Sick of being fat

AnvilHead · October 2016

MonicaRAmbs wrote: »

All the above advice has been given to millions of people and we have a nation of grossly obese people. Go to www.dietdoctor.com and switch to a fat burner and never look back. Find out why a calorie is not a calorie. No 2 calories are he same. No hunger, huge fat loss, mental clarity, sound sleep, improved mood, all heart markers get better. There is a saying that goes like this, "Doing the same thing over and over again, excepting a different result, is called insanity". I challenge you to try Nutritional Ketosis and astound and surprise the *kitten* out of everyone.

The other advice you've gotten in the thread makes much more sense than the above. Keto is not magic, a calorie deficit is required to lose weight no matter what you're eating or how often you're eating it. Dietdoctor is a derp site full of misinformation and woo. You can most certainly lose weight on a ketogenic diet, but it's not any faster or more efficient than any other way of eating and still requires that you be in a caloric deficit.

Naija82 · October 2016

If you are out and about a lot you probably are not able to weigh your food. I remember when I finally got my scale I was shocked at some of the things I thought were only Xgrams were actually double that!

amandavgomez · October 2016

queenliz99 wrote: »

Do you use a food scale to weigh everything?

No. I don't.

SLLRunner · October 2016

amandavgomez wrote: »

queenliz99 wrote: »

Do you use a food scale to weigh everything?

No. I don't.

If you had no metabolism, you would be dead. I'm serious.

You've been tested for everything under the sun and are fine. In this case, you are eating more than you realize. Science is evidence based and proves that you will lose weight if you eat too little, gain weight if you eat to much and maintain if you eat about the same as you burn.

The evidence for you is that you are either maintaining or gaining weight, which means you are eating too much.

Honestly, go get that scale for $25 at Walmart or some other store. You will be surprised when you find out your eyeballs are not good portion control devices.

You can do this, I know you can!

Also, thank you for your hard work with the State Farm Catastrophe Team. I believe your company was present during some of the wildfires in Lake County, California last year.

amandavgomez · October 2016

I just want to eat like a normal person. Realisticly, I'm not going to "work out". I'm tired, I have to many other things to do, and I'm often in pain from a bad back.

I can try to move every hour, get at least 10000 steps a day and make healthier choices when I eat. That's all I got time for. My diet has to match my families diet. I'm not buying and preparing special meals for just me. I'm to the point where I eat to get rid of the pain in my stomach or head, or sometimes because I'm bored. I hate dealing with food, I don't even care if I drank a protein shake for every meal and never ate food again. I'd still gain another 40+ lbs by next year. And frankly, I'm sick of being fat. Sick of feeling like crap. Sick of trying to find time for the gym. It's not as simple as having a calorie deficit. I stopped eating what they gave me for my calories burned over a week ago. Most days I have a deficit.

Treehugger_88 · October 2016

Log EVERYTHING you eat! I did fieldwork for a few months with a girl your height and weight (we were out in the bush together collecting data for 14 hours a day) . She claimed to eat super healthy, log all her food and have no metabolism. Yet she would constantly snack on little baggies of crackers, cheese, grapes, pepperettes, trail mix, protein bars, CLIF bars, apples, tiny juice boxes, mini yogurts, all day every day that she wouldn't bother logging because she thought they individually didn't have enough calories to matter. But she didn't realize they would add up to at least 2000 per day. Not saying that's what you are doing, but its so easy for little handfuls of food here and there to be unnoticed and yet add up. If you are gaining weight, you are eating too much.

SLLRunner · October 2016

amandavgomez wrote: »

I just want to eat like a normal person. Realisticly, I'm not going to "work out". I'm tired, I have to many other things to do, and I'm often in pain from a bad back.

I can try to move every hour, get at least 10000 steps a day and make healthier choices when I eat. That's all I got time for. My diet has to match my families diet. I'm not buying and preparing special meals for just me. I'm to the point where I eat to get rid of the pain in my stomach or head, or sometimes because I'm bored. I hate dealing with food, I don't even care if I drank a protein shake for every meal and never ate food again. I'd still gain another 40+ lbs by next year. And frankly, I'm sick of being fat. Sick of feeling like crap. Sick of trying to find time for the gym. It's not as simple as having a calorie deficit. I stopped eating what they gave me for my calories burned over a week ago. Most days I have a deficit.

Amanda,

You can eat what your family eats, you just need to eat smaller portions. My first suggestion is to buy that food scale, but another alternative is to simply cut your portions in half and go by trial and error.

You don't have to exercise to lose weight, it's not at all necessary. You already have an active job where you're on your feet 12 hours a day, so you have movement.

