Disappointed in MFP people

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  • SabrinaG1986
    SabrinaG1986 Posts: 135 Member
    I've seen a couple threads like this one, but I have never seen anybody being rude. Maybe I'm not looking in the right places lol. :grumble:
  • clala82
    clala82 Posts: 90 Member
    I agree. There are some rude people who just want to jump all over you for this or that. But there are also a lot of people who are very supportive and helpful. Please focus on those people. I've had a lot more positive experiences than negative. Just ignore the comments from the rude people. Half of them are posting because they want to get some kind of response from you and get a tit for tat debate going on in the forums. I hope you stay on MFP!
  • juleseybaby
    juleseybaby Posts: 712 Member
    I am afraid I have multiple personalities... or - um - split views on this topic. I agree - if you don't have anything nice to say, zip your lip. No need to be mean.

    People can give their opinion without being a jackwagon! (e.g. Don't want to keep gaining weight? Then don't eat half a chocolate cake by yourself unless you intend to work it off!!! ... as opposed to... You shouldn't have eaten that chocolate cake you fat <insert yuck word of choice here>.)

    Here's my alternate internal opinion (LOL - that little voice in my head): We can choose to ignore what someone says/types just as easily as they can ignore the 'repeated' questions.

    A 'Welcome - here are the basics.' tour when people sign up would be great - but in all honesty - so many are going to 'skip the tour' and end up repeating questions or breaking a forum rule anyway.

    Final thought: I used to care a great deal about what people thought of me. I would go to great lengths to make sure everyone liked me. I have found as I get older, that is going away. The basis (sorta) of my newfound freedom... "In 500 years - no one will give a crap!!"
  • Minnie_Moo
    Minnie_Moo Posts: 239 Member
    I have always thought that MFP was an awesome site and that everyone on here was so motivated to help others with their journies, but you know what I've discovered on here by reading a few forums? People on here are so freaking judgemental and rude...a lot of people are new to this site and a lot of people are going to have "stupid" questions or questions that have been asked before many times. But you know what? It's not that easy for most people to start a brand new lifestyle so they come here looking for support and what do they get? RUDE and JUDGEMENTAL people just the opposite of what they are looking for...so a touch of advice...IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE OR POSITIVE TO SAY THAT KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!!


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  • deezeeido
    deezeeido Posts: 1
    Being new here myself (so new I don't even have a pic yet)- I can see where you are coming from. I am new to this board, but not to others board and when you have a community with 3,205,392 posts (actual count when I posted this) it is hard to go through all of them when you have a question. Also using the expertise of others is always changing, too. The answer someone gave 6 months ago might be slightly different now. I have seen in other board a area just fo newbies or an area just for long time users. This way you will know that there will be repeat questions and you are willing to answer the same thing to 20 poeple in a row and if you dont want to help the newer people out- don't go to that section.

    Sometimes people have just so much going on around them that they do not stop and step away from themselves to see that they are being rude. I would take all that is said with a grain of salt. They have all been there before- if not there would not ba a need for this board or website....... sometimes people don't remember that when they reply.
  • angievaughn
    angievaughn Posts: 655 Member
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...

    That is pretty.......wonder why they have not done that yet!! But I know what you mean about people being mean or rude!! I just skip over topic that have been answered before......or if no one has answered the question yet...I will go ahead and answer it!!! Some people need to lighten up....they didn't have the answers to the questions when they first started!!!
  • tlems
    tlems Posts: 104 Member
    I don't understand why people say things on these forums, when in real life, they would never say that to someones face.

    Well, I guess I do understand, it is pretty easy to hide behind your monitor. Someone needs to invent a "Virtual Bi*&h Slap", or VBS, that will reach out of the screen, smack them in the face and then disappear.
  • SixCatFaerie
    SixCatFaerie Posts: 690 Member
    It's a good point that you make. I certainly wouldn't want anyone to be discouraged because they feel like they've met that kind of opposition. I've mainly been reading the posts and I've been able to just skim past the ugly posts and move on to the ones of real value, but fortunately, I haven't been on the receiving end of any of it. :( Not sure how I'd feel if I were.)

    Same here. I just skip the nasty ones!

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  • SixCatFaerie
    SixCatFaerie Posts: 690 Member
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...

    Love this! Thank you. Definitely send it to the people in charge of the blog!

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  • cparter
    cparter Posts: 754 Member
    Some people gain their self confidence from a little harshness... a little pushing. If I came on here, said "I'm trying to stay within my calories, but I can't help but eat XYZ because I have this function to attend and this function and then my family is sabotaging me etc"... I'd HOPE that someone would tell me to grow up, I'm an adult, to take responsibility for what I'm putting into my face hole and suck it up.

