This made me feel bad. Any thoughts?
kiiibbb112253
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So yesterday was my daughter Kimberlys 8th birthday and because my wife is on a business trip, I went to my daughter's school and ate lunch with her. She has a group of friends that I know somewhat decently (they were all going to see beauty and the beast that evening). I saw that the school was selling these GIANT (I mean absolutely massive) chocolate chip cookies. Well I gave each of the girls 2 dollars to go and buy a cookie (No worries, my wife and their mom's are friends). A few minutes later, they all came bag and dug in to their enormous treats. Then this really overweight kid comes over and asks my daughter for a piece of his cookie. Apparently his name was Hopper and he was mean to the girls, but I didn't find out about that until later. I'm thinking that Hopper is one of her friends, but Kimberly said no. She said it politely too. Hopper then tells me to make Kimberly give him a piece of her cookie. I told him that it was her birthday, and it was her special treat and gave him 2 dollars to get his own. The other girls laughed and he went to buy a cookie. A few munching minutes later, hopper comes back and asks Kimberlys friend Sara Bell for a piece of her cookie. Sara said no and laughed. Hopper then asked me to force Sara Bell to give him a piece. I said that it was Sara's cookie because she was celebrating Kimberlys birthday. He then GETS MAD at me and tells me that he should be celebrating too. My patience was starting to go away. I told him that I had already givin him money, and that he already had a cookie. He then goes and gets a teacher, who I guess was his mother. Kimberly started crying. Hoppers mom told me that I was being unfair because I gave the other girls cookies and only bought one for Hopper. I then ended up giving hopper 4 more dollars to get two more cookies. Kimberly was devastated. I feel bad. Any thoughts?
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First what's it matter if the kid was over weight or not?
You were the adult you should have said no and stuck with your response and not been bullied into getting more cookies by this kid and his mom9 -
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First what's it matter if the kid was Iver weight or not?
You were the adult you should have said no and stuck with your response and not been bullied into getting more cookies by thia kid and his mom
It's because he was overweight. I am also struggling with my weight, so I know that he probably felt bad when I said he had already had a cookie. I mean he was practically begging, and it made me feel bad because I could somewhat relate (In a non rude sort of way). I guess I gave him more money because I didn't want to embarrass my daughter anymore. She hates that kind of attention that Hopper had put on her.0 -
You didn't have to give the kid anything, but you chose to give him 2 bucks for a cookie. That was nice of you. Giving him more than that was a mistake. The lesson you taught your daughter, her friends, and that kid was that misbehaving gets you more cookies, while being your daughter gets you less. I'm not surprised that she cried.13
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I would have pulled Hopper's mom aside and told her to go pound sand up her as s.
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you didn't have to give the walk up kid a thing.5
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Maybe she named him after this guy
Ha ha hilarious! My first thought too!
To the original poster, well, you made a little mistake. You were a people pleaser (which is a MAJOR struggle for me too). If I were you, I would apologize to your daughter and tell her that you blew it and you're sorry. Tell her you caved to pressure from a couple of jerks and set a bad example. She'll forgive you in a second (because she loves you!) and it will be an example for her of how to accept responsibility for a mistake and move on.
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You should have bought the 2nd and 3rd cookies yourself and spit on them before giving one to him and one to his mom.2
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Just lick them, that's what my kids do when asked to share6
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Sounds like his mother is the one who needs a lesson. SMH....4
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ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »Sounds like his mother is the one who needs a lesson. SMH....
I like your user name
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Carbkiller1970 wrote: »
That's a wise chalkboard0 -
They must have been some huge cookies for $2 each!1
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... and continued with a mention of this behavior (her endorsement/support of her child's extortion) to the school administrators.TheRoadDog wrote: »I would have pulled Hopper's mom aside and told her to go pound sand up her as s.
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I am confused. You bought each girl a cookie, but this kid somehow deserved 3 cookies?
With his crappy attitude he didn't deserve 1 cookie, but I understand 1 to keep your daughter from being embarrassed. I don't see why 3 is necessary and why the teacher/mom and kid were able to con you into that. I would call the school and complain that this teacher is showing special treatment to her child and putting other kids at a disadvantage because of it. Likely your daughter was worried about repercussions from a teacher and that is screwed up when that teacher is looking out for 1 child only.
it's new math
that's all I can figure1 -
Hopper clearly has some issues. Sorry that happened on your kid's birthday.
