I failed ... ughhh

I failed too!! I didn't care at all over the holidays and also stopped keeping tracks a couple of months ago and gained a stone! I feel really low. Oh well, time to start over (and actually a stone more than where I was before).

I gained 4.9 pounds from Friday morning to Monday morning. By this morning, (Thursday), it was all back off again. Logging & CICO is a lifestyle & it works. Don't beat yourself up, stick with it & you'll be fine.

Meh. So you had an off week. Suck it up, brush it off, and get back on the train. I traveled, logged, worked out, operate, and retained some serious fluid this past week. Just get right back into your previous routine and don't let this minor off week set you back completely. Remember, weight loss and healthy lifestyles are marathons not sprints. Just get back into your routine and don't let it shake you.

What they all said. Personal trainers are always a great idea but using them for motivation won't work long term. You supply the motivation and goals, they'll give you the tools. Good luck!

You will be more successful if you let go of the all or nothing mentality. I've done all the "all the way failures" that you describe, multiple times, sometimes on repeat, sometimes worse than you describe, and somehow managed to lose 110 pounds and keep it off for over a year now and even run multiple races like a half marathon last spring and a triathlon this summer. Your problem is not that you failed miserably, it is that you have unrealistic expectations about how perfect a real life "successful at being fit" person must be, and it is setting you up to give up in despair. Your husband didn't get skinny by always being perfect and if you get skinny and healthy and fit, you won't get there by perfection either. You will get there by perseverance over the long haul. You'll have days where you are on fire with motivation, and breaking fitness records, and eating to a level of nutritional perfection that would make a dietitian smile, then on other days you will want to sit around on the couch eat a whole cake. That's okay. It happens to all of us mortals. Most days I'm somewhere in between those extremes, not on fire to run a marathon but getting some exercise anyway, not being nutritionally "perfect" but working some treats into a generally healthy diet and living within my calorie budget.

The trick to success not perfection, but consistency. Forgive yourself for being a normal mortal who isn't always on the plan and settle for being generally on track-- ideally on track more hours of the day than not--and you will make gradual progress in the right direction. You'll have occasional setbacks too....and the quicker you dust yourself off and get back in the race, the better. No self defeating thoughts! Just learn what you can learn from the experience and move on with the usual plan (I've learned not to keep whole cakes in my house..... and that my most destructive setbacks often come after periods of extreme deprivation and so It is best to take things slow and steady.)

esjones12 wrote: »

You never actually fail until you stop trying.

Today is a new day. Make it the best day you can.

Do your best. Forget the rest.

This right here!!

livingleanlivingclean wrote: »

For me, a ruined Christmas would mean I'd had a rubbish time, avoiding food and festivities, and generally felt miserable because I was restricting myself.

You have not failed.you haven't ruined anything. You did "life". Start again now, keep logging and move on.

This exactly. I just came back from 10 days in the Caribbean. I didn't log or "work out" for the first time in almost a year and I regret NOTHING. I'm back logging and back to the gym with wonderful memories.