Why do people do this ?

So many people will knock you when what you need is support. I don't talk about my diet to anyone, because I know that will happen to me too. So I keep my diet here. There's so much help and advise here.

pinkste78 wrote: »

ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.

Fabulous that you've lost almost 30 pounds and are close to "Onederland". You must feel terrific. That is serious dedication. Sorry to hear that your family is trying to undo your progress.

applesandtapeline wrote: »

So people on FB commenting that you don't eat much, reasures you of your diet progress, and in return is some kind of motivation for you..? As long as it works.
There are features on FB to avoid such posts ppl. No need to hate.

No one is hating... Just stop.

The answer is probably that they care about you and you have not communicated your goals or concerns well. Sit down with your family and explain your healthy weight loss plan and what is a healthy weight. Let them know they can eat what they want but you will not be eating as much.
It may be people repeatedly seeing messages on facebook that you are eating under your calorie goal that makes them think you are not eating enough. Turn off the messages or eat to your goal.
Did people really never eat and offer you these foods before you started losing weight? It may be you are over-restricting and just being more sensitive. Fit foods you find tempting in your calorie goal more often.
Don't talk about it if you don't want input.

I made a decision this time not to talk about my weight loss to anyone I knew. I talk about it with anonymous internet strangers. I eat normal food so I don't look like I'm dieting. I don't post on facebook that I lost weight. If someone offers something I just say thank you but I don't want it right now unless I want it and can fit it in my goals. It has been easier not telling people everything.

SusanMFindlay wrote: »

pinkste78 wrote: »

Ok, I think everyone thinks I'm starving myself or something. Is 1600 calories for someone who is 5'2 and active not enough or something ? I post what I eat on facebook and my friend tells me I need to eat more. I usually eat a little less so my post says "Candice was under her calorie goal for the day" almost every time. She tells me I'm not eating enough when I go to work. I live with my parents and younger brother, my brother orders pizza all the time with coke, trying to get me to eat it lol. My parents are trying to get me to eat things like chocolate covered almonds from Trader Joes and candy coated roasted peanuts. I think they think I'm depriving myself , which I'm not, I weigh like 203 right now used to be 230 at the beginning of this year. It just seems like everyone's trying to thwart my plans

I'd argue that 1600 is a little low for an active teen who weighs more than 200 pounds. (I don't know whether you're a teen or young adult, but thought you might be a teen from the comment about living with your parents and brother.) Not crazy low or scary low, but lower than an active teen at that weight needs to go. Even if you're a young adult, 1800 would likely be more appropriate if you're quite active.

That said, you don't need the candy coated nuts, pop or pizza unless *you* are the one who wants them. Like others have said, stop sharing the food diary on Facebook and tell people (nicely) to mind their own business.

She's not a teen or a young adult. Also, she could probably get away with eating more, but she may also have her goal set to lose 2lbs a week, which is not unhealthy. I do agree that she could probably get away with eating a bit more, but we also don't know what her definition of active is. Does that mean she's on her feet most of the day while also exercising 5-6 days a week? or getting 10k steps daily? or exercising 5 days a week? So a definitive answer for how many calories she should be eating can't really be given. She could have started eating at 1800 calories and wasn't losing at the rate she wanted.