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I would NOT have given in for a second cookie after he was a brat!3
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The only problem that, I see here's that; he brought too much money!
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I would have asked Hopper's mom for my $2 back.
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Carbkiller1970 wrote: »ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »Sounds like his mother is the one who needs a lesson. SMH....
I like your user name
Thanks!
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thesunmoonandstars wrote: »All I can think about is a movie where this little kid goes running after the adult screaming, "Give me my two dollars" while on a bicycle. Can't remember which one it is.
Unfortunately this bully just got his bad behavior reinforced. I understand not wanting a child to be left out and so you bought him a cookie, and included him. Don't feel bad. I just hope that your daughter doesn't continue to get bullied by the "give me your lunch money" bully. Boundaries. I would've told that mother to mind her own business or buy her kid the cookie if she's worried about fairness.
that was "better off dead" the kid wanted his $2 because the guy owed him for his paper route. he would shout" my $2 dollars"
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You did what you felt was right under the circumstances, but if I have done the math right you paid this kid 6 dollars so he could have 3 GIANT cookies.
You were conned my friend, most of us are like you, we would try to do the best we can when the unexpected happens and no one wants to upset a kid but he conned you and was rewarded for rude behaviour.
He is obviously used to getting his own way and his parents should have taught him better manners it is rude to butt in on other people when they are having a meal, it is very rude to beg for food from said people.
Don't feel bad you were being a good dad, you are not responsible for feeding random kids who happen to wander over to you.3 -
I love random
threads on chit chat! They don't happen often enough any more! 3 -
I would have told the parent/teacher that you had already given him money to buy one and shouldnt have to buy more to keep him from being a bully. you arent there to keep every child happy.I would have told her she can raise he child how she wants but you arent going to give in to him or any other child next time.0
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I don't understand how it is unfair that each girl got one cookie (including the birthday girl) but unfair that Hopper "only" got one cookie? That mother is terrible and is doing a great disservice to her child. The only way I could see anything as being unfair was if Hopper was the only child in your daughter's class that didn't get a cookie but that was not the case. I'm curious if Hopper told a different story to his mother than what actually happened.0
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Let's see, who's the adult here? You said these were 8-year old kids? You said Hopper was a bully? Well, looks like you were bullied by this 8-year old and his bully mom. The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree!2
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kiiibbb112253 wrote: »So yesterday was my daughter Kimberlys 8th birthday and because my wife is on a business trip, I went to my daughter's school and ate lunch with her. She has a group of friends that I know somewhat decently (they were all going to see beauty and the beast that evening). I saw that the school was selling these GIANT (I mean absolutely massive) chocolate chip cookies. Well I gave each of the girls 2 dollars to go and buy a cookie (No worries, my wife and their mom's are friends). A few minutes later, they all came bag and dug in to their enormous treats. Then this really overweight kid comes over and asks my daughter for a piece of his cookie. Apparently his name was Hopper and he was mean to the girls, but I didn't find out about that until later. I'm thinking that Hopper is one of her friends, but Kimberly said no. She said it politely too. Hopper then tells me to make Kimberly give him a piece of her cookie. I told him that it was her birthday, and it was her special treat and gave him 2 dollars to get his own. The other girls laughed and he went to buy a cookie. A few munching minutes later, hopper comes back and asks Kimberlys friend Sara Bell for a piece of her cookie. Sara said no and laughed. Hopper then asked me to force Sara Bell to give him a piece. I said that it was Sara's cookie because she was celebrating Kimberlys birthday. He then GETS MAD at me and tells me that he should be celebrating too. My patience was starting to go away. I told him that I had already givin him money, and that he already had a cookie. He then goes and gets a teacher, who I guess was his mother. Kimberly started crying. Hoppers mom told me that I was being unfair because I gave the other girls cookies and only bought one for Hopper. I then ended up giving hopper 4 more dollars to get two more cookies. Kimberly was devastated. I feel bad. Any thoughts?
Cookie Math is Hard!2
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