Deciding on a big life change

crimsongrey
crimsongrey Posts: 329 Member
edited November 13 in Chit-Chat
So, I am stressed about a big life choice I have to make. The decision could lead to amazing things, but there are risks that could lead to more anxiety and financial stress. When looking at my list of pros and cons, it all works out on paper. However, life has a tendency to not go as planned on paper ;) This is something I've wanted for several years, but it's not exactly as I had hoped for, but I really want it to work out, but I'm scared it won't, but....ahhhh, my head is spinning!
My question is, how do YOU deal with big life choices?
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  • Karb_Kween
    Karb_Kween Posts: 2,681 Member
    Idk.... what is the choice? This anticipation is a killer
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
    Learning How To Say Yes
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  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    Have no regrets.. you want to do it.. so do it!
  • Sha1911
    Sha1911 Posts: 221 Member
    If you want to make your dreams come true, you need to be willing to take risks, otherwise you'll just be stuck where you are.
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,753 Member
    I ask myself, whats the worst that could happen & am i willing for that possibility. I also try to visualize how it would be if i were doing that right now & if it's better than what i'm actually doing. I do agree to follow your dream or you might regret the what ifs later. The most important thing i do personally is pray & ask God for guidance, so even if it dosn't work out the way i thought I ask what did i learn about myself?
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    crimsongrey wrote: »
    So, I am stressed about a big life choice I have to make. The decision could lead to amazing things, but there are risks that could lead to more anxiety and financial stress. When looking at my list of pros and cons, it all works out on paper. However, life has a tendency to not go as planned on paper ;) This is something I've wanted for several years, but it's not exactly as I had hoped for, but I really want it to work out, but I'm scared it won't, but....ahhhh, my head is spinning!
    My question is, how do YOU deal with big life choices?

    Life isn't perfect.
    If you do not take this opportunity will you regret it? Does this impact someone else or just you?
    You sound like you want this and it is just fear of what might happen holding you back. Stick to facts not fear.

    I plan the best I can but you have to take risks sometimes.
  • tracykreczmer
    tracykreczmer Posts: 88 Member
    Depends on the big life choice. .moving always enjoyed that..popping the question..is she/he your best friend? Job move..money vs opportunities vs cost of living divided by friends family love..now is THE time..see u don't get more life..its finite..be true to YOU and never hurt others. .tell the truth and be kind...so what's the worst that could happen? You live!
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  • yayamom3
    yayamom3 Posts: 939 Member
    I'd rather live with the regret of the choice maybe not working out, than live with the regret of, "What if?" If you try and fail, you will still benefit from the experience by learning a lot about yourself. If you don't try, you'll wonder about it for the rest of your life--especially in the difficult times.
  • Mary_Anastasia
    Mary_Anastasia Posts: 267 Member
    edited December 2016
    I've left the state, and even left the country on a whim, for months at a time, when given the opportunity. The older I get, the harder it is to make these on the fly decisions. To me, it depends on your responsibilities. I recently worked and waited for 3 years until I felt confident I could leave and do something I wanted to: I sold my house, paid off my bills, have no kids, not in a relationship, and my pets were safely taken care of. If you have responsibilities- THOSE come first.

    That being said if you have an opportunity, and nothing is holding you back, go for it. The best times of my life have been when I took the risk. Even if you don't enjoy it, at least now you know you tried! A way I make these decisions is this: say it's a job/internship/study abroad/mission work/etc, and you are in the vetting process, you think "what will I do, what will I dooo?? What if I get it? Do I take it?" I say "If I get it, I will do it. That's all there is to it. If I don't get it, that's okay, too!"
    You have to make sure it's something you really want, there is no sense in wasting time applying to doing things you are not positive that you want.
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    No Pressure

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  • Lonestar5715
    Lonestar5715 Posts: 466 Member
    crimsongrey wrote: »
    So, I am stressed about a big life choice I have to make. The decision could lead to amazing things, but there are risks that could lead to more anxiety and financial stress. When looking at my list of pros and cons, it all works out on paper. However, life has a tendency to not go as planned on paper ;) This is something I've wanted for several years, but it's not exactly as I had hoped for, but I really want it to work out, but I'm scared it won't, but....ahhhh, my head is spinning!
    My question is, how do YOU deal with big life choices?

    In your shoes I would ask myself which would cause me to lose more sleep.......if I took the risk and failed or if I took no risk but always wondered what the outcome would have been. Best of luck to you!
  • Raptor2763
    Raptor2763 Posts: 387 Member
    you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first
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  • Grey_1
    Grey_1 Posts: 1,139 Member
    As long as you're planning and fully weighing the pros and cons, sure, go for it. Eyes wide open though. Basing a huge life change on a risky proposition sounds very glamorous, but it's also proven disastrous for some people.

