My husband is losing weight faster than me - I feel like giving up :(

Go look for the many threads about people who have split up because one person lost weight while the other one didn't, and you'll see common themes - jealousy, resentment, insecurity. Letting yourself feel like you're somehow failing because he's progressing faster is where those issues can start to breed. Don't let them. Communicate with him. Be inspired by him. Support him, and ask him to do the same for you. And remember that every bit of progress you make, you're bettering your own health so you can have a longer life with him. That's not something worth giving up on.

Aw, don't give up, you're married, you're a team, be happy for him. His success is your success. I'd be sad if my spouse wasn't happy for me! Oh yeah, and do remember like others have said, men do tend to lose faster than woman, you'll both get there in the end!

Even if your plans were absolutely identical and you did everything the same... it depends on a few factors.

I'm not sure what your starting weight and his starting weight were, but keep in mind that those who are higher in BMI tend to lose weight a little faster at first. I was sometimes losing 6 pounds a week at the start - now I don't lose as much per week.

Remember also that people who have a uterus/get periods will retain a hell of a lot of water. My weight stops moving for a fortnight even though I've been thoroughly committed to my diet. The first time I noticed it, it was really upsetting for me - I had been working so hard! But now I just work twice as hard so I can see what ridiculous amount of water weight I can drop at the end!

The fact that your husband is doing well is rad, and if you're sticking to your plan, you are doing well too. You are not defeated. I think when we're losing weight, we forget the little victories because we don't notice them... if you stick to your plan, your body will change every day - not necessarily the number on the scale, but over time, our bodyfat% changes, our size changes, etc.

This isn't a sprint - it's a marathon. It's about seeing it all the way through.

What I do to keep my spirits up... little goals often. Every 10 pounds, I celebrate what I've done so far - and I mix it up by celebrating getting under a full stone, pounds lost in brackets of 10, moving BMI category etc. It means I feel like I'm celebrating every week (because one of the systems will be in my favour somewhere!) so I can distract myself a little from what is otherwise a very drawn-out process.

Hugs to you - and keep going!

There is a thread on the first page of the General Weigh Loss forum that has links to men vs women weight loss articles. Check it out!

So it's not exactly the same situation but I cook the meals for everyone in my family (my mom and sister). When I started cooking healthy meals, everyone started losing weight! This is great but my mother is losing weight almost as fast as me. She is much smaller to begin with and us not actually counting calories or measuring servings. So the fact that she is losing as fast as me makes me a bit discouraged. Not that I don't want her to lose weight, it just makes me feel like I must be doing something wrong or that I'm not trying hard enough.

What I've decided to do is just focus on my weight loss. As long as I'm not gaining, I'll get to my goals eventually, and that's what's important!

men typically lose faster ..take a look at what you are doing and switch it up.. if you stay with the same thing every day then you will stay stagnant