ever feel like u can't?

ardysedwardsmcgrath
ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
edited November 13 in Motivation and Support
ever feel like u can't do this? like everything u do &that scale wont budge? u think y bother?but then the other part of u says jus keep going .. u can do this.. ? im feeling blahhhh
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  • TreyTnt9
    TreyTnt9 Posts: 104 Member
    Thanks a lot. I'm giving up now. :/
  • TnZMom
    TnZMom Posts: 222 Member
    ^ :'(

    Yes, I feel like that sometimes. It helps to think about long term progress. Even if you don't get results right away, if you keep working at it, you will at least get a little better. Hang in there.
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    thanks all! :) i agree keep withit even though dangold scale hates moving.. sorry trey tht .. plz keep hanging in there.. i didnt mean to throw u off! :( we can do this right? plug alittle ea.day if we can.. like u said jeromebarry1 yes u can yes u can.. yes i can yes i can! :)purchasing soon a elliptical to hop on to when i m bored or dont wanna do snowy weather.. :)excerise im hoping itll help me those long winter mos still slim down or keep body doing good :) is the goal..
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    sweet!! i think we all most go thru this.. ya i dont wanna keep going up like im.. ughs.. ive been in the 240s since middle of summer.. i got once in july to 229&then went right back up.. seems impossible at times i need more excerise&eating better..
  • QueenAnne94101
    QueenAnne94101 Posts: 4 Member
    We ALL go thru this with one glaring exception: the people to lose their weight don't let these slip-ups and slow-downs derail them. I have a friend who lost 74 lbs in two years, and she had so many stories just like yours, but at the end of the day/week/month of set backs, she just forgave herself and got back on track. Honestly, we both started at the same time and she is done and maintaining; I derailed and didn't get back on after my screw ups, and here I am two years later only 16 lbs down instead of 68 (my goal). So I am getting back on the rails after 6 months of pouting. I hope for you that this is only a short blip before you get back on the rails and doesn't turn into a 6 month weight-gaining pout, like mine. Sadly, I speak from (frustrating) experience. LOL! Good Luck!!
  • thekatspjs
    thekatspjs Posts: 20 Member
    I feel like that all the time. I have never been successful losing weight. I really have never been able to diet and consistently exercise. I know I need to create a calorie deficit but how... there are so many approaches. My head spins with all the different approaches...
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    thanks... yai hope its just doesn't hang on me too long cuz i m already feeling like im gaining.. Im also bumming having some emotional times dating so almost makes me feel no1wants me even though at one time i had lost alot.. but bumps im not doing that great.. Im like u queen Anne.. gaining.. ive been doing this for a 3-4 yrs now.. maybe lost now 20 lbs b4 was close to 40 at one time.. ugh.. i need to get back with it. I wish i could afford to work out too.. maybe that wood help me.. i need more excerise .. i jus havne't been with it.. now the holidays.. ughs..
    seems like me too not being successful losing it all.. i go up & down.. :(
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    Afford to workout? Do you not have spare time to go for a walk or do free exercises found online? There are tons of things you can do for exercise that cost nothing and plenty of things you can do with minimal time.
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »
    thanks... yai hope its just doesn't hang on me too long cuz i m already feeling like im gaining.. Im also bumming having some emotional times dating so almost makes me feel no1wants me even though at one time i had lost alot.. but bumps im not doing that great.. Im like u queen Anne.. gaining.. ive been doing this for a 3-4 yrs now.. maybe lost now 20 lbs b4 was close to 40 at one time.. ugh.. i need to get back with it. I wish i could afford to work out too.. maybe that wood help me.. i need more excerise .. i jus havne't been with it.. now the holidays.. ughs..
    seems like me too not being successful losing it all.. i go up & down.. :(

    Exercise on you tube, fitnessblender is free. Can just start with 20 mins a day and build on it
  • Morgaen73
    Morgaen73 Posts: 2,817 Member
    ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »
    ever feel like u can't do this? like everything u do &that scale wont budge? u think y bother?but then the other part of u says jus keep going .. u can do this.. ? im feeling blahhhh

