Right and wrong ways to comment on weight loss

fteale
fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
edited September 30 in Chit-Chat
So in the last months I have had -

"You look amazing" - Great! like this one
"You have completely changed shape" - hmm, are you saying I was a blob before?
"Your mother must be so happy, she was always negative about your weight" - well yes, and yes, but only through her own bonkersness. I was never actually overweight
"Your husband must be thrilled" - yeah. No. WRONG thing to say. My husband loved me just fine as I was, and he loves me the same now, and losing a stone doesn't mean I have suddenly turned into a rampant horny woman, and frankly, it's none of your business anyway.
"You're too thin" - Another WRONG thing to say. No, I have a BMI of about 22.5, and my body fat % is 24. I am not too thin. In fact, I could lose some more fat and still not be too thin.
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  • KellyBurton1
    KellyBurton1 Posts: 529 Member
    Im always getting " you have loss enough weight" I hate that. I still have much more to go :(
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    My personal favorite is, "You've lost weight! What are you doing!?" I wish I had a really great witty response to that one.
  • deenanna
    deenanna Posts: 39
    Welcome to society and the way people behave themselves. People now-a-days have no tact to themselves. They say things without thinking. Don't let it get to you!
  • fridayjustleft04
    fridayjustleft04 Posts: 851 Member
    Like this a lot! I recently got a weird comment. I was asked how much I'd lost, and when I said, the lady says, "wow, I didn't know you were that big". Not a wonderful thing to say. I agree with the husband must be happy one..my boyfriend liked me 45 pounds ago when we got together, he liked me 80 pounds ago in high school, and he likes me now. Weight isn't the deal breaker for everyone. But I'll always take a "you look great!"
  • skinnyminimoni
    skinnyminimoni Posts: 201
    My favorite is "Wow, you've lost weight! I can REALLY tell a difference."
    ...
    so how fat WAS I before this?
  • taso42_DELETED
    taso42_DELETED Posts: 3,394 Member
    Wrong: You look so skinny!
    Right: You're looking lean!
  • JPayne53
    JPayne53 Posts: 235 Member
    You are dead on with the right and wrong ways to compliment someone who's lost X amount of weight!! In fact my boss "complimented" me the other day saying... "Oh! You look so skinny in this picture what happened to last years?" WTF? Even if it's true.. please don't say anything in front of the whole staff at the convention!!
  • audram420
    audram420 Posts: 838 Member
    A girl at work saw me on the myfitnesspal.com website (just joined yesterday) and came to me later and said "oh you look great miss skinny" and I said..."if you can tell i've lost 0.6lbs, then thank you for noticing..." hahaha...I mean really?!?!?
  • nosey_rosey
    nosey_rosey Posts: 380 Member
    My husbands parents actually accused me of "popping pills" because I am losing weight!!! Ugh.. totally not the right way to comment about my weight loss!! Maybe I should tell them I hook it on the weekends too lol!
  • SusanneWhittington
    SusanneWhittington Posts: 339 Member
    I once was asked if I am anorexic when I was 190 lbs at 5'8", I just don't know what to say, it always leaves me speechless. And then the question "How are you doing it" in lowered voice, as if it is an old alchemy secret and when I say exercise I get a huff, like.. no I'm not doin' that, talk again with me when you have an easier solution...
  • katapple
    katapple Posts: 1,108 Member
    haha, I got this one from a friend today after showing her what I looked like before getting pregnant and having kids:

    "you were built like a linebacker compared to now!"

    I know she meant well, but geez! LOL
  • JPayne53
    JPayne53 Posts: 235 Member
    Ha! I'd reply... You look the same! What AREN'T you doing?? :tongue:
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    People usually mean well.
  • JPayne53
    JPayne53 Posts: 235 Member
    My personal favorite is, "You've lost weight! What are you doing!?" I wish I had a really great witty response to that one.

