I feel weird when ppl talk about my weight loss

lady_ghost
lady_ghost Posts: 175 Member
edited November 14 in Health and Weight Loss
You would think I would be proud but it makes me uncomfortable. I don't like all that attention. I think I still feel the shame of letting myself get so fat in the first place. I hated it when ppl talked about how big I got but I hate it more now when ppl go on about how thin I've gotten. Does this make sense?
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  • WifiresGettingFit
    WifiresGettingFit Posts: 1,773 Member
    Depending on what's being said you could say something along the lines of "Thank you for the compliment but my body isn't up for discussion."
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I hate it because it makes me the center of attention and I have to answer all sorts of questions without sounding like I should be hospitalized for an ED.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    SEE, IT DOESNT BOTHER ME. I KNOW I LOOK NICE. IM PROUD OF THAT. AND IF EXPLAINING HOW I DID IT, HELPS SOMEONE TO SEE THEY DONT NEED PILLS OR SHAKES OR OTHER PSUEDO CRAP TO LOSE WEIGHT ON THEIR OWN ... I THINK THATS AWESOME.

    sorry caps. not retyping it LOL
  • Whitezombiegirl
    Whitezombiegirl Posts: 1,042 Member
    It could be worse. People who didnt know you when you were larger could make all those comments about being you being lucky to be slim or you having a fast metabolism or good genes.

    When you've been restricting or just monitoring and being vigilant to stop at one treat etc.- its not luck, or genetics or metabolism, its self- control. Its gets very annoying.

    Add to that for me being just under 5ft people are judgeing how much i eat, what size i wear and what i weigh aginst thier own 5ft4-6 standards and making comments. At my height, size 0/00 is in proportion and not too skinny. Grrrr...
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  • rjan91
    rjan91 Posts: 194 Member
    I understand what you are saying, but take a moment and be proud of yourself! Accept the compliment then change the subject to something else.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    When I meet an old chum who is still trying to wrap their head around my transformation, I smile and graciously accept the compliment. If I sense some lingering jealousy, I tell them it was very, very hard and it took years. It does not diminish my accomplishment that way and it also takes them off the hook.

    Accepting compliments I believe is important towards body acceptance.

    I don't tolerate diet advice or intrusive questions about how I did it. (Except on MFP. You guys get it). If asked directly I offer a minimum of information and change the subject.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    @ferderickt911 I've been asked if I have cancer. I smile and say, "No, it's all good!"
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  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    rjan91 wrote: »
    I understand what you are saying, but take a moment and be proud of yourself! Accept the compliment then change the subject to something else.

    It becomes a problem when the people complementing won't shut up about it when asked.
  • thelatecomer
    thelatecomer Posts: 17 Member
    I've had a few positive comments, a few statements "you've lost loads of weight" and just one "you need to stop now, you're too thin" (I weigh 10st and am a UK Size 12 FFS). I wouldn't expect someone to comment how fat I was so why acquaintances think it's ok to comment on my weight now, I'm not sure.
  • duddysdad
    duddysdad Posts: 403 Member
    I hate it too. Especially all of the comments about being too thin or looking anorexic. What the heck. I was 25 pounds above being considered underweight. I actually wanted to lose more. I started telling them my doctor is proud of me and says I am healthy and it's safe to lose more weight. I am not telling anyone this time about my weight goals, it's none of their business.
  • neldabg
    neldabg Posts: 1,452 Member
    It does make sense OP. We're all different in what makes us comfortable or not.
    I am personally neutral to compliments and comments. I feel no shame in having been obese before, and I am happy that I managed to lose and maintain a healthy size, and I don't care if people take note or not.
    What does bother me are consistently mean and annoying comments like those mentioned above and on other threads here on MFP, but even then, I've learned to ignore people or return an equally mean comment.
    If it makes you feel better, after my loss, people grew quieter, with perhaps only a handful of people who still might be annoying.
    Same old story to me, some people think i've been from in a serious disease thats why i lose weight, but seriously i never tell them im in a diet to confuse their suspicious minds lol

    Lol. I feel so mean for doing so, but unless people explicitly address my weight loss, I don't say a word. Some people have never said a word about my weight loss, and some of them have indirectly tried to bring up my weight loss, but I never bite.
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    edited January 2017
    neldabg wrote: »
    It does make sense OP. We're all different in what makes us comfortable or not.
    I am personally neutral to compliments and comments. I feel no shame in having been obese before, and I am happy that I managed to lose and maintain a healthy size, and I don't care if people take note or not...
    Same old story to me, some people think i've been from in a serious disease thats why i lose weight, but seriously i never tell them im in a diet to confuse their suspicious minds lol

    Lol. I feel so mean for doing so, but unless people explicitly address my weight loss, I don't say a word. Some people have never said a word about my weight loss, and some of them have indirectly tried to bring up my weight loss, but I never bite.

    Nice. Your confidence and self assurance is probably what is keeping people civil. Unless you were the one to bring it up, then it is obviously private information. "I'd rather not discuss it" is a fine reply to those who are nosy or pry --(or ignoring as you successfully do).

  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    Yes! It's gross and uncomfortable- especially when it's like a male co-worker or something. Eewww- why are we talking about this? I refuse to speak specifics too - if they ask how much weight I have lost I will either say some or a little. If they ask how I just say I am trying to eat a little better. Then I try and change the subject.
  • Sara1791
    Sara1791 Posts: 760 Member
    I've only ever gotten a couple of I-didn't-recognize-yous, a few you-look-greats, & one how'd- you-do-it. And that was enough.
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    I love it when people complement on an outfit I'm wearing or the shape I'm in for my age. For instance, I had on a cute dress the other day and got stopped several times by random people saying I looked adorable in it. I just smiled and replied, "Thank you very much!" It is fun to dress up once in a while.
  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
    Yes, I understand too. It's like I'm not doing it to get attention, I'm doing it to better myself. My biggest pet peeve is people saying "Kudo's to you." I don't know why - I just hate that phrase. And people would keep asking how much I lost. Why? Are we celebrating that I had that much to lose or that I lost it? Either way - again - that's not why I'm doing it.
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