    All the time ... but then you get up and you do it because ... goals.
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    ok ok usmcmp!;ya ive been a indeptent woman for some time.. yes i can do this.. jus puttin effort into it.. my duaghter say to me yesterday mom ur never gonna get there if u keep not taking care of yourself.. ugh.. ya ive been putting on weight again i can feel it.. my legs r not been good... either has the back.. goal is tomorrow eat right look up these free sites for excerise&also get out in walk/bike.. ive got a elliptical on order... my next drs appt is march i dont wanna look like a failure & gained.. i go back to idaho for granddaughters 2nd bday i was wanting to lose 50 by then.. thats a push for me.. postivie thoughts i can do this.. ive been also wanting a man back in my life.. seems like i dont have one ... i like some1and i think he likes me but im fat. whos gonna want a fatty? lol
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    i thoght if i worked out i could lose it faster.. :)
  • PeachesNcreamgal
    PeachesNcreamgal Posts: 357 Member
    Yes it's demoralizing sometimes when the scale doesn't budge but I like what eating healthy does for my state of mind and overall well being <3
  • Grey_1
    Grey_1 Posts: 1,139 Member
    ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »
    ok ok usmcmp!;ya ive been a indeptent woman for some time.. yes i can do this.. jus puttin effort into it.. my duaghter say to me yesterday mom ur never gonna get there if u keep not taking care of yourself.. ugh.. ya ive been putting on weight again i can feel it.. my legs r not been good... either has the back.. goal is tomorrow eat right look up these free sites for excerise&also get out in walk/bike.. ive got a elliptical on order... my next drs appt is march i dont wanna look like a failure & gained.. i go back to idaho for granddaughters 2nd bday i was wanting to lose 50 by then.. thats a push for me.. postivie thoughts i can do this.. ive been also wanting a man back in my life.. seems like i dont have one ... i like some1and i think he likes me but im fat. whos gonna want a fatty? lol
    Hey...you do not want someone who's only going to want you because of the way you look. And being overweight does not make you "a failure". It just means you're a person who isn't happy with where they're at. Be a little kinder to yourself.

    I would suggest taking the advice on the forum here - these folks know how to do it, and also visit the "Success stories" thread for inspiration. What some of these folks have accomplished is just amazing. You can do it too.


  • Arizona_C
    Arizona_C Posts: 1,476 Member
    edited November 2016
    I can relate, I never thought I could.

    For years I put myself down, felt victim to everything from bad genes to poor destany. Litteraly years, like twenty of them, no kidding.

    I thought I was doomed to live overweight and misrable forever. I gave up before even making the first step. Or repeating the same one step forward one step backwards thing.

    With time and lots of failures I am finally at a moment where I feel really good, I have lost weight and found strenght and confidence, I enjoy doing sports and living healthy.

    Don't give up! But do look for the solutions elsewhere. It probably be out of your comfort zone.

    What holds you back?
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    thanks Arizona C&Grey i do get on here everyday read the discussions.. i try to track everyday.. ive also got a journal i write down what ive ate what my scale says how im feeling.. &etc.. Im not sure whats holding me back? ill have to keep that in my mind &think y. i was actually having ppl tell me how good i was looking&how much weight id lost.. that was great hearing.. i need to continue to post my pics of my journey of me.. like this one on here to where i was after what 10 lbs lost&so forth maybe thatll keep me motivated.. when i had family pic yrs ago i thought next family pic i wanna be thinner not looking like a cow.. im resting in bed alittle bit longer N then gonna get up go excerise b4 going groc shopping.. for tonites evening thanksgiving meal.. its only time i can get it in due to every1s working.. thanks again for positive thoughts :)
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »
    ever feel like u can't do this? like everything u do &that scale wont budge? u think y bother?but then the other part of u says jus keep going .. u can do this.. ? im feeling blahhhh

    I've been attempting to lose weight for over 15 years. I've given up several times. It didn't make my life or health better to give up the effort.
    I've stuck with MFP and watching my calorie intake for 2 years now. I am still 10 lbs overweight at this point. I maintain more often than I lose now. My quality of life is so much better though so I'm not giving up even if it is much harder now.

