why so many judgemental people on this site?

fitchick99
fitchick99 Posts: 267 Member
in Motivation and Support
I thought it was for support, not for personal attacks, why is it that I'm seeing and reading people's comments, thinking it's perfectly ok, to not only attack someones choices in life but to actually tell someone that they need professional help? or let alone how to parent their own children? the old adage think before you speak comes to mind....seems like a few people have no clue what that means.

“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”
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  • fitchick99
    fitchick99 Posts: 267 Member
    I thought it was for support, not for personal attacks, why is it that I'm seeing and reading people's comments, thinking it's perfectly ok, to not only attack someones choices in life but to actually tell someone that they need professional help? or let alone how to parent their own children? the old adage think before you speak comes to mind....seems like a few people have no clue what that means.

    “We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”
  • TRLTAMPA
    TRLTAMPA Posts: 824
    I must have missed some drama.....darnit!
  • Hannah_Banana
    Hannah_Banana Posts: 1,242 Member
    I'm not sure exactly what you're talking about. I've found the site to be very helpful and supportive. :bigsmile: I hope you have better experiences in the future. :flowerforyou:
  • heather0mc
    heather0mc Posts: 4,656 Member
    wow. that is a bummer. i hope i have never offended anyone on here!
  • fitchick99
    fitchick99 Posts: 267 Member
    I must have missed some drama.....darnit!


    :laugh:
    Thanks for that...I needed the laugh....and yes there was a little itty bit of drama...:tongue:
  • TRLTAMPA
    TRLTAMPA Posts: 824
    only talk to those who support you. it's not just for flesh and blood people, it's for us cyber friends too.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    I must have missed some drama.....darnit!


    :laugh: I THOUGHT THE SAME THING! And then I figuratively slapped my own hand and told myself that I need to NOT be involved in drama anyhow! lol
  • briakiss
    briakiss Posts: 40
    :grumble: booooooooo, i missed it! haha:laugh:
  • schoonmp
    schoonmp Posts: 175
    I missed the drama too.
  • renae77
    renae77 Posts: 3,394 Member
    Yea I missed it all too. Guess that was best huh?
  • BrenNew
    BrenNew Posts: 3,420 Member
    I'm not sure exactly what you're talking about. I've found the site to be very helpful and supportive. :bigsmile: I hope you have better experiences in the future. :flowerforyou:



    Same here. I've NEVER read anything bad on here. EVERYONE has always been really supportive and friendly! I guess I must just pick the right threads to read and respond to!
  • tashjs21
    tashjs21 Posts: 4,584 Member
    I think people become 10 feet tall and say things on the internet that they would never dream of saying to someones face.

    Just ignore the rude ones. :drinker:
  • nopogal
    nopogal Posts: 162
    I say people are going to have their judgments, whether they voice them or not. So, let them have them. It sucks and it's too bad that we feel it's ok to put each other down. Who knows where it comes from? YOUR opinion of YOURSELF is the only one that matters. And I think that goes for all of us who are trying to lose weight and be healthy. Be honest with yourself, let other people's opinions slide off your back--good and bad--because when you let yourself care too much about another person's opinion of you, the more power you give that person over your own feelings. I'm sure people think lots of good and bad things about me, but I try not to give them too much merit in the way I think of myself. It's a process, but one I think is important for living a healthy life.

    So, judgments be damned! Usually when someone makes a judgment about another person, they are revealing more about themselves than they are you.

    :smile:
  • heather0mc
    heather0mc Posts: 4,656 Member
    I say people are going to have their judgments, whether they voice them or not. So, let them have them. It sucks and it's too bad that we feel it's ok to put each other down. Who knows where it comes from? YOUR opinion of YOURSELF is the only one that matters. And I think that goes for all of us who are trying to lose weight and be healthy. Be honest with yourself, let other people's opinions slide off your back--good and bad--because when you let yourself care too much about another person's opinion of you, the more power you give that person over your own feelings. I'm sure people think lots of good and bad things about me, but I try not to give them too much merit in the way I think of myself. It's a process, but one I think is important for living a healthy life.

    So, judgments be damned! Usually when someone makes a judgment about another person, they are revealing more about themselves than they are you.

    :smile:

    here here!
    or hear hear!
    not sure how to spell it.
    dont judge me ~ LOL :laugh:
  • briakiss
    briakiss Posts: 40
    I think people become 10 feet tall and say things on the internet that they would never dream of saying to someones face.

    Just ignore the rude ones. :drinker:
    totally true! :wink:
  • zoepane
    zoepane Posts: 209
    I must of missed a post too, I think most of us are very suppostive...
  • Wolfena
    Wolfena Posts: 1,570 Member
    I haven't seen anything judgemental either...