    Haha, I'd reply, "You look the same, what aren't you doing!?" :tongue:
  • arc918
    arc918 Posts: 2,037 Member
    Everyone knows the highest compliment you can pay someone is "I'd hit that!"
  • iambayd
    iambayd Posts: 235
    A customer at work yesterday asked me if things were okay with me because I had lost a lot of weight..um yes..things are better than okay..lol
  • racoomer
    racoomer Posts: 8 Member
    I got "you can tell you have lost, keep it up"... Keep it up? really?
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    My personal favorite is, "You've lost weight! What are you doing!?" I wish I had a really great witty response to that one.


    I do! I reply, eating very little and exercising my *kitten* off. It usually shuts them up!
  • mamagooskie
    mamagooskie Posts: 2,964 Member
    So in the last months I have had -

    "You look amazing" - Great! like this one
    "Your husband must be thrilled" - yeah. No. WRONG thing to say. My husband loved me just fine as I was, and he loves me the same now, and losing a stone doesn't mean I have suddenly turned into a rampant horny woman, and frankly, it's none of your business anyway.
    "You're too thin" - Another WRONG thing to say. No, I have a BMI of about 22.5, and my body fat % is 24. I am not too thin. In fact, I could lose some more fat and still not be too thin.

    I totally get those ones all the time......I agree with you completely!
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    Just recently I got, "Oh, my gosh you look amazing. You suck."

    I'm certain she wasn't exactly kidding.
  • Panda_Jack
    Panda_Jack Posts: 829 Member
    Wrong: Your gut is smaller
    Right: Wow, your junk got bigger!
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    A couple of people have asked how much I've lost, and when I tell them (about 14 lbs) they invariably look horrified that it's so little. I really wasn't that big before. I think I gave off fat vibes!
  • xXxKayleighxXx
    xXxKayleighxXx Posts: 103
    I love when people say,
    Have you lost weight?
    You look great
    You have an amazing figure
    You look really fit and healthy

    However a friend of mine has lost 7 stone and now weighs 154lb, she's 5ft5. Bad things people have said,
    You look disgusting!
    Your face looks really gaunt
    Are you eating properly?
    You look really skinny, actually you could put some weight on
  • xXxKayleighxXx
    xXxKayleighxXx Posts: 103
    I've also got a friend that has recently gone through a divorce. As he has more time now, he has decided that he'd like to get back into cycling as he used to be a fanatic.

    Result, he's lost weight.

    One of his customers noticed and instead of saying how good he looked asked if the divorce had been that rough on him...ouch!
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    Wrong: Your gut is smaller
    Right: Wow, your junk got bigger!

    bwahahahahaha!
  • cjjones007
    cjjones007 Posts: 602
    My personal favorite is, "You've lost weight! What are you doing!?" I wish I had a really great witty response to that one.

    Oh I HATED that one lol - My answer was always:
    "Clearly far worse than I thought before speaking to you since it is not remotely apparent that I have done so..."
    Loved seeing their faces... Then again.. I'm kind of a smart-alec....
  • Dtho5159
    Dtho5159 Posts: 1,054 Member
    I ALWAYS get the "what diet are you doin" like Im gonna tell them to take a pill or something.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Oh yeah, and one woman I know is sure I am having an affair. She keeps asking around my friends for secret details. I just want to sit her down and say "Look at my husband. Seriously. WHY would I be looking elsewhere?".
  • SiltyPigeon
    SiltyPigeon Posts: 920 Member
    My favorite (granted she didn't mean for me to hear) was

    "Anyone that skinny after having two kids should be shot."

    I turned around and said "Awww! Thanks! What a nice compliment!"
  • Shrinking_Xtina
    Shrinking_Xtina Posts: 478 Member
    I hate "Wow you look pretty or prettier now" or when asked my starting weight, "Wow, you were really big, why did you let yourself get that way?" Um do you not understand how hard I'm trying to get it off?!! Plus, I still have a long way to go so these comments make me very vulnerable.
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