Finally, you believe you have a deficit but you obviously do not if you are not losing weight. It is as simple as a calorie deficit, but sometimes finding that sweet spot can be a pain.

I suggest you stop focusing on the negative and start focusing on the positive. If I can do this after a lifetime of obesity, you can too!

At all times the container is half full, not half empty.

jennifer_417 · October 2016

When it comes to losing weight, calories are king. Literally all that is necessary is to have a calorie deficit. You can eat any food you want or like, just eat fewer calories than you burn.
Plug your numbers into MFP and eat the number of calories it gives you. It's that simple.

applesandtapeline · October 2016

Keep your head up and don't give up. Start with small things like eating consistently, 5 times a day, small meals, weigh them before eating, log on mfp, so you know what and how much you're putting into your body. Not eating or leaving huge time gaps in between your meals may actually harm your health. Protein shakes are useless if you don't work out, meal replacements are just a gimmick. Eat good, whole food, fruits and veggies. It fuels your body to do it's functions and makes you feel good, whole food is not your enemy.
But most importantly - take care of yourself physically and mentally. Wish you success.

GottaBurnEmAll · October 2016

amandavgomez wrote: »

I just want to eat like a normal person. Realisticly, I'm not going to "work out". I'm tired, I have to many other things to do, and I'm often in pain from a bad back.

I can try to move every hour, get at least 10000 steps a day and make healthier choices when I eat. That's all I got time for. My diet has to match my families diet. I'm not buying and preparing special meals for just me. I'm to the point where I eat to get rid of the pain in my stomach or head, or sometimes because I'm bored. I hate dealing with food, I don't even care if I drank a protein shake for every meal and never ate food again. I'd still gain another 40+ lbs by next year. And frankly, I'm sick of being fat. Sick of feeling like crap. Sick of trying to find time for the gym. It's not as simple as having a calorie deficit. I stopped eating what they gave me for my calories burned over a week ago. Most days I have a deficit.

Oh, Amanda, I can feel how frustrated you are.

Moving every hour and getting your 10,000 steps is enough. You don't need to join a gym to lose weight.

You don't need to eat different foods than your family either.

The thing is, you have to create a calorie deficit. To truly create a deficit, you need to be ACCURATE. It really is as simple as that.

You said yourself you weren't using a food scale, and that's been your problem. You only thought you were creating a deficit.

If you're not weighing and measuring the portions of food you're eating, you really don't know how much you're eating. Scientific studies have actually been done on this and show that even dietitians grossly underestimate how much food they eat. You cannot rely on rough estimates. We're just not good at it.

Get a food scale. Walmart has inexpensive ones. Weigh your solid foods. Measure your liquids. Choose accurate data base entries. And be patient. The weight will come off.

Calorie counting does work. But you have to do it properly.

courtneyfabulous · October 2016

Portions matter. You totally can eat like a normal person, just need to know how many calories are in things and eat the right amount.

I thought I was eating so clean and healthy and was exercising a LOT... but with no weight loss and actually some weight gain... but then I started tracking my food and discovered I was eating at maintenance calories and above most of the time. I started keeping my calories in check and finally am slowly but surely losing.

Recently I made my usual oatmeal serving for breakfast - but I hadn't had it since I started counting calories, and man was I surprised!! I counted up the calories it had over 500!! It's healthy food too- 1/3 cup rolled oats, almond milk, chia seeds, some slivered almonds and a tiny bit of maple syrup. But it all adds up and the portion was a bit large too, I'll probably cut it to 1/4 cup of oats and fewer nuts next time.

The fruit & yogurt breakfasts I'd been having lately rarely break 250 calories. But if you asked me to guess I'd never know the oatmeal was double the calories! That's why it's important to track & measure.

CMNVA · October 2016

Just took a peek at your diary. I realize you are on the road, but you don't really seem to be logging everything or you are seriously skipping meals. On top of that, and again I realize you are on the road, but what you are eating is a LOT of heavily processed foods. These will make you feel terrible as well as retain water and cause you to want to eat more of them. They are manufactured to make you crave them with the fat/salt/sweet combination. Not sure what towns you are in but surely there are some better food choices you can pick to get some more nutrition and less sodium.

Bearbo27 · October 2016

amandavgomez wrote: »

I just want to eat like a normal person. Realisticly, I'm not going to "work out". I'm tired, I have to many other things to do, and I'm often in pain from a bad back.

I can try to move every hour, get at least 10000 steps a day and make healthier choices when I eat. That's all I got time for. My diet has to match my families diet. I'm not buying and preparing special meals for just me. I'm to the point where I eat to get rid of the pain in my stomach or head, or sometimes because I'm bored. I hate dealing with food, I don't even care if I drank a protein shake for every meal and never ate food again. I'd still gain another 40+ lbs by next year. And frankly, I'm sick of being fat. Sick of feeling like crap. Sick of trying to find time for the gym. It's not as simple as having a calorie deficit. I stopped eating what they gave me for my calories burned over a week ago. Most days I have a deficit.