    I always seem to miss the drama. (not complaining :wink: )
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    fudgesicles-- what'd I miss? What'd I miss?

    Nobody never tells me nuttin' :grumble: :grumble: :grumble:
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    I say people are going to have their judgments, whether they voice them or not. So, let them have them. It sucks and it's too bad that we feel it's ok to put each other down. Who knows where it comes from? YOUR opinion of YOURSELF is the only one that matters. And I think that goes for all of us who are trying to lose weight and be healthy. Be honest with yourself, let other people's opinions slide off your back--good and bad--because when you let yourself care too much about another person's opinion of you, the more power you give that person over your own feelings. I'm sure people think lots of good and bad things about me, but I try not to give them too much merit in the way I think of myself. It's a process, but one I think is important for living a healthy life.

    So, judgments be damned! Usually when someone makes a judgment about another person, they are revealing more about themselves than they are you.

    :smile:

    here here!
    or hear hear!
    not sure how to spell it.
    dont judge me ~ LOL :laugh:

    LOL!
  • heather0mc
    heather0mc Posts: 4,656 Member
    I say people are going to have their judgments, whether they voice them or not. So, let them have them. It sucks and it's too bad that we feel it's ok to put each other down. Who knows where it comes from? YOUR opinion of YOURSELF is the only one that matters. And I think that goes for all of us who are trying to lose weight and be healthy. Be honest with yourself, let other people's opinions slide off your back--good and bad--because when you let yourself care too much about another person's opinion of you, the more power you give that person over your own feelings. I'm sure people think lots of good and bad things about me, but I try not to give them too much merit in the way I think of myself. It's a process, but one I think is important for living a healthy life.

    So, judgments be damned! Usually when someone makes a judgment about another person, they are revealing more about themselves than they are you.

    :smile:

    here here!
    or hear hear!
    not sure how to spell it.
    dont judge me ~ LOL :laugh:

    LOL!


    :blushing: hehe...
  • Felixanvk
    Felixanvk Posts: 69
    I'm not sure exactly what you're talking about. I've found the site to be very helpful and supportive. :bigsmile: I hope you have better experiences in the future. :flowerforyou:



    Same here. I've NEVER read anything bad on here. EVERYONE has always been really supportive and friendly! I guess I must just pick the right threads to read and respond to!

    Same here, the only thing I have found is very supportive people! - I guess I miss the drama too!
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    I have never seen anyone talk about others children or to tell someone they need professional help...heck we all could use some of that I imagine...what has impressed me is the support from each other to each other...I guess you got a bad thread or something but it sure hasnt been my experience...I guess if you find one like that move on the many others that are not like that
  • tizzykay
    tizzykay Posts: 10
    This is the one place where we should all be so supportive because it is sooo hard to lose weight! Dont we all know that:) I heart everyone here:)
  • BEFORE
    BEFORE Posts: 1,291 Member
    Alright what did Max do now.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • heather0mc
    heather0mc Posts: 4,656 Member
    This is the one place where we should all be so supportive because it is sooo hard to lose weight! Dont we all know that:) I heart everyone here:)

    awe :heart: :heart: :heart: :flowerforyou:
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    Alright what did Max do now.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    LOL!!!!!!!!:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • sassiebritches
    sassiebritches Posts: 1,861 Member
    Drama........I would ignore the negatives and take the positives outa this site for which there are so many. My life is dramatic all by itself, when someone else takes over my hardships and drama then they can tell me what they think, looks like we are all alone to deal with what life has in store..... until someone steps into my real life and real drama, they can POUND SAND!....Oh wait that may be a good workout........


    GO GREEN!
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    Drama........I would ignore the negatives and take the positives outa this site for which there are so many. My life is dramatic all by itself, when someone else takes over my hardships and drama then they can tell me what they think, looks like we are all alone to deal with what life has in store..... until someone steps into my real life and real drama, they can POUND SAND!....Oh wait that may be a good workout........


    GO GREEN!

    Absolutely-- great for the triceps!!
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    I think people become 10 feet tall and say things on the internet that they would never dream of saying to someones face.

    Natasha, I was going to say the same thing, except I was too lazy to phrase it. :happy:




    And MARLA, my GOSH, your new av is so cute!! You are doing so well with your weight loss! You look so happy and energetic and beautiful!!! :smooched:
  • BEFORE
    BEFORE Posts: 1,291 Member
    Drama........I would ignore the negatives and take the positives outa this site for which there are so many. My life is dramatic all by itself, when someone else takes over my hardships and drama then they can tell me what they think, looks like we are all alone to deal with what life has in store..... until someone steps into my real life and real drama, they can POUND SAND!....Oh wait that may be a good workout........


    GO GREEN!

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
    lmbo
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