    I don't respond to "It'll be okay! You just don't listen to those negative people!"... sunshine and whatnot. Yuck. Give me a straight forward answer any day of the week.

    Now this is some sound thinking! There is a difference between rudeness though and just telling you how it is. But unfortunately, that decision is based on too many factors, i.e., someone with thin skin. If you are easily offended then maybe the problem is not the poster but the reader/postee.

    However, there are those who live in their own world thus the many who have been banned for posting for a while because they were too over the top.
  • joyfulthanks
    joyfulthanks Posts: 155
    I'm probably the person one of the critical posts was aimed at. A few days ago, I asked whether or not I should eat my exercise calories back. Yesterday, there was a post about how mad someone was about people asking that all the time.

    When I first read the post, it smarted some. I had no idea that that question got asked all the time, and I don't know why, but it never occurred to me to search it. Although I've been a member of MFP for over a year, I've only been on the forum part for a couple of weeks.

    My first impulse was to respond back, but then I decided that wouldn't help anyone.

    So I want apologize to anyone I frustrated. But I also want to ask everyone to try to be a little more patient with others in the future who ask dumb questions like me. We're all just trying to find our way.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Not quite sure how posting a message shouting at everyone about how rude they are is helping....
    This is a community. Just like in a real life community some people are more patient and will take timevto explain, others will be rude... and still others won't do either but just complain.

    I agree. And while i see some forum posts with really unhealthy advice sometimes, I RARELY see rude comments..

    I guess the forum is here to vent but it's not solution. My best advice would be if you don't like a topic, don't read it. I certainly hope that no one would leave MFP because of something they see here.
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    You all probably consider me one of those "rude people".

    I'm just gonna say this:
    It's not the new people asking "stupid" questions that get a rude response from me.

    Its the people that already have decided they are going to do an unhealthy weightloss tactic, and just want to get support for doing something they already know is a bad idea.

    THEN, to top it off, after receiving too many people saying "Thats a terrible idea", they cherry pick the people that agree with them and do it anyhow.

    Those are the people that make me post rude comments.
  • sunshinemonkey
    sunshinemonkey Posts: 44
    People just take online forums WAY too seriously. They stick around in these things long enough and suddenly they think they rule these boards lol. It cracks me up when someone gets all butt hurt over multiple posts on a topic.

    some people really do think they rule this site.....In one topic people new to the site were being refered to as newbies and all the way through it was them this and they that...it was like 'they' were another species....sometimes i think its people who dont have a lot of confidence and have never really fit in anywhere that have let their online egos grow to big!
  • sunshinemonkey
    sunshinemonkey Posts: 44
    I'm probably the person one of the critical posts was aimed at. A few days ago, I asked whether or not I should eat my exercise calories back. Yesterday, there was a post about how mad someone was about people asking that all the time.

    When I first read the post, it smarted some. I had no idea that that question got asked all the time, and I don't know why, but it never occurred to me to search it. Although I've been a member of MFP for over a year, I've only been on the forum part for a couple of weeks.

    My first impulse was to respond back, but then I decided that wouldn't help anyone.

    So I want apologize to anyone I frustrated. But I also want to ask everyone to try to be a little more patient with others in the future who ask dumb questions like me. We're all just trying to find our way.

    So this is all your fault is it?? lol
    Just kidding, but you did cause quite a stir didnt you!
    i read the topic yesterday that was a reaction to you and i have to say i was quite disappointed, therefore pleased with this one. some might say that this is an equally as bas reaction but i think its a very fair point
  • anu_6986
    anu_6986 Posts: 702 Member
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...


    I finally understood what NSV is... It was driving me crazy.. I might have started a topic for this.... LOL
  • gdortiz
    gdortiz Posts: 169 Member
    wow, i've been checking this message board for about 3 weeks now on a mostly daily baisis and it makes me sick now courteous and nice everyone is?

    phew ... you want to get your feelings hurt try going to a football team messge board, freaking out of control mean.

    oh well ...
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    wow, i've been checking this message board for about 3 weeks now on a mostly daily baisis and it makes me sick now courteous and nice everyone is?

    phew ... you want to get your feelings hurt try going to a football team messge board, freaking out of control mean.

    oh well ...

    Or a gamer website. My god. Ask a question and 99% of the time you get "STFU NOOB"
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    You all probably consider me one of those "rude people".

    I'm just gonna say this:
    It's not the new people asking "stupid" questions that get a rude response from me.

    Its the people that already have decided they are going to do an unhealthy weightloss tactic, and just want to get support for doing something they already know is a bad idea.

