Do you find this offensive?

There are many saboteurs in our daily life. We just have to keep our own and stay motivated.

No, I dont think it is offensive at all. It comes a time when you need to make a choice. If you cannot handle beoing around it, dont be. I am big on the "suck it up attitude" today. Communicate to them that you dont want to be around those types of food, and if they blow you off well they arent that good if friends anyways!

Well said...

No one can make you feel a certain way, not even you. You feel how you feel, but you can choose how to react.
If your friends are not going on a diet with you, it is not fair to expect them to stop eating how they'd like just because you can't. You are choosing to let it bother you - why not instead acknowledge your feelings, figure out why you feel that way (are you subconsciously jealous perhaps?) and move on. I would not be happy if someone expected me to change all my habits just because they did, and if this was the way they have always been around you, then really you are the change and the one that needs to shift their thinking, not them.
There's nothing wrong with a little education and encouragement to make healthier choices, but in the end you are in charge of you and no one else.

I don't find this offensive at all. I have lunch and spend time with others who indulge in fatty foods and unhealthy behaviors, but I don't mind, thats their life. and who am I to judge what they do or not do. I don't expect them to judge me either. Thats friends.
My life is my life and I'll do what i please with it because in the end im the only one that matters. I don't have time to worry about what others are doing. :bigsmile:

I don't think it's rude, I think it's their body and their plate. When I go out to eat with friends I worry about what's on my plate, not what's on theirs. Honestly I think it's rude for someone to think that their diet should dictate the diets of others not living in their home. Now, it they're trying to tempt you and egg you on to eat whatever it is that they're shoving in their pie hole with the whole "oh, you don't know what your missing out on" and "come on, you know you want some" that's rude, but the simple act of eating what you want around your friends is not.

Totally understand, some people can not handle when other's eat differently. They feel threatened, so try to get you back to eat like them. I had friends who were doing that to me also, but now they are eating better. Best you can do, is just say "I am not going to eat that poison" and smile. When they see your results, maybe they will start to eat better themselves. Try to be a good example, and keep telling yourself that this is important.

I had a bad experience one place I worked, my lunch friends did not understand why i was a vegatarian and would argue with me everyday. I had to stop eating with them. I kept telling them, i am not pushing this on you, why do you care that i don't eat meat?

So stay strong and know that you are really not missing anything by not eating that junk. You will start to enjoy the heathly food more than you ever did the junk. I know i passed a mile stone, when at the supermarket, my mouth started watering when i was looking at the salad greens, and the I had no interest in the cheese isle.

I dont let it bug me because I never wanna be that "reformed...." eater, smoker, drinker or anything that constantly sounds like they are better then others because today they decided to make a good decision. We all have strengths and weaknesses, if your friends cant see your weakness right now maybe you should tell them, nicely. And if they still arent supportive then they arent great friends and you dont need them around because you are taking control and you are doing this so keep with it but remember maybe they are struggling with a battle of their own. A positive attitude will rub off on others!

Unfortunately, our friends are usually the ones who try to sabotage our healthy lifestyles. It isn't that they don't love you, it's that they haven't bought into making such an extreme change. The great thing about all of this is that seeing that stuff grosses you out, which means it isn't making you want any of it. It's like the one part in Tommy Boy where Chris Farley squeezes ketchup into his mouth and David Spade says, "Ugh! I can actually hear you getting fatter!"

I think maybe all you need is a different attitude (and I say this with love and not with a tone of "you're wrong get over it") and when they eat that stuff in front of you and mention how great it is, you can just smile and say, "I'm glad you're enjoying it!" And when you're at your goal weight with your fantastic body and they've gained 30 lbs and they start to complain, you can refer them to MFP.

Just keep the big picture in mind and love your friends for where they're at, even if it feels like they're not loving you where you're at.

It wouldn't bother me, they're my friends because I like them, not for what they put in their mouths. I've recently stopped smoking and one of my friends still smokes, are you saying she shouldn't just because I don't? No, you're probably not. It could even extend to people saying 'I can't get pregnant, therefore my friends shouldn't be pregnant around me' - that's just a ridiculous notion.

It doesn't bother me whet do THEY eat. It only bothers me when my friends or my husband are pushing they not healthy food choices on ME.
For example after 2 days of grilled chicken/ salad type of dinner my husband is whining and demands pasta for dinner. That bugs me a lot, because it forces me to eat bad or forces me to cook twice which is very time consuming.
Also sometimes I go out with my friends and they teasing me about not want to drink , and once they even order me my favourite drink: baileys, which is super high in calorie.