If someone was rude to you when you were fat...

jmgj27
jmgj27 Posts: 531 Member
edited September 29 in Chit-Chat
and now want to get in your pants. What would you do?

I would usually say screw him but he is REALLY hot and I've been known to take things the wrong way a fair few times in the past (:explode: ) so I'm not all that sure he was being that rude before anyway - more like 'thanks but no thanks'.

Would I be totally debasing myself if I flirted back?
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  • joybell32
    joybell32 Posts: 252 Member
    nothing wrong with flirting back, just don't go any farther than that...unless he is REALLLLLLLYYYYYYYY HAWT!!! (jk!)
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    EFF HIM!

    He is a ****. you deserve better.
  • Clew
    Clew Posts: 910 Member
    I'm the kind of person who if someone was rude to me bout my appearance in the past, they can go eff themselves from there on out. But that's just me. :) If you feel comfortable with it, that's all you need to know! :drinker:
  • jujubean1992
    jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
    i would say don't you wish you wouldn't have turned me down :smile: after shamelessly flirting with him.
  • Lets_Do_It
    Lets_Do_It Posts: 202
    This has happened to me lately too! There's nothing wrong with flirting back- but let him "eat his heart out" lol.
  • SarahofTwins
    SarahofTwins Posts: 1,169 Member
    Sounds like a jerk! He should have liked you whether you were bigger or skinnier....and now its all good? Noo thanks to him:grumble:
  • tinalatina
    tinalatina Posts: 499 Member
    ugh been there. Ie: Last year was my 10 year High School reunion and No one Recognized me. Stupid jerks that were mean to me were hitting on me and I was like "gross!" never a million years!
  • anamercedez
    anamercedez Posts: 19
    Im with jennamarie!!!!!!! "F" him!!!!!!! I wouldnt even talk to his *kitten*!!!!!:smile::smile:
  • jmgj27
    jmgj27 Posts: 531 Member
    i would say don't you wish you wouldn't have turned me down :smile: after shamelessly flirting with him.

    Ooo, I like that one. Mind you, that requires self-control and I haven't been so hot on that with the opposite sex of late... :blushing:
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    Oh shoot people asked me about this and what I would do. I simply said that I would tell them, "I wasnt good enough to date before when I was heavy, but now I am? Go take a flying leap jerkwad (thats the nicest way - which I may not be so nice)
  • sbwood888
    sbwood888 Posts: 953 Member
    If he was rude to me before, I would NOT associate with him. Hot or not, he's an *kitten*.
  • ChelDM
    ChelDM Posts: 145
    Hahaha.....That is a great question...I would definitely flirt with him...Then...just when it is getting good...Tell him that maybe next time he will think twice about insulting someone's weight...

    Never look back at him...Keep in mind if you feel tempted it may be for some affirmation...He was a jerk then..he is a jerk now, trust me.

    Good luck Hun!
  • treehugginpam
    treehugginpam Posts: 1,129 Member
    If it were me I'd probably flirt with him and then not let him go anywhere, just to annoy the crap out of him. Also it would feel good to know that a hot guy wants me AND I can turn him down knowing that another one, probably a hotter one with a better personality, will be right around the corner. :smile:
  • scante60
    scante60 Posts: 106 Member
    I would flirt like crazy, then leave him hanging at the end of the night!!!
  • jend114
    jend114 Posts: 1,058 Member
    i would say don't you wish you wouldn't have turned me down :smile: after shamelessly flirting with him.

    That exactly!
  • MsMadmagic
    MsMadmagic Posts: 66
    I would say "No way" he's obviously shallow and there are plenty of guys out that who deserve your attention, he doesn't sound like one of them.
  • minburke
    minburke Posts: 241 Member
    I had that when I lost a heap of weight at boarding school. I just let them buy my drinks and then say it was great catching up see ya!
  • zombiesama
    zombiesama Posts: 755 Member
    He sounds like a POS!! So nope.
  • TinaDay1114
    TinaDay1114 Posts: 1,328 Member
    I say flirt with him, set a date, and then stand him up. When he asks why, say you're too hot for him now. (That's the EVIL side of me talking.)
  • angelicdisgrace
    angelicdisgrace Posts: 2,071 Member
    It's so sad. When I was bigger, I would not be taken seriously. Now that I have an hour glass figure and can wear heels, people give me respect and attention and take me seriously.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    I would give him blue balls....
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Well, what did he do before that you aren't sure whether it was rude or not?
  • cobarlo14
    cobarlo14 Posts: 582 Member
    My advice:
    take it slow and see if he is genuine. Take your time with this (Make him wait.......weeks before giving anything up....physical)
    He might be trying to see if he can charm you to get the goodies....

    Have some fun :)
  • jmgj27
    jmgj27 Posts: 531 Member
    I would give him blue balls....

    Ha! Hysterical. That sounds like a lot of fun. :bigsmile:
  • GalaxyDuck
    GalaxyDuck Posts: 406 Member
    I personally wouldn't. If he was being rude to you before you lost weight, he was basically giving you a glimpse at the type of person he is. If you were to start dating him, and he were to start making rude comments to someone who was overweight, wouldn't you feel awful? I would, because I would know how it felt like to be in that position and have people make fun of me.

    Being hot on the outside but a terrible person on the inside doesn't sound like an appealing partner. I would rather be with someone who's a decent person.
  • jmgj27
    jmgj27 Posts: 531 Member
    Well, what did he do before that you aren't sure whether it was rude or not?

    Basically - I made a pass at him - he did talk to me but it was pretty short answers and although he wasn't outright rude, it was clear he didn't want to talk to me. Not so bad in itself. But we go to the same gym and he then started really obviously avoiding me - turning in mid-walk, disappearing behind machines etc. I wasn't chasing him round the gym at all. Once I realised he wasn't interested I just didn't talk to him again. He made me feel like I was radioactive or something.

    See - it's not that cut and dried. I do err on the over-sensitive side though so my friends are sceptical about how embarrassing it was for me and I can't blame them.
  • ket_the_jet
    ket_the_jet Posts: 1,257 Member
    I would usually say screw him
    Sounds like you are saying that either way.
    -wtk
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    How would you feel about yourself afterward is what you need to be focused on. That's for you to answer to yourself honestly.
  • rmsrws
    rmsrws Posts: 639 Member
    If you were not good enough for him when you were bigger...........He is not good enough for you NOW!!!!!

    Torment him. Flirt a little act like you might be interested in him, BUT NEVER GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY or NIGHT!!!!
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    and now want to get in your pants. What would you do?

    I would usually say screw him but he is REALLY hot and I've been known to take things the wrong way a fair few times in the past (:explode: ) so I'm not all that sure he was being that rude before anyway - more like 'thanks but no thanks'.

    Would I be totally debasing myself if I flirted back?

    how do you feel about the fact that he is into only because you're now hot? your personality wasn't enough to encourage him to be POLITE to you before. He is obviously a neanderthal.

    Having said that, now that you're hot has your personality changed? are you more out going than before? Skinny me and fat me are totally different. Fat me is lame and annoying and even I don't particularly like her, I'm sure you are awesome at all sizes :) but that might also factor in.
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