    Plan>weigh>decide>act, or not.
  • crimsongrey
    crimsongrey Posts: 329 Member
    Thanks for the input guys!
    I've decided to move forward and am looking into ways to make this change happen. If it works out, great! If not, at least I tried. No regrets!
  • klkarlen
    klkarlen Posts: 4,366 Member
    crimsongrey wrote: »
    So, I am stressed about a big life choice I have to make. The decision could lead to amazing things, but there are risks that could lead to more anxiety and financial stress. When looking at my list of pros and cons, it all works out on paper. However, life has a tendency to not go as planned on paper ;) This is something I've wanted for several years, but it's not exactly as I had hoped for, but I really want it to work out, but I'm scared it won't, but....ahhhh, my head is spinning!
    My question is, how do YOU deal with big life choices?

    Write out things that you thing could go wrong, and a potential solution if it did happen, in other words, make sure you have either an exit plan or contingency plan, just in case. It helps take the stress out of the decision if you have a back up plan, or at least mentally prepared to handle something unexpected.

    And then go for it.
  • HookedOnMySweetFish
    HookedOnMySweetFish Posts: 27 Member
    Can Lead to amazing things- not much more to be said.
    You take the chance
  • htimpaired
    htimpaired Posts: 1,404 Member
    I took a big leap this year, a big big risk, and it's working out really well so far. I'd thought of it off and on for years, but finally took the chance. I'm a big thinker, planner, hyper responsible type, so it was HARD.
    But I'm SO glad I did it.
    You might be too.
  • crimsongrey
    crimsongrey Posts: 329 Member
    Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
    I am not wasting my time with vague advice unless I am told what the fudge this big decision is about. Are you adopting a whole troop of zoo animals or becoming a porn star?

    Although becoming a porn star has crossed my mind, I think at my age and weight that kind of career change would be way too much of a financial risk for me ;) Zoo animals are much more likely!
  • crimsongrey
    crimsongrey Posts: 329 Member
    Since part of the decision involves buying a 10 acre property, I imagine it would be fairly easy to set things up. And duh, of course the porcupine would be free to roam. The tiger will love the sunroof of my car, but the hippo might not fit in the hatchback.
  • klkarlen
    klkarlen Posts: 4,366 Member
    crimsongrey wrote: »
    Since part of the decision involves buying a 10 acre property, I imagine it would be fairly easy to set things up. And duh, of course the porcupine would be free to roam. The tiger will love the sunroof of my car, but the hippo might not fit in the hatchback.

    I've been living on my own 10 acres of equine heaven and loving it for the past 12 years. I'm down to one pasture potato and three dogs. The full time job keeps me from filling up the barn again - I did have 3 for most of the 12 years. I think it would be a good investment if it is in a high demand area. Go for it.
  • Baydogger
    Baydogger Posts: 37 Member
    My boyfriend/common law husband has decided to retire. He took early retirement at 49 and has worked part time since then. He is now almost 57 and doesn't want to work anymore. We have only been together 2 years. This isn't what I envisioned. I can't retire for nearly 6 years and even then I may still wish to work part time somewhere. He wants me to be happy for him but it's not like we have spent our entire adult lives together. Maybe other women would love this as he cooks and cleans and does more than his fair share but .. I don't want to be with a retiree. What would you do? Please don't judge.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Baydogger wrote: »
    My boyfriend/common law husband has decided to retire. He took early retirement at 49 and has worked part time since then. He is now almost 57 and doesn't want to work anymore. We have only been together 2 years. This isn't what I envisioned. I can't retire for nearly 6 years and even then I may still wish to work part time somewhere. He wants me to be happy for him but it's not like we have spent our entire adult lives together. Maybe other women would love this as he cooks and cleans and does more than his fair share but .. I don't want to be with a retiree. What would you do? Please don't judge.

    I like the cooking and cleaning thing. I think you've got a good thing going. I personally made some good investments and then retired in my late 30's. My time is my own and I do what I want. I'm not wealthy, but I'm comfortable. Nothing wrong with retirees unless they are stodgy and boring. Why can't he be retired and you keep working if you want? I don't see the conflict unless there's something else going on... :)
  • Nitroalley2
    Nitroalley2 Posts: 3,419 Member
    Baydogger wrote: »
    My boyfriend/common law husband has decided to retire. He took early retirement at 49 and has worked part time since then. He is now almost 57 and doesn't want to work anymore. We have only been together 2 years. This isn't what I envisioned. I can't retire for nearly 6 years and even then I may still wish to work part time somewhere. He wants me to be happy for him but it's not like we have spent our entire adult lives together. Maybe other women would love this as he cooks and cleans and does more than his fair share but .. I don't want to be with a retiree. What would you do? Please don't judge.

    Depends. If he is very active with hobbies, home projects, recreation, charitable activities, involved with young family members, travel great. A couch potato no. I have been out of work several times for a year and found plenty to do to be active and interested and look forward to the time not to be restricted by a job.
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