Are you a Diet Drag?



  • tomteboda
    tomteboda Posts: 2,171 Member
    Honestly, this is how people react to my peanut allergy. So I actively avoid all social situations with food.
  • fitoverfortymom
    fitoverfortymom Posts: 3,453 Member
    Is it possible that maybe she has some disordered eating problems? Sometimes it's a cry for help to constantly bring up a restrictive diet so someone might have spidey senses that something is wrong. Maybe she needs help? It's definitely NOT normal.
  • JaydedMiss
    JaydedMiss Posts: 4,288 Member
    What's nice is that after a while people get used to the fact that you are losing weight and stop walking on eggshells around you when there is food involved. My sister travels abroad a lot of work, and she always brings me edible goodies. When I first started losing weight she was very reluctant and almost apologetic when she pulled out a small box of chocolate truffles. This is no longer the case. She brought me so much chocolate this time that I'm stocked for months. My mom no longer hesitates to serve baked goods and my friends no longer feel like they need to pick a restaurant that might have a low calorie salad or something instead of what they really want. They all treat me like nothing's changed, which I love.

    I wish people around me were supportive like that.

    Although, They purposly keep bringing me to fast food places and force food on me. Which im super cool with because they think i have an eating disorder from losing weight (none of them can) but I eat tons, So im cool with their force feeding XD Although its started making me sick every few times im just not used to overly processed...
  • jessiferrrb
    jessiferrrb Posts: 1,758 Member
    i think the first few months i talked about it more than now, i would look up things at a restaurant (only if it was a super casual situation) and try to figure out which options fit my goals for the day. it was new, too, so it was what was going on with me, and i was learning a lot and i wanted to share that. i had to amend my social strategies and thought sometimes that i had to explain myself as i did so. i did kind of the same when i first started lifting and i was so so so excited and i wanted to share that whole new world with everyone. now that i'm settled into the everything it's not so new and doesn't need any mentioning. i'll answer if asked but i try not to bring it up.

    i never asked that anyone accommodate me though, other than if i'm cooking at home with friends i may ask if they mind if i weigh an ingredient before adding it.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,131 Member
    Why are you letting your diet friend control the situation?
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    DanniB423 wrote: »
    I find people tend to make me a drag by talking about it even when I don't. Saturday I was at lunch with my husband's family. They ordered onion rings and fried pickles as appetizers. As soon as they order his aunt declares "oh man! That was so rude of us to do to Danni! She is doing so well. Sorry Danni!" Also followed by "what are you ordering Danni? Salad? I should too... but I have no willpower!" I actually had 5 fried pickles chips,grilled chicken sandwich with cheese/bacon and a side of fruit. Because I can live my life and fit it in my goals for the day. People are amazed by that. I don't have to say a word for people to bring up what a drag my life is. Lol.
    Edit: typo

    oh boy...THIS =P
    I can totally sympathize!!

  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    TR0berts wrote: »
    cityruss wrote: »
    Friend : "I need my fish and water pronto".

    Me : "OK, I'm eating later where i'll be drinking cocktails and wine".

    Friend : "I'm not leaving my seat, I might smell food"

    Me : "Ok, see you after halftime"


    And whenever I get particularly strict - such as I'm cutting for a competition - I always tell my wife (and whomever is with us) to get whatever she/they want(s). I'm a big boy and can make my own choices on how/what to restrict my intake. I can still hang, but eat either less or something different.

    Excellent response B)
    I'm going to have to remember that when getting together with my family again next!
  • VeganRaptor
    VeganRaptor Posts: 164 Member
    Is your friend okay? That's a long time to be in such a big calorie deficit, especially with those extra restrictions and being so obsessive about food.

    I'd personally be worried about her mental health and talk to her about it.
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    No. God no. I never talk about my "diet" to anybody, except for my husband, who incessantly goes on about dieting and food (he's lost 100 lbs.). Other than him, I don't mention food or eating to anybody, really. I don't point out what I can or can't eat at gatherings, I don't make a peep. Why talk about it? I eat what I want and feel I should eat and leave the rest and otherwise I mingle and talk and, well, party. Because that's what a party is for. :)

    I can make do practically anywhere with some sort of food or other so there's never any need to mention the food itself, and I definitely never, ever bring up my weight loss or working out. Other people will point it out to me and ask how I did it and I give a simple "diet and exercise" and then I drop the entire thing.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,152 Member
    Thanks to all of you for allowing me to vent and for your understanding and tips. I have to say, it solidifies my strategy of keeping my fitness routine to myself.. I'd rather do an extra 15 at the gym..and eat a bit more i can enjoy a weekend night with friends without standing out. I love my friend.. think I'll just ignore her behavior and no longer pander to the food issues. again.thanks.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,152 Member
    lorrpb wrote: »
    I can understand why she doesn't want to smell ballpark food. You need to learn to have fun regardless of her preferences. Just sayin.

    it wasn't that.. i was looking forward to talking and socializing with her and her boyfriend as we always do. It was more that ..not at all the food. If I could take or leave her company.. i would have never written the post. Do you get that? It is more that her diet has changed her fun spirit.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 21,818 Member
    grmckenzie wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    I don't like talking about my diet either. I get asked now and then but usually opt to answer the question as briefly as possible and then redirect.

    Is it wrong to just answer "Aids"?


    In my office ... that would NOT go down well.

    It was bad enough when I got a rash that looked like measles ... all the testing, public health involved, etc. etc. etc. ...