    THEN, to top it off, after receiving too many people saying "Thats a terrible idea", they cherry pick the people that agree with them and do it anyhow.

    Those are the people that make me post rude comments.

    that is EXACTLY it. whether it's a food diary, a weight loss tactic, etc some people just FLIP when people don't agree with them, or,heaven forbid, when someone offers up their very own opinion!! calm down everyone!! I thought the point of this place was to gather all the different views, experiences, tips, etc.....
  • dcbella
    dcbella Posts: 45
    Agreed.... People in general tend to forget the reason we are all here ...to have support, be motivated etc etc....however all that NEGATIVITY ...needs to go.....we are all in this together and if you don't agree well deal with it but please the comments negative, rude comments are not necessary....sounds a bit like BULLYING TO ME.....just saying...
  • ladyeyessogreen
    ladyeyessogreen Posts: 42 Member
    Well said!!

    Believe it or not, I find that when someone new asks an "age old" question, I can answer it and think "why am I hearing this again" But inevitably, someone will answer with a way to help that I hadn't heard before. Keeps me more open minded to new ideas and philosophies to health, fitness & weight loss.
  • MicMar66
    MicMar66 Posts: 186 Member
    I'm probably the person one of the critical posts was aimed at. A few days ago, I asked whether or not I should eat my exercise calories back. Yesterday, there was a post about how mad someone was about people asking that all the time.

    When I first read the post, it smarted some. I had no idea that that question got asked all the time, and I don't know why, but it never occurred to me to search it. Although I've been a member of MFP for over a year, I've only been on the forum part for a couple of weeks.

    My first impulse was to respond back, but then I decided that wouldn't help anyone.

    So I want apologize to anyone I frustrated. But I also want to ask everyone to try to be a little more patient with others in the future who ask dumb questions like me. We're all just trying to find our way.

    You would be only one of many, many people who asked that exact question. Don't take it personally If someone posted a direct response to your question. I would like to think that the person wasn't being intentionally mean, maybe just thoughtless. If they read that question 100 times then 99% of their anger and frustration was geared towards other people. :wink:

    I like to read the different answers to that question myself so thanks for asking it...again!
  • mynameisnutz
    mynameisnutz Posts: 123
    wow, i've been checking this message board for about 3 weeks now on a mostly daily baisis and it makes me sick now courteous and nice everyone is?

    phew ... you want to get your feelings hurt try going to a football team messge board, freaking out of control mean.

    oh well ...

    Or a gamer website. My god. Ask a question and 99% of the time you get "STFU NOOB"

    I third this. Go spend a day at somethingawful and come back and tell me these forums aren't loaded with treacle.

    How about everyone just stop being so sensi and remember that these r them internets.
  • momof2kiddos
    momof2kiddos Posts: 13
    i agree...although there is some helpful advice on here if you can skim over the rude postings
  • eneale
    eneale Posts: 12 Member
    Agreed
  • Crystal817
    Crystal817 Posts: 2,021 Member
    How about everyone just stop being so sensi and remember that these r them internets.

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  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...

    Very good idea. I'm a noob, and I figured out the search thing, but I had no IDEA what NSV was! ;D


    Seriously.. "Going over on protein?" or "Is too much water bad?" or "Should I eat back my exercise calories?" :grumble:

    I don't even bother to repeat myself anymore..

    I vote for a flashing FAQ page link next to "New Topic". :drinker:


    EDIT: Not trying to sound rude or be mean -- Didn't mean for it to come off that way. I was just supporting the idea of the welcome message so that we can avoid the repeats that tend to tick people off. (I am one of those people, but I just don't view the thread OR respond to it -- Eliminating a chance of coming off nasty).
  • cparter
    cparter Posts: 754 Member
    You all probably consider me one of those "rude people".

    I'm just gonna say this:
    It's not the new people asking "stupid" questions that get a rude response from me.

    Its the people that already have decided they are going to do an unhealthy weightloss tactic, and just want to get support for doing something they already know is a bad idea.

    THEN, to top it off, after receiving too many people saying "Thats a terrible idea", they cherry pick the people that agree with them and do it anyhow.

    Those are the people that make me post rude comments.
    I feel your pain.
  • BonLou76
    BonLou76 Posts: 36
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...


    This is a fantastic idea!! I think it would save alot of frustration for some people!
  • mynameisnutz
    mynameisnutz Posts: 123
    I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

    I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

    1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
    2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
    3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
    4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

    You get the idea ... :)

    You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

    It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...


    This is a fantastic idea!! I think it would save alot of frustration for some people!

    What makes you think that someone who can't even be bothered to type "what is bump" in a google search would actually read this email and/or FAQ?
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