Hubby is making me feel bad for posing for pics *sorry so lo

so do I............I hope he didnt make her remove her acct........poor lady, sad, really, here shes making positive moves in here life only to have him bring her down.....I hope she reads these replies and know we all support here..............Best wishes, Lloyd

You seem to have completely overlooked the fact that he chose to be horribly demeaning and basically told her what to do. There was no 'discussion' here. There was a nasty, malicious comment used to undermine and demean in order to control his wife. That is atrocious behavior and actually abusive.

It's one thing for spouses to discuss how they use social media. It's quite another to say "Let me stop you from embarassing yourself".

I agree, the way it is worded seems condesending and controlling which is destructive in any relationship, not only that but it is the kind of comment that could destroy self confidence. Bad, bad, bad.

I kind of do see Chris' point too I mean it is different for every relationship... for example in my relationship both of us agree that neither of us should post naked or seminaked photos on the internet. Having said that, regardless of how unhappy I was about a photo I still wouldn't speak to my partner like that.

well he is overreacting, but he is your husband. listen to him, and then explain you side. the situation is so small, just do what he asks if he isn't willing to cave in. after-all, ask yourself, is it worth getting into an argument over? it's not, but congrats on the weight-loss 80lbs is phenomenal.

Keep in mind people we are just hearing 1 side of the story,and have no idea what kind of backstory there could be to this.Just a thought since people seem so quick to vilify him.

Freaking thank you!!

I can't believe that so many people would be willing to jump into the absolute middle of someone's relationship, with only one short paragraph of a story, colored only by one person's perception (whether it was the complete truth or not, WE DON'T KNOW!). So, lets make an assumption here...he IS feeling insecure, and he DID act like an *kitten* because of it. So we (the collective internet) tell her to ignore her insecure husbands feelings and post the pictures anyway?

WTH people???

That's a recipe for disaster...but guess what? None of you really care because you're safe behind YOUR keyboard, while THEY are the ones that are going to deal with the fallout of your irresponsible advice...whether IT WAS ACCURATE OR NOT! So, lets say he DID make her give up her account here. Wouldn't you?! We have a bunch of armchair relationship counsellors, with NO VESTED INTEREST in their relationship. You bet your *kitten* the first thing I'd have told my wife (assuming I did something as assinine as she said he did, out of insecurity) is that if these people are so much more important than ME...enjoy being married to them.

Marriage is about putting each other first...not necessarily before yourself...BUT MOST CERTAINLY BEFORE A BUNCH OF SELF RIGHTEOUS, SELF APPOINTED JUDGES ONLINE THAT HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THE REAL SITUATION WAS.

Good Lord people...

Cris

that's a shame that she deactivated her account but maybe with everything that was going on they wanted to not get 3rd party opinions involved and work through their issue without being swayed by someone who doesn't really know the situation.

Freaking thank you!!

I can't believe that so many people would be willing to jump into the absolute middle of someone's relationship, with only one short paragraph of a story, colored only by one person's perception (whether it was the complete truth or not, WE DON'T KNOW!). So, lets make an assumption here...he IS feeling insecure, and he DID act like an *kitten* because of it. So we (the collective internet) tell her to ignore her insecure husbands feelings and post the pictures anyway?

WTH people???

That's a recipe for disaster...but guess what? None of you really care because you're safe behind YOUR keyboard, while THEY are the ones that are going to deal with the fallout of your irresponsible advice...whether IT WAS ACCURATE OR NOT! So, lets say he DID make her give up her account here. Wouldn't you?! We have a bunch of armchair relationship counsellors, with NO VESTED INTEREST in their relationship. You bet your *kitten* the first thing I'd have told my wife (assuming I did something as assinine as she said he did, out of insecurity) is that if these people are so much more important than ME...enjoy being married to them.

Marriage is about putting each other first...not necessarily before yourself...BUT MOST CERTAINLY BEFORE A BUNCH OF SELF RIGHTEOUS, SELF APPOINTED JUDGES ONLINE THAT HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THE REAL SITUATION WAS.

Good Lord people...

Cris

I don't know where you get off being so high and mighty about this... nobody here is claiming to be a marriage councilor! She asked for our take on it and we gave it! If she didn't want to read what people had to say then she shouldn't have posted it! You are so defensive about this, perhaps you're her husband lol.

I am going to lock this topic as the user has deactivated their account and is therefore unable to respond the comments made on this thread. It also feels a little unethical for members to continue discussing the users personal circumstances when they are no longer registered at MFP.

Thanks for your cooperation,
Ms_Natalie

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