLM product like Beachbody, Isagenix, Body by Vi, Advocare, ItWorks, etc.

    I find MLM "coaches" to be the most annoying people ever on social media. I have several friends who became "coaches" and I had to block their posts because I got tired of the incessant shilling.

    Yep, I was thinking this as well. Just someone trying to work a MLM shenanigan, I'm sure. :open_mouth:
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    IIRC, the OP has mentioned that she has followed several Beachbody plans as part of her approach to weight loss.

    OP, I'm sorry that happened and I'm glad you're not letting it get you down.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Catawampous wrote: »
    One of the best things I ever did for myself? Delete Facebook. WIN :)

    Same here, I deleted it when i found MFP.

    Faceache/Fakebook has caused way too many problems and drama's for way too many people
  • Red_Pill
    Red_Pill Posts: 300 Member
    Coffeebeenz wrote: »
    Red_Pill wrote: »
    You know, sometimes you just have to admit to yourself that there's a select portion of humans who are just idiots. No amount of reasoning will put sense in their heads. With this knowlege one just smiles knowing the idiot is doing his/her idiot thing. Poor souls.

    I'm sure you're doing just fine :smile:

    @ me though! ;)

    @Coffeebeenz ... You hollered though *wink*
  • dragon_girl26
    dragon_girl26 Posts: 2,187 Member
    edited October 2016
    cerise_noir wrote: »
    Chieflrg wrote: »
    Nothing wrong with her having her opinion. The problems lies in if you put worth in hers. If not, let it go.

    It's one thing to have an opinion. There's nothing wrong with that, I agree, but it's much more than just an opinion when that opinion is made public to shame someone.

    ^^This.

    It seems odd for someone to go out of their way to do that, though, especially if they don't know you that well. How did she know so much about it to talk about it for that long? Is she on your FB page, or did someone just tell you about this video? Do you post a lot about your weight loss, or are preachy about it? Not blaming you, just saying that some people don't receive that kind of message very well. Maybe it would be a good idea to block or delete her if she's on your friends list.

    Another reason why I never post personal stuff on Facebook in depth..
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    kgeyser wrote: »
    IIRC, the OP has mentioned that she has followed several Beachbody plans as part of her approach to weight loss.

    OP, I'm sorry that happened and I'm glad you're not letting it get you down.

    OP after seeing this I have to ask, are you a coach or talking a lot about BB products on FB?
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    edited October 2016
    cerise_noir wrote: »
    Chieflrg wrote: »
    Nothing wrong with her having her opinion. The problems lies in if you put worth in hers. If not, let it go.

    It's one thing to have an opinion. There's nothing wrong with that, I agree, but it's much more than just an opinion when that opinion is made public to shame someone.

    Perhaps don't give people the power to shame you by giving worth to their words.

    I've yet to hear how this is shaming. "Shamer" thinks the OP is wrong. The OP thinks the "shamer" is wrong and posted it on a public forum as well. They have a disagreement, plain and simple.

  • JDixon852019
    JDixon852019 Posts: 312 Member
    I had a facebook friend that does that beach body coach thing make comments about food I posted about saying I wouldn't be able to reach my goals if I ate artificial sweeteners. She was super into clean eating, organic hippy stuff. She was by no means trying to be a jerk, I believe her intentions were good. Well I lost 30lbs this year hitting my weight loss goal while drinking wine and eating halo top.
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    edited October 2016
    Christine_72 wrote: »
    Catawampous wrote: »
    One of the best things I ever did for myself? Delete Facebook. WIN :)

    Same here, I deleted it when i found MFP.

    Faceache/Fakebook has caused way too many problems and drama's for way too many people

    I guess that depends entirely on who's on your friend list. ;)

    I have friends whose philosophies in a lot of areas don't match mine. Kind of like in life. As long as they don't push their agenda on me, or try to make me 'wrong' for not doing it their way, it's all good. If someone were to go on the attack for any reason, it's simple enough to delete and block them.

    The vast majority of people I have on Facebook are old friends that I wouldn't be in touch with a lot any other way. But keeping in touch - even if we don't get the chance to get together because of geography - enriches my life by being able to be a small part of theirs. If only one apple is rotten, why throw out the whole barrel?

    Edited to add: I'm a Canadian, but a lot of people on my FL are American because I lived and worked in Atlanta for five years. I have very little interest in politics in general, and American politics in particular. Especially this time around!

    A lot of my US friend's feeds are currently filled-to-overflowing with stupid memes running down one or the other of the two candidates, and it bores me witless. Instead of deleting them, though, I've simply unfollowed them until after this insanity passes, so that their stuff isn't currently clogging up my feed. I'll reinstate them in December because - other than politically based bashing - I really enjoy them and what they have to say.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    report her post to Facebook... and block her from your newsfeed. she will no longer see any of your posts.. she'll have to find another victim. Horrible woman!
  • yayamom3
    yayamom3 Posts: 939 Member
    And that's why I quit Facebook. It was too much like being in high school again. It was actually causing me to feel terrible about myself. The day I closed my account was liberating.
  • ericwhitt
    ericwhitt Posts: 87 Member
    Just to play devils advocate, is it possible this person was actually trying to help out without wanting to directly go to you so you felt singled out? Obviously I didn't see it and don't know the tone or message, but maybe it was them trying to help you in their own way. Without knowing anything about either of you, you're "right" way might be dangerous and they might be trying to help. Not all criticism is meant to be mean and put people down.

    Again, I don't know if any of this applies to your situation and I'm not trying to blame you, but just wanted to say it because so many people turn down good solid advice because they feel it doesn't apply to them.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Haha I'd be all over her face and showing that it does work...

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