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Christinith77
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My husband's dad and stepmom have invited us over for dinner xmas evening to eat and exchange gifts. The only problem is that I'm a vegetarian (my entire life) and they aren't planning on having anything other than rib roast and a few munchies, which usually is chips and dip and carrots and celery.
I asked if I can bring anything and she said anything vegetarian that I would want to eat.
Is it just me or is it kind of rude to invite to dinner who you know doesn't eat meat, and only serve meat for dinner? Am I just being overly sensitive?
I asked if I can bring anything and she said anything vegetarian that I would want to eat.
Is it just me or is it kind of rude to invite to dinner who you know doesn't eat meat, and only serve meat for dinner? Am I just being overly sensitive?
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Just order a veggie pizza and have it delivered right in the middle of dinner time.14
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It may be in poor taste but the important thing is not take it out on your husband...
One year for Xmas I made an entire dinner, organic turkey and all for my in laws... They brought a frozen ham and asked me to bake it and barely touched the turkey... I was pretty pissed to say the least, I had so much leftover turkey.
Ugh holidays and in laws0 -
It's not very considerate, but maybe it's better this way in that you get to choose what you want instead of being stuck with whatever they might make.3
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distinctlybeautiful wrote: »It's not very considerate, but maybe it's better this way in that you get to choose what you want instead of being stuck with whatever they might make.
This.
It's not ideal, you'd think your family would be a little more considerate, but the fact is 90% of the population are tossers.7 -
I'm vegetarian 2 and when my mother in law comes over for Christmas dinner she has to bring her own meat as I don't cook it.4
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I think most people are inconsiderate or perhaps they are not, they could just could care less..
Look at it this way, you know for sure they made nothing catered to your specific diet and you will not feel silly bringing your own food to munch on..1 -
For me it depends on who it is but your inlaws? They should definitely plan something that you can eat. That being said, I would have no idea what to feed a vegetarian person either (I don't know what's vegan and what isn't, or what's the difference is between vegetarian and vegan, for example), so in those circumstances I'd probably ask you to bring something too...I'm vegetarian 2 and when my mother in law comes over for Christmas dinner she has to bring her own meat as I don't cook it.
That's different though, you're still planning a complete meal, that she could eat if she wanted.2 -
Christinith77 wrote: »My husband's dad and stepmom have invited us over for dinner xmas evening to eat and exchange gifts. The only problem is that I'm a vegetarian (my entire life) and they aren't planning on having anything other than rib roast and a few munchies, which usually is chips and dip and carrots and celery.
I asked if I can bring anything and she said anything vegetarian that I would want to eat.
Is it just me or is it kind of rude to invite to dinner who you know doesn't eat meat, and only serve meat for dinner? Am I just being overly sensitive?
Yes, you are being overly sensitive. Not everyone knows how to prepare vegetarian dishes. She would like you to bring some, like a potluck. This is an opportunity, not a problem.8 -
What the two above said..
My brother and his wife are vegans.. so is my sister. I have no idea how to prepare a meal for them so when I invite everyone over I ask them to bring their own food cause I don't want to poison them.
Trust me.. it's not because we don't wanna give you guys food.. We just have no idea where to start in preparing a meal for vegans. Sure, I can make a mean salad and I have no doubt your in laws know how to make one as well.. but don't you want to eat something else on Christmas?
And if you want to make them curious about the vegan lifestyle.. make a desert or something everyone can have to show them that vegan food is actually just as good as "normal" food.4 -
I have three vegan nieces that always bring their own food to family functions. Whenever I host, I give them extra money so that they can buy their own stuff and splurge a little. I've never thought about them getting their feelings hurt because I didn't cook anything for them. Perhaps I should ask?2
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If they invited you only and served meat knowing that you are a vegetarian, then it would be rude. Since it's a family function and your in-laws won't be cooking much, and your MIL doesn't mind you bringing a vegetarian dish, why would you want them to cook a separate dinner just for you? Just so you won't think of them of being rude to you?0
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Christinith77 wrote: »Is it just me or is it kind of rude to invite to dinner who you know doesn't eat meat, and only serve meat for dinner? Am I just being overly sensitive?
People who choose restrictive diets should be a bit more expecting that they will need to bring food to functions. But I would think most hosts could make some effort to ensure there is at least some kind of food such a person would be able to eat as well.
But yeah...you need to bring stuff.
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I'm not vegen or vegetarian, but I do have Google and would try my best to accomidate everyone. A lot of people that don't understand different lifestyles tend to get defensive of their own. It may not be intentional, but more reactionary. Just don't be one of those people that throws your own preferences in everyone's face. Hope your holidays are wonderful anyway!
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Well, it isn't what I would do if I invited someone over. If I knew someone had a special diet or strong preference I would try to have a dish they could eat.
Maybe they don't know what would appropriate, thought a veggie tray was good enough or were hoping you would bring something. You know what they are having. Just bring a dish of something you like and let it go.
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Well, it isn't what I would do if I invited someone over. If I knew someone had a special diet or strong preference I would try to have a dish they could eat.
Maybe they don't know what would appropriate, thought a veggie tray was good enough or were hoping you would bring something. You know what they are having. Just bring a dish of something you like and let it go.
I would cook a couple dishes for her two if it was me too but her in-laws don't strike me as passionate cooks from what the OP wrote. I won't force people who don't enjoy cooking to make me food lol0 -
As rude as someone might think it is that a host wouldn't accommodate your lifestyle, it's rude to expect them to accommodate your lifestyle. As it is, it's stressful and a lot of work to prep for multiple guests. That also leads to utilizing every last minute, counter and oven space. To have to add another element for an individual is tricky.
Now, most folks probably would offer to make a dish available to you according to your dietary needs, but it's not rude if they don't. That should be expected and not looked at negatively. It's like going to a Prodestint church as a practicing Catholic and expected the pastor to alter his sermon based on your practice.
Take the time for what it is. Bring with you what you need...
How hard is it to throw together a salad and chopped veggies any way?3 -
Whenever I throw a dinner party, especially if it's a special occasion like thanksgiving or Christmas, I cook a meat and a couple side dishes. I wouldn't expect my husband's family to make a separate menu just for me or anything, but how do you not have any side dishes?
I'll try not to think too deeply on it and just bring my own thing. Maybe my inlaws are just clueless. They're really nice people though. I just sometimes feel like they don't care about me. I've been married to their son for two and a half years now. I wish they would feel more like family to me. I moved from a different state to be with their son. How are there not any side dishes? I've always been fine with just side dishes. Even if it was just mashed potatoes. I don't care.
Maybe I'll just eat before we go to their house.
Thanks for the input everyone! I hope I'm just being silly about this.0 -
You just need to distract them from dinner.
Light their Christmas tree on fire.
Nothing says 'vegan' like a three alarm blaze.4 -
I'm not a vegan though. Just a basic vegetarian.0
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