Unsupportive partners/spouses?

ericad2012 wrote: »

I loved reading each of your comments!
Im a yoyo dieter, i have lost and gained a lot in the last couple of years in 2013 i lost 80lbs with the help of MFP. 2014 i had with my first child, then in 2016 i had my second child. Now im back to where I started and my husband is so unspportive. If I even mention loosing weight he is quick to tell me whatever im doing is totally wrong. Ita frustrating I dont have support, but I think im motivated to proove him wrong!
Goodluck to everyone!

i'm sorry. but keep at it and use whatever you can for motivation.

sjwert wrote: »

I'm dealing with this right now. We moved in together not to long ago. He's a chef, so everything is about food. If I don't eat something he makes, he makes me feel guilty like I don't support him.
Recently when I noticed my weight just kept climbing I finally decided to just say no. If he got upset, sorry dude. You'd be more upset if I died young because of my weight.
It been rough, he says he's all for me losing weight, but complains when I don't eat dinner with him, or go out to eat with him, or have a beer with him, or go to the gym.
Any suggestions on making him understand how important being healthy and losing weight means to me?

Oooh a chef. Could you put a spin on this and challenge him to cook more in line with your diet? Like find some recipes and be like "hey baby, wanna make this up for me?"

My husband is supportive but his own food choices sometimes rub off on me. I do have a history of ED so when he sees me weighing food and anxious to burn off calories he immediately thinks I'm headed downhill. I'd love for him to join me at the gym but with such a young kid at home one of us has to usually stay behind. He's not motivated to go so he keeps our child. And that's his excuse for not going. As if we don't have family who practically begs to keep the kid

He unintentionally tries to sabotage me as well. If it's been a long week he'll ask me to skip that gym day because he wants to spend time. Or let's go out to eat because we're doing well. Or bringing me my favorite sugar loaded frozen drink because he was thinking about me, it's hot and the baby was probably giving me a hard time. He tells me I'm perfect how I am (I'm not) but on the other hand he does celebrate my losses and accomplishments with me. Do I think he's purposely sabotaging me? Not at all. But if he realized how tempting and damaging those tokens of affection were that'd be great.

He's admitted today that he needs to make a lifestyle change. So fingers crossed we can find some common ground and start this journey together

Wow, I knew my boyfriend was great at being supportive, but I really feel for some of you. I truly do.

I just want those of you struggling to realize that there is a guy out there who WILL support you, who WILL encourage you. Who will think you look great now, and look great then.

Maybe its the guy you are with now, maybe its not. Sometimes it just takes time to find your groove with your SO. Sometimes there is just no groove.

Only you know.