    If you are having trouble sticking to your plan maybe your current plan is unsustainable long term.
    Set your weekly weight loss goal smaller. Not fast loss but sustainable loss is important.
    Eat food you like. Eat smaller portions of higher calorie stuff and pair it with more lower calorie vegetables. Get plenty of protein, fats and fiber to help you feel satisfied.
    Increase your logging accuracy. Make sure you log everything. Use a digital food scale for solids. Choose correct entries. Try prelogging your food to make better choices.
    Don't rely on exercise over calorie intake to lose weight.
    If you are an emotional stress type eater work at developing different coping skills.
    Give it time. If the scale has not moved for 4+ weeks start making changes. If it has been less time than that keep on and wait.
  • ardysedwardsmcgrath
    ardysedwardsmcgrath Posts: 120 Member
    great ideas thanks lounmoun!! :) im still gonna plug along.. im glad ive got mfp :) . im sure ppl get sick of my discussions...but i m always lookin for help or pointers... i did wws in the spring&lost 30 but gain 1./2 back.. :( im thankful though i m not at the weight i had started out.. this is my 4th yr tryin to lose weight.. seems like as u get older its harder too.. or maybe thats a excuse lol.. i hope to go excerise again here in bit.. suns out.. but im bakin for thanksgiving this eve for family...
  • courtneyfabulous
    courtneyfabulous Posts: 1,863 Member
    I've felt like that in the past when I thought I was doing everything right but wasn't getting results or making progress. Luckily I didn't give up, I just kept researching and trying different things and finally found a method that actually DOES work. Now I just do it and it works so I don't feel hopeless anymore.
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    edited November 2016
    Sometimes it feels that way, so I allow myself to stomp my metaphorical feet and complain for a few minutes then let go of the petty party. If I feel bad while putting in the work, imagine how bad I would feel if I didn't. So I just basically plug along and continue doing what has been working, regardless of what my silly brain is trying to tell me. The voice can be especially loud if you have more than 150 lbs to lose and it would have halted my progress had I given in. Before too soon, you are 2/3 of the way there and you wonder how the heck did you manage that! Such a nice feeling that is worth all the feet stomping you had to get over.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    These feelings are all part of the process, but the key to succeeding is not giving up.
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    edited November 2016
    I used to think "I can't" all the time, before I was introduced to MFP. Then I realised how simple this all is - not always easy, that's not the same thing at all, but simple!

    I've been getting good results since I started here. Not always as fast as I'd like, and there have been plenty of times when I've stalled for a while even though I kept on track, but I don't recall thinking "I can't do this" even once this year. I set small goals rather than looking at the entire thing as one big obstacle, which really helped.

    I know I can. I've seen that I can! I just have to keep working towards it, even if some days it's just baby steps, because the alternative is going to back to the size I was in January and I will NOT do that!

    Some days I do pout a bit, and like @amusedmonkey so delightfully said I "stomp my metaphorical feet" for a while, but I've never felt like giving up. :)

    Edit: Going to plug my own thread here in case you find my rambling thoughts on the subject helpful! :)
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    thekatspjs wrote: »
    I feel like that all the time. I have never been successful losing weight. I really have never been able to diet and consistently exercise. I know I need to create a calorie deficit but how... there are so many approaches. My head spins with all the different approaches...

    Pick one and just start! :) Try something for a while, and if you don't like it or you don't feel it's working well for you, try another approach. Don't feel that you need to follow "a diet" if you don't want to - you can lose weight eating the things you eat right now, just eat smaller portions!

    Perhaps start there - just log what you currently eat for a couple of weeks, and then start looking for places to cut down a bit or make lower-calorie substitutions? You don't have to go all out and change everything at once, it's okay to start small and just make minor changes here and there until you get used to it. :)
  • courtneyfabulous
    courtneyfabulous Posts: 1,863 Member
    thekatspjs wrote: »
    I feel like that all the time. I have never been successful losing weight. I really have never been able to diet and consistently exercise. I know I need to create a calorie deficit but how... there are so many approaches. My head spins with all the different approaches...

    Just need to use myfitnesspal + a digital food scale to weigh & track your food so you know how many calories you're eating. Eat less than your TDEE and more than BMR. That's pretty much it. Simple.
  • Arizona_C
    Arizona_C Posts: 1,476 Member
    I'm wondering about the phrase -keep motivated. Do you lack motivation or is it more a question of lacking trust it is possible and letting go as a result?

    Don't hesitate to keep posting! People with no interest in the subjet skip your post, but those who can relate keep reading and keep writing you back.

    Understanding why you put on the weight again can be helpful. Any idea what happended? What was in your mind at that moment?

    Understanding why you have managed in the past is important as well, finding out how you did it to get to the same mind set and sports/eating habit.

    Please don't put yourself down! You'll be better off working at getting your self esteem up and get a winning mindset.

    Project yourself into a nearby future where you will feel and look great. Tell yourself it is only a question of time. Visualize yourself thinner and healthier, life as if you were already! It'll boost you to do the necessary steps to get there.

    Good luck, and do keep us posted
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