Why can't I get motivated!?!

johnleatherman77 wrote: »

courtneyfabulous wrote: »

Have you lost weight with calorie counting using myfitnesspal and weighing & logging your food? I made the assumption that that's how you did it in the past but maybe not.

How did you lose weight in the past? How much and how long did you keep it off those times and what happened to cause you to regain?

No both times before was on weight watchers. The first time was a weight loss competition and I lost 65 lbs. I kept it off about 6 months. The second time I lost 95 pounds and it was about a two year process.The second time started with a shoulder injury, then my mom had to go to the hospital, then my mother in law came down with leukemia and lost her battle shortly there after. Needless to say the wheels feel off.

Oh ok. Well I think you'll have great success with myfitnesspal, it is like a more accurate version of weight watchers. Get a digital food scale to help with food measuring accuracy- they're only like $20. And I stand by my earlier advice of making some form of fitness your hobby to keep you motivated and help keep the weight off once lost.

Totally get the wheels falling off thing! I recently went through a health crisis that lasted a few years and contributed to me putting on a bunch of weight to my already overweight self and putting me in the worst shape of my life. Got surgery to correct the healt issue about 1 1/2 years ago. Luckily I was then able to turn it around and with some effort & preserverence I'm now I'm in literally the best shape of my life (lots of strength, stamina, muscle) and on my way to a healthy weight (just need to shed a little more body fat).

You can do this- try to think of this time as the final time. This time you lose weight you will keep going until you are a healthy weight and that will be your new normal. No more lose and regain.

johnleatherman77 wrote: »

I would say my biggest problem is discipline, as pointed out earlier.

And as far as what I'm doing now I would have to say not much. Hence the problem. I am a creature of habit and when I finally get my mind right I am very disciplined. I work at a job where I am on my feet most of the day. @460lbs this takes an enormous toll on my body as the years are going by. By the time I get off work I am whipped. Constant fatigue and chronic pain have imprisoned me. I am a former football player and power lifter. In my last streak of being healthy I studied Krav Maga and Brazilian jiu jitzu along with being a pretty avid crossfitter for a 315 lb man. I have it in me I know I do. But I don't know how many more times I have. Each time its harder mentally and physically. I do know I feel my health failing fast and I'm not even 40.

And no I don't mind the questions. I made up my mind when I put this up that I would be brutally honest about myself if asked tough questions. I think its an important step.

I think you need to begin with small steps. I definitely echo everyone who says set MFP up for about a pound a week loss, get a digital food scale so you can weigh your food, and try to stay within your calories everyday. You have an active job so I would worry about doing additional purposeful exercise later on in your weight loss journey.

Another thing I think is important is figuring out where exactly your problem lies with food. Are you an emotional eater ? Are you eating a lot of the wrong types of foods ? Do you eat even after you a full because you enjoy the taste of food ?

If you figure out the problem then you can address it. For me, I've always had a problem with overeating. It's not that I ever ate so much chocolate or so much fast food or so many chips. I just would eat and eat and eat even when I was full. I would eat out of boredom, eat because I was upset, eat because I wanted to eat and not because I was hungry.

It's something I'm working on now. I want this to be my last go around too and in order for that to happen I have to change my relationship with food. If I'm full even if I have more calories for the day or more food on my plate I am trying not to eat more. If I'm upset or bored and want something to eat and I know that's why I won't eat even if I could fit it into my daily calories. I'm trying to break bad habits and form new, healthy ones. I'm reconditioning myself. It's hard, but I do it day after day and if I can do it so can you.

And I'll be honest and say I had a problem with restaurant eating. I'm a single person and it was just sometimes more convenient to go out to eat (and also I wanted to). Most portions at restaurants are incredibly large and are calorie bombs. That was killing me too. I've almost completely cut that out. It's not something I miss, it's better on my finances, and it's just easier to avoid.

Sued0nim wrote: »

Helloitsdan wrote: »

johnleatherman77 wrote: »

How do you mean ?

Okay what usually happens is you decide to change your life.

You look at the big picture and see that nearly everything needs to change. What you don't understand is how habit change works.

If you lay out a 12 week plan, look back at today, and decide what you want to achieve each month.
If you select 1 habit, add multivitamin and fish oil first thing in the AM, and do that habit for two weeks till it becomes a part of your day.
Habit two could be Unplug from electronics an hour before bed, so you improve sleep quality.
That's month 1. Honestly, you wouldn't even need to worry any food at that point. You're losing weight from the fish oil.

Set up a plan and simply chip away at the big rocks, one at a time.

If you work on one habit at a time, you're 80+% likely to succeed.
If you work on two at time, you're 33% or less likely to succeed.
If you work on three.... you're less than 10% likely to succeed and motivation flies by the wayside.

:huh:

this post was linked from another thread I was reading where the poster who linked it said your posts were confusing them. I agree with that sentiment.

I learned quite a lot from you years back, and your road map group was enjoyable

What has happened? why has your tone and my perception of your helpfulness and knowledge done a complete 180?

I mean absolutely no offence here @helloitsdan I'm just a little confused when someone I respected turns around and peppers an overall helpful post with such an outright lie. Is it merely hyperbole?

I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess it's because this is now his "job". It is MUCH harder to make any money in the fitness industry unless you buy into a lot of the woo out there.

AnvilHead wrote: »

ericasmagic wrote: »

...Also if you are badly overweight you should take Alli weight loss pill

...because involuntary oily orange anal leakage is SUCH a great motivator.

Confirming my belief that weight loss pills are generally crap