I hate my body

andreabrookelafferty1209
andreabrookelafferty1209 Posts: 1 Member
edited November 15 in Goal: Maintaining Weight
I hate my body
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  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    Me too because it attacks itself needlessly and malfunctions
  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
    Aww. Don't hate your bodies.
  • KatzeDerNacht22
    KatzeDerNacht22 Posts: 200 Member
    Hating your body isn't good for you :(
  • ProsDontDie
    ProsDontDie Posts: 2 Member
    Do something about it ;)
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    Do your hating somewhere else.
  • youdoyou2016
    youdoyou2016 Posts: 393 Member
    edited January 2017
    I get it. I hated it / myself for a long time, too.

    One day I realized that I was just doing life the best that I knew how, and that throughout it all my body was there keeping me going. (My body was a symptom, perhaps like an addiction is for an addict.) This may sound strange, but I started feeling a little sorry for my body -- assuming that it wanted to be healthy and vibrant but couldn't. But I was not blaming myself or feeling guilty. Really, I was doing the best I could. I started feeling grateful and appreciative for my body, taking care of me under some difficult circumstances. That "flipped" a switch for me -- love replaced hate. I am a lot more gentler with myself now. I do the best I can. And, then my body started changing. Miracles happen in a space of love.
  • cadyq
    cadyq Posts: 2 Member
    You should love your body, that needs to inspire you to better it and take care of it!
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I hate my body too, OP.
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    why do you hate your body
    is there parts that you do like
  • FitPhillygirl
    FitPhillygirl Posts: 7,124 Member
    Ok, thanks for sharing. ;)
  • Nevada
    Nevada Posts: 140 Member
    Thanks for sharing, for real. This kind of stuff needs to be worked through and solved to be happy. We all would not be here if we thought our bodies were perfect. I prefer "needs improvement" to hate. Lots of good advice above. Best wishes to you.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    If you hate your body as it is now, then you're the only one who can change it.

    If you are overweight or obese, you are the one who put yourself here, now it is time to undo all the damage you've done. It is NEVER too late, the sooner you start, the sooner you will start seeing improvements. Your future is 100% in your hands, you can waste your time wallowing in regret and self pity and never getting anywhere, or you can pull yourself up from your bootstraps and make today day 1 of the rest of your fabulous life :smile:
  • DancingMoosie
    DancingMoosie Posts: 8,619 Member
    You only have the one, so work with what you've got. Is there something specific you don't like? Change takes hard work. Are you willing to do it?
  • NewGemini130
    NewGemini130 Posts: 219 Member
    Identify three things you like about your body. Appreciate them every day. Could be anything- eyes, that cute freckle, hair color, your pinky toe. Do it, it's fun!
  • Rocknut53
    Rocknut53 Posts: 1,794 Member
    I'm going to tell you the same thing my husband used to tell me: "you're the only one that can do anything about it." Harsh, but true.
  • MagneticGanymede
    MagneticGanymede Posts: 180 Member
    Your words are powerful- positive or negative. Both the words you say to others and the words you say to yourself.
    My favorite CBT exercise- write down your self talk and ask yourself if you would say it to a close friend that you love. If your answer is- no way, that's so harsh and mean- then why is it ok to say that to yourself? I love my body, it's not perfect, I'm not perfect. I love improving myself.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    I hated my body when i was overweight too, who doesn't, right? But i did something about it, and now i am no longer overweight.

    I'm assuming it's your weight you hate??? As you didn't provide any info in your post, all we can do is play guessing games which is no help to anyone...
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    edited January 2017
    But do you like yourself?

    How to deal with your first statement depends on how you answer that question.
  • HappyGrape
    HappyGrape Posts: 436 Member
    I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
    - Martin Luther King, Jr.

    you posted in maintenance. Did you hit your goal weight and you find still need to work on self acceptance? It's pretty common, and you need to work on it. As we all do. There is a lot of looking for improvement areas and looking with critical eye during weight loss. Once you hit the goal, there must be some element of ... letting this critical eye go and learning to live more. Love your life more. Fill your life with things you love, do something for others, stop looking to find things that are wrong.

    @Orphia nailed it with her question
  • trigden1991
    trigden1991 Posts: 4,658 Member
    Strong first post.
  • frannieshack
    frannieshack Posts: 327 Member
    Unfortunately, society teaches us that we are never good enough. We all come in different shapes and sizes, that is what makes this world a wonderful place! Learn to accept yourself as you are now. Focus on your improving health, and your successes.
  • kenyonhaff
    kenyonhaff Posts: 1,377 Member
    Society--specifically Western modernized society--teaches us to hate our bodies.

    We hate them because they don't measure up to an ideal that is Photoshopped, airbrushed, or even animated. Or often subjected to surgery, heavy cosmetics, and camera tricks. Very often it is very specific, (age 21, white, blond, blue eyed, D cup).

    It's the idea that we are only good enough if we measure up to something that actually doesn't exist.

    And if we don't measure up to that, we're supposed to subject our bodies to modification as if they were machines that just need upgrading.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,622 Member
    Strong first post.

    Empathetic 3,241st one.
  • daintyflower526
    daintyflower526 Posts: 3 Member
    I hate it and how I've treated it. I'm 47 years old. At 34 I had to have open heart to fix a hole I had in my heart. I was so upset after that surgery and became addicted to narcotics. I allowed myself to gain upwards of 30 pounds and began having lots of knee problems. During the past 14 months I've had to have both of my knees replaced. Now that I'm a grandmother , I want to be able to be there for my kids and those babies. I've started eating better and exercising more. I still don't like my body but I'm hoping that in time we can enjoy each other again. Good luck to you.
  • Rocknut53
    Rocknut53 Posts: 1,794 Member
    I hated my body. Then I gained a lot of weight and really hated it. Now, I've lost all that weight and discovered that, damn, that old body wasn't so bad after all. I wasn't out of proportion, my boobs weren't too small (I'm sure there would be some dissent over that opinion), my thighs weren't too big, my butt wasn't too big either. It's all perspective. Don't hate your body, do what you can to make yourself feel better whether it's losing some weight, getting in shape or just taking a good hard look at yourself and realizing it's not so bad.
  • nycalling6192
    nycalling6192 Posts: 22 Member
    I also hate my body: it's why I'm busting my butt working out and eating healthy as opposed to gorging myself on Pad Thai and Pizza.

    It's OK to hate your body to an extent, as long as you use that positively to work on yourself.
  • clh72569
    clh72569 Posts: 280 Member
    I hated my obese body. I even hated my body when I achieved goal weight. But now 1.5 years into maintenance my body has stabilized. The wiggly flabby parts are getting firm and I now love my body!
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