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  • kmturtle3
    kmturtle3 Posts: 556
    Just yesteday my MIL looked at me and said "you look scrawny." I tried to deflect it from me and point out that my husband has also lost weight, and she said "well, he looks GOOD. YOU look scrawny." PLEASE. I'm still wearing a size 12 pants for pete's sake. I seriously think that people just have unbelievably skewed opinions on weight and what is actually considered fit and healthy.

    It still doesn't make it any less aggravating whenever someone tries to make you feel crappy over such an incredible accomplishment. We are all doing amazing and healthy things for our bodies. All the lazy folk out there just don't get it.
  • amyb74
    amyb74 Posts: 10
    I have heard it too. I wanna tell them "just because I weigh less than you doesn't mean I'm too thin, your just too fat". That may be rude though so I just shut my mouth and take it as a compliment.
  • SiltyPigeon
    SiltyPigeon Posts: 920 Member
    A customer actually said (referring to me) "Anyone that skinny after having two kids should be shot." She obviously didn't mean for me to hear, but I thanked her for the compliment any ways.

    It's funny how many people will comment about me being "too skinny" even though I am in the "healthy" weight range. Yet no one ever said anything to me about being too fat when I was two pounds away from being "obese". Weird.
  • tsmith6569
    tsmith6569 Posts: 63
    I hear it alot too and am convinced it's mostly jealousy and negativity. I am still over 20 pounds heavier than the low end of the BMI and even if I was too skinny, who has a right to say that to me? No one. Well, MAYBE someone who honestly loves me and cares about me, but this is certainly not that. Haters be hating. I have also noticed you are more popular and well liked the heavier you are (or I was anyway) and again, I think it's negative hatred stemming from jealousy.
  • Kagard11
    Kagard11 Posts: 396 Member
    Never, but I hope someone will by winter!
  • BGabbart
    BGabbart Posts: 173 Member
    I am working so hard toward someone saying, hey are you losing weight. :laugh: Just keep doing what you do and love yourself:heart:
  • katie_kaboom
    katie_kaboom Posts: 42
    I haven't had the pleasure of being told I am too skinny yet as I have just started on my weight loss journey, but I think some of it stems from the fact that certain types of people know how to be supportive of someone who is far from their goals. They don't know how to be supportive of someone who is almost there. Some of this may be jealousy, or just plain cluelessness.

    Anyway, enjoy your success!
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I think we have a fairly distorted view of what a healthy weight is supposed to look like in this country. If you are at a healthy weight for your height/frame and the amount of muscle on you then don't worry about their opinions. If they keep bugging you there is nothing that says you have to tell them you want to lose more either. Your weight/your business. If you're worried they're right I suggest checking with your doctor.
  • jmruef
    jmruef Posts: 824 Member
    My mom told me that i was too skinny - 22 pounds heavier ago. Huhwhat? :noway: On the other hand, I completely get where she's coming from. Once upon a time I weighed 45 pounds less than I do NOW. Um, ew. Skeleton city, thankyouverymuch. I know she's scared of looking at me and seeing that again, and because I'm her child she's always going to have some of that fear and concern, no matter how healthy I am now. (And I truly believe I've got it right this time.)

    So - I'll do what I need to do to get healthy, MAINTAIN when I get there, and enjoy the benefits. :smile:
  • DestinyDarbi
    DestinyDarbi Posts: 260 Member
    I totally think it's jealousy. People say that about my sister ALL the time. She is in healthy range... but WAY skinnier than she used to be. I think it makes some people feel better about themselves to make you feel like you're the one with the "issue" and not them.
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    My weight is still slightly higher than it should be, but sooooo many people have told me how I must be ill and how I will look so wrong if I lose anymore. Most people are jealous they can't do it I reckon, or at least thats what I tell myself.
  • kaytedawg05
    kaytedawg05 Posts: 209
    yes for sure... my ex husband started fussing at me for getting too skinny when i reached 200 lbs... i was like... seriously??? i got like 60 lbs to go!! ppl act all the time like I won't know when to stop, or look at my plate & say things like "is that all you are going to eat?" most of my friends & fam have stopped most of that mess but I'd like to find a guy who understands I can make decisions all by myself... I got along this many years on my own, and always do better without their "Help" & comments...
  • WomanofWorth
    WomanofWorth Posts: 395 Member
    All. The. Time. All the time. Seriously... did I say all the time? LOL

    It is normal and accepted to be fat and unhealthy.

    It is abnormal and unaccepted to be fit and healthy.

    This world has a skewed view. Don't let others' negative attitudes stop you from reaching your goals.

    Seems reverse prejudice goes both ways. This discussion brings this quote to mind:

    "Not everyone will agree with how you change your eating strategy. Some friends, family co-workers and even neighbors will suddenly develop "concerns" they insist you should have. What I find interesting is that MOST people who bring up these concerns never batted even an eye lash when you were eating wheat, corn, soy, GUZZLING soda, MSG, hot dogs, chips, veggie oil which caused you to get allergies, headaches, IBS, arthritis, autoimmune disorders, etc... which may have led to you taking meds and/or become unhealthy and FAT. BUT, as soon as you start to make a move, BAM, they suddenly have "concerns" to remind you of." ~ FitRichWoman
  • kklindsey
    kklindsey Posts: 382 Member
    Hang in there guys, it will stop. I lost all of my weight over 3 years and have had it off for nearly 4 years. I think it was about a year of being my low weight when people stopped saying I didn't need to lose anymore and talking about it all the time. They saw that I didn't gain it all back and I didn't turn into a wild-eyed anorexic. Now they just ***** about my not eating desserts at parties, lol. So they will stop, eventually.
  • jessicamrie11582
    jessicamrie11582 Posts: 9
    just a thought....people talk about you when you pack it on, people say you must be sticking your finger down your throat when you loose it. If people just minded their own business, we would probably all get healthy for the right reasons in the first place. just saying...
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