Here's the thing... You literally won't gain fat if you are truly eating at a deficit. So if you are gaining 40 lbs a year, you ARE eating too many calories. You mentioned you don't use a food scale. I guarantee THAT is your problem. You need to weigh out everything. Do not use measuring cups and spoons. Do not guesstimate. You mention wanting to just eat like a normal person. Are you meaning you just want to eat without measuring or thinking about it? If your view of a portion is off, you won't be able to do that right now. I always thought my "cutting back" would help me lose weight. I couldn't understand why I kept gaining. Then I got a food scale and began to weigh my food. Magically the weight is coming off.

Also, you need to pick which you prefer, gaining weight and being heavy or losing weight. You said you don't have time to exercise and you are always tired. I currently work nights, take over the kids when I get home so hubby goes to work. I get my kids up and dressed and get the oldest to school. The 4 year old stays home with me and has to be cared for. I get maybe 3-4 hours of sleep on work days. I am literally exhausted much of the time. I don't do any crazy exercising. I do a 25 min workout did and work to hit my 10,000 steps and that's it. My weight loss has been primarily in the kitchen. You don't need to hit the gym everyday or even do anything too exhausting. Make sure you're food intake is accurate (food scale) and I promise you'll lose.

jgnatca · October 2016

Get a six pack of V8 for road trip veggies. Microwave popcorn gives you high volume for low cal.

I wonder if cortisol/stress is related to your weight retention.

Even fun stress from an important/meaningful job is stress.

amandavgomez · October 2016

Ok. Good feedback. As for having better options for food here, not really. I've scoured google. I picked up some snacks and grapes at Walmart last night. Since hurricane Mathew hit half the resteruants are closed still.

I don't like deli meat sandwiches and that's about as healthy as it gets (Subway type places).

I will buy a scale.

A want to eat normal as in eat what everybody else eats.

CMNVA · October 2016

amandavgomez wrote: »

Ok. Good feedback. As for having better options for food here, not really. I've scoured google. I picked up some snacks and grapes at Walmart last night. Since hurricane Mathew hit half the resteruants are closed still.

I don't like deli meat sandwiches and that's about as healthy as it gets (Subway type places).

Sorry to hear that your options are limited. That does make it very hard. I often take it for granted that I live in a bustling area with lots of options, so even when I am stuck eating out, I can usually grab a salad or lean soup/chili at Panera or something like that. Do you have a Wendy's where you are. Their chili is often a go-to for people watching their calories on the road. I think they do have some options there.

halimaiqbal00 · October 2016

I'm glad you decided on getting a scale. Guaranteed you will lose if you weigh everything meticulously and are at a deficit. Also, like someone else said previously, eat what the family eats but have smaller portions. Also, bulk up on veg that are low in calories and high in vitamins and fibre. They will help keep you satiated. I can sense your frustration and know this whole thing can feel overwhelming but seriously, it's not as difficult as we make it. Weigh everything and eat at a deficit. Don't kill yourself with exercise...the 10000 steps a day is awesome! All the best to you on your journey. You got this! Please keep us updated of your progress x

Evamutt · October 2016

My hubby lost all his weight by replacing some of his meals using the nutribullit. you can buy fresh veggies/fruit(I buy frozen tropical fruit), unsweetened almond milk, lite yogurt & add spinach(or whatever veggie you like) you can also add protein powder, rolled oats, nuts, flaxseed etc. good for kids for inbetween snack too

jgnatca · October 2016

Very often I eat what everyone else is having, but half. It sounds like you might need to pack personal supplies if the local options just don't cut it. I always throw a couple energy bars on my pack (cut in half) so I don't end up eating loads of fries or some other calorie laden delicacy.
Hubby carries an apple with him if we are going out for fast food.

One slice of pizza with a side salad.
Half a protein bar.
Burger with salad instead of fries.
Muscle milk (the whole thing as a meal replacement)

Tblackdogs · October 2016

I eat at Subway and I don't like their meat. I get a six inch veggie and even with mayo or oil and vinegar it's around 400 calories. I totally get what your saying about just wanting to eat and not think about it. But one advantage of being on the road is that you don't have to eat the way your family does. You could eat a good protein bar for breakfast (bring them from home if you have to), a Subway veggie sub for lunch and then most anything for dinner as long as it isn't a big portion. Soup is high in sodium but very filling and not necessarily high in calories. You can do it! A lot of people do!

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