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edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I need some input on this. I've got roommates. A married couple. One is very supportive of my nutrition and exercise (the wife), but her husband is irritated that i don't buy food like breaded chicken, hotdogs, burritos, pizza, corndogs, french fries...basically stuff that he eats and he alone. i buy highly nutritional food and make stuff from scratch. i buy my veggies (oh, i'm vegetarian and he wonders why i don't buy that stuff..yes, i'm buying other things we all can eat but i gear the rest for me), tofu, beans, eggs, chia seeds, cashew/almond milk..you get the picture.

i help out around the house and i still go for my daily walk to get my steps and i always get my goal. i eat healthy and i meet that goal as well, including coming in at the end of the day UNDER my calorie goal, everyday. and i always feel full. and it shows because i've lost 5 lbs in one week.

i'm not changing my habits or nutrition requirements. i'm not going to put poison in my body (processed food) and blow my efforts to bits. he may not care about his health (he's already got signs of impending colon cancer, diabetes, all the nasty stuff), but i do.

i'm very sorry that this is so...negative...on a positive and motovating site. i just wanted to vent and show everyone that no matter what, never sacrifice your health for anything. i can move and plan to.

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  • Posts: 1,263 Member
    Lol, I buy my own junk food, he can too
  • Posts: 8,736 Member
    edited February 2017
    What are the signs of impending colon cancer other than polyps? Processed foods aren't poison btw. You have processed foods in the list of foods you eat.
  • Posts: 3,103 Member
    He will eat that stuff until it kills him. On the bright side you don't have to worry about coming home to find all your veggies gone because if it were chips and dip it would be gone.
  • Posts: 207 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Why is a grown, married man mad at you for not buying him chicken nuggets?

    Lol! My thoughts exactly!!!
  • Posts: 1,695 Member
    Why is your adult roommate (not your spouse, presumably not someone you have any sort of joint finances with) upset that you're not spending your money on food for him or doing his shopping for him? I think you need to work on boundaries and ground rules that go beyond food preferences.

    Also, just because a food isn't nutritionally dense doesn't make it poison.
  • Posts: 1,388 Member
    Why do you have to share food? When I had roommates, we all ate our own stuff. We could care less what the others brought home.
  • Posts: 531 Member
    He can buy his own food.

    Also you should eat all of your calories (except exercise calories, because MFP overestimates), or close to it, every day. MFP already creates a deficit for you, you don't need to create a bigger one, unless you're banking your calories for a big meal at the end of the week or something like that. 5 pounds a week loss is a pretty big loss, unless you're very obese - they say you should aim for 1% of your body weight a week, .5 pounds to 2 pounds (2 pounds if you've got like 100 pounds to lose). Be careful not to burn out.

    Processed food is not poison, and tofu/almond/cashew milk is pretty processed too.
  • Posts: 625 Member
    Why are you buying food for the household? It's a roommate environment, not a family unit.
  • Posts: 1,049 Member
    Does everyone not buy there own food? Why does he care what you buy? Are you cooking for everyone? Just for fun, or as part of your rent? If you cooking for everyone just to be nice, then stop. If you are cooking in lieu of X amount of rent, then yes you do need to cook to their preference because they are paying you to cook.

    You are however, mistaken if you think tofu and cashew milk is not just as processed as nuggets pizza.
  • Posts: 25 Member
    does the couple not buy their own food? why are you feeding these people on your own money
  • Posts: 732 Member
    Lol. So many questions being asked here. I can't be the only one thinking "Why are you living with a married couple?"
  • Posts: 8,423 Member
    edited February 2017
    You buy food for you. They buy food for them. You each eat your own food.
    If you want to shop for food for everyone have a list that everyone adds what they want from the store. Buy stuff off the list without judgement.
    Not that hard. If you can't do it then find different roommates.
    5 lbs a week is not a healthy rate of loss. The maximum reccomended is 2 lbs a week and that is if you are 50+ lb overweight.
  • Posts: 3,452 Member
    captbklee wrote: »
    Lol. So many questions being asked here. I can't be the only one thinking "Why are you living with a married couple?"

    There could be a myriad of reasons, but I know at least in my city/state, it is incredibly expensive to live on one's own.
  • Posts: 3,103 Member
    chocolate_owl wrote: »
    Why is your adult roommate (not your spouse, presumably not someone you have any sort of joint finances with) upset that you're not spending your money on food for him or doing his shopping for him? I think you need to work on boundaries and ground rules that go beyond food preferences.

    Also, just because a food isn't nutritionally dense doesn't make it poison.

    But it is poison. When I eat fatty foods like Burgers, fries and fried chicken I swell up like a tick. That is an obvious sign of food poisoning. :D
  • Posts: 6,644 Member
    :huh:
    Why can't his wife buy his food?
  • Posts: 14,260 Member
    Are you their caretakers? Do you have some sort of agreement to stock chicken nuggets and burritos in exchange for free wi-fi? I don't understand what is going on here.
  • Posts: 477 Member
    So many questions.
  • Posts: 35,719 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Why is a grown, married man mad at you for not buying him chicken nuggets?

    This, and
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    What are the signs of impending colon cancer other than polyps?.

    This??
  • Posts: 225 Member
    Is this a boarding situation? Are they paying you to handle all these things as part of rent? Its not unheard of out here, but usually it applies to high school student who go elsewhere for school... not a married couple who sound physically capable of providing their own food.... May I suggest a mini fridge and hot plate for their room?
  • Posts: 38 Member
    Why are you even buying food for them? I have roommates too but we all buy our own food and only share communal condiments or milk/eggs.
  • Posts: 41,865 Member
    When I had roommates, they bought their own *kitten* and I bought my own *kitten*...
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Why is a grown, married man mad at you for not buying him chicken nuggets?

    And this...^^^
  • Posts: 3,685 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Why is a grown, married man mad at you for not buying him chicken nuggets?

    Why isn't the wife buying his stuff. This is a weird post.
  • Posts: 2,054 Member
    Processed foods aren't poison. They can contain horrible ingredients, but you have to read those ingredients. :smile: You're all adults I'm assuming, so tell him to buy his own corndogs and eat his own way. Maybe someday he'll get his wakeup call and start eating a little more nutritiously!
  • Posts: 80 Member
    Your roommates need to buy their own food. WTF. LOL
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