I feel weird when ppl talk about my weight loss

Maxematics

cebreisch wrote: »

Yes, I understand too. It's like I'm not doing it to get attention, I'm doing it to better myself. My biggest pet peeve is people saying "Kudo's to you." I don't know why - I just hate that phrase. And people would keep asking how much I lost. Why? Are we celebrating that I had that much to lose or that I lost it? Either way - again - that's not why I'm doing it.

LOL! I agree. Something about it just sounds sarcastic in nature, even if the person saying it is genuine. I guess I feel like nobody that is truly genuine would use a phrase like "Kudos to you". I always sign my business e-mails with "Regards" at the end. An associate of mine who was born overseas thought I was mad at him for using "Regards" because from his neck of the woods, signing e-mails with "Regards" is seen as sarcasm. After a laugh over it, as well as an apology to him, I continued to use "Regards" for people I really disliked. Things like that and "kudos to you" are just those types of phrases.

Cylphin60

lady_ghost wrote: »

I think I still feel the shame of letting myself get so fat in the first place.

Why? Stop it.

leanjogreen18

I guess I can understand but perhaps change your thinking. Don't think about the past but the hard work you've put into losing and people's comments are reflecting that. Accept it as positive.

Sara1791

Maxematics wrote: »

cebreisch wrote: »

Yes, I understand too. It's like I'm not doing it to get attention, I'm doing it to better myself. My biggest pet peeve is people saying "Kudo's to you." I don't know why - I just hate that phrase. And people would keep asking how much I lost. Why? Are we celebrating that I had that much to lose or that I lost it? Either way - again - that's not why I'm doing it.

LOL! I agree. Something about it just sounds sarcastic in nature, even if the person saying it is genuine. I guess I feel like nobody that is truly genuine would use a phrase like "Kudos to you". I always sign my business e-mails with "Regards" at the end. An associate of mine who was born overseas thought I was mad at him for using "Regards" because from his neck of the woods, signing e-mails with "Regards" is seen as sarcasm. After a laugh over it, as well as an apology to him, I continued to use "Regards" for people I really disliked. Things like that and "kudos to you" are just those types of phrases.

I had no idea. I use 'regards' all the time. Oops.

geneticsteacher

I don't mind it at all and simply say thank you, but we are all different. I have never minded attention

DebSozo

cebreisch wrote: »

Yes, I understand too. It's like I'm not doing it to get attention, I'm doing it to better myself. My biggest pet peeve is people saying "Kudo's to you." I don't know why - I just hate that phrase. And people would keep asking how much I lost. Why? Are we celebrating that I had that much to lose or that I lost it? Either way - again - that's not why I'm doing it.

Oops. I say "Kudos". I say it to mean "good for you", but likely I'm using the word improperly? Or I'll say, "You look great." So I guess if someone doesn't like to hear that they can ignore me, and I will understand why now.

HeathermRVT

Just to throw a different perspective in here - I LOVE the compliments! The more, the better! I soak 'em up like a sponge. I worked hard for this and will take all the "kudos" I can get!

For me it happens pretty often so I can't imagine how crappy that must be if you don't like it.

erosemiller314

caroline4011 wrote: »

Have lost large amounts of weight, and gained it all back more than a few times. When I start to look smaller I hated all the "good job" "oh you look so good" etc. Like oh well I guess I looked like poo before but now I am behaving and losing. Of course then when it turns around, and it happens over a number of years I get the look. Nothing is said but you can hear it loud and clear "awe you failed again". Makes me crazy. I am still the same person big or little, and at 62 I don't appreciate people telling me I am doing a good job just because I lose some weight. There is so much more to me. hmmmm.....

Oh my gosh. This. 100 times over. I have lost over 113 pounds and then over time and circumstances I gained it all back. I can *hear* the looks. I swear I *hear* it. It has really made it difficult to try again because I feel like I already know what will happen...

pebble4321

It doesn't matter whether other people like hearing compliments about their weight loss or not - if you aren't comfortable, then you aren't comfortable. I completely understand it too, I'm not happy about having put on weight and I'd rather not discuss it whether I'm gaining or losing.

If the comments are from strangers or acquaintances then I would just say a simple "thanks" and change the subject, maybe ask them a question about them!

If it's from family or close friends, tell that while you love their support, it makes you uncomfortable talking about it, so please don't go discussing your business with other people. If they keep it up, then keep asking them to stop.

3474449k

I don't mind people asking most of the time, but I hate it when they ask me at inappropriate times, in public places, around strangers, etc. I'm trying to think up appropriate responses to cut them off at the pass. I'm thinking about - I don't want to talk about that right now - I don't know (how much weight have you lost) - I really don't like discussing this - etc. Some questions I don't mind, but if people get too personal, I do mind. I don't know what to say to your mom, though. I could tell mine to please not do that when I'm around, but others have mothers who are more argumentative than mine was.

melodysf10

I know exactly how you feel. I get compliments all the time about my weight loss, and it makes me really uncomfortable. I wish no one would say anything at all.

ercarroll311

I didn't mind it at first, it helped me see that even though I felt I had a long way to go, I was making progress. But once I actually reached a healthy BMI, people started making comments about being too thin and "loosening up" (despite my eating 2000 calories per day)... there will always be people out there with something to say when it isn't their place.

ercarroll311

Oh and "how did you do it?" drives me crazy. Ate better and exercised? But if you need more detail than that, you're gonna need to hear me talk about it for an hour when realistically, the person asking wants you to name some magical pill/wrap/cleansing drink they can buy and do it in a week.

3474449k

ercarroll311 wrote: »

I didn't mind it at first, it helped me see that even though I felt I had a long way to go, I was making progress. But once I actually reached a healthy BMI, people started making comments about being too thin and "loosening up" (despite my eating 2000 calories per day)... there will always be people out there with something to say when it isn't their place.

At first I don't mind when people say I'm getting too thin, and I should eat more, but I really don't like it when they get argumentative about it. I don't need to explain to them that I'm still over my BMI and get their permission to lose weight. I try to just smile and change the subject or say 'Doctor's Orders' because I am not going to explain myself. I have said 'Sorry you feel that way'.