I feel weird when ppl talk about my weight loss

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lady_ghost
lady_ghost Posts: 175 Member
edited January 2017 in Health and Weight Loss
You would think I would be proud but it makes me uncomfortable. I don't like all that attention. I think I still feel the shame of letting myself get so fat in the first place. I hated it when ppl talked about how big I got but I hate it more now when ppl go on about how thin I've gotten. Does this make sense?
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  • WifiresGettingFit
    WifiresGettingFit Posts: 1,773 Member
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    Depending on what's being said you could say something along the lines of "Thank you for the compliment but my body isn't up for discussion."
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,134 Member
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    I hate it because it makes me the center of attention and I have to answer all sorts of questions without sounding like I should be hospitalized for an ED.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,627 Member
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    SEE, IT DOESNT BOTHER ME. I KNOW I LOOK NICE. IM PROUD OF THAT. AND IF EXPLAINING HOW I DID IT, HELPS SOMEONE TO SEE THEY DONT NEED PILLS OR SHAKES OR OTHER PSUEDO CRAP TO LOSE WEIGHT ON THEIR OWN ... I THINK THATS AWESOME.

    sorry caps. not retyping it LOL
  • Whitezombiegirl
    Whitezombiegirl Posts: 1,042 Member
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    It could be worse. People who didnt know you when you were larger could make all those comments about being you being lucky to be slim or you having a fast metabolism or good genes.

    When you've been restricting or just monitoring and being vigilant to stop at one treat etc.- its not luck, or genetics or metabolism, its self- control. Its gets very annoying.

    Add to that for me being just under 5ft people are judgeing how much i eat, what size i wear and what i weigh aginst thier own 5ft4-6 standards and making comments. At my height, size 0/00 is in proportion and not too skinny. Grrrr...
  • rjan91
    rjan91 Posts: 194 Member
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    I understand what you are saying, but take a moment and be proud of yourself! Accept the compliment then change the subject to something else.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
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    When I meet an old chum who is still trying to wrap their head around my transformation, I smile and graciously accept the compliment. If I sense some lingering jealousy, I tell them it was very, very hard and it took years. It does not diminish my accomplishment that way and it also takes them off the hook.

    Accepting compliments I believe is important towards body acceptance.

    I don't tolerate diet advice or intrusive questions about how I did it. (Except on MFP. You guys get it). If asked directly I offer a minimum of information and change the subject.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
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    @ferderickt911 I've been asked if I have cancer. I smile and say, "No, it's all good!"
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,134 Member
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    rjan91 wrote: »
    I understand what you are saying, but take a moment and be proud of yourself! Accept the compliment then change the subject to something else.

    It becomes a problem when the people complementing won't shut up about it when asked.
  • thelatecomer
    thelatecomer Posts: 17 Member
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    I've had a few positive comments, a few statements "you've lost loads of weight" and just one "you need to stop now, you're too thin" (I weigh 10st and am a UK Size 12 FFS). I wouldn't expect someone to comment how fat I was so why acquaintances think it's ok to comment on my weight now